I have asked about this subject before, and I was disappointed by the responses. Please do not be rude, condescending, mean, or cruel. Remember, Christ loves people. Christ is compassion. I need help desperately. This is most certainly NOT a joke. I am not a troll. I am a real man with real feelings. My wife is a real woman with real feelings. I ask you to treat this subject matter very, very seriously. I ask you- no, I implore you- please be open minded. Please be slow to judgment, because you may find yourself very swift to judge us. Think about this- what if I were your blood relative, and I were in this situation? Would you still respond with quick judgments and condemnation, or would you, instead, reach out in love and respect to me? Please- treat me as if I am your brother.
My wife and I have been married three years. When we first met, I knew nothing about this topic. About six months after meeting my wife, she confessed something to me. She said that she had an intimate encounter with an animal. The way that she spoke of it, I was under the impression that it was just a one time thing. I thought that she was ashamed, embarrassed, and that it would never happen again.
Later on, she said that the feelings for having intimacy with animals returned at times. I told her that we would pray about it if that ever came up.
Just within the past few weeks, my wife confessed that she had an encounter of a sexual nature with an animal. Then tonight, she confessed to two other encounters. These three encounters have happened while we have been married. I feel disturbed, hurt, and a little bit betrayed. However, I told her that I appreciated her telling me the truth now.
My wife does not see eye to eye with me on this issue. I told her that she is sinning. She refuses to see it as a sin. I have invited her to come with me to church, but she will not come. We both have social anxiety, but I suspect that she doesn't want to go to church for fear of being found out or judged harshly. At least one person suggested (on this very Forum) that my wife should be killed. God forbid. She is a HUMAN BEING. She is a PERSON. I do not want any harm to come to her! I love her! But I cannot speak with anyone about this, because she asked me to keep this a secret. She is afraid of being found out and rejected by her family and friends. She says that people are born gay. She says that she was born this way. She told me that she has always had sexual attraction to animals. She was exposed to pornography at a very young age, and I think that it may have twisted her mind. I do not know what to do anymore! We have discussed divorce. My wife wants to have animals for the purposes of sex. I have told her no, but she is saying that she is going to do it anyway. Another major problem: she wants children, and I don't.
Please help me. I am afraid that this is going to end the marriage, and I do not want that to happen. My wife is suicidal, and she is deeply despondent every single day. I also struggle with severe, terrible depression. Please help me. What should I do? What would you do if you were in my shoes? Please help. My wife just literally sat down next to me right now as I am typing, and she asked me to kill her. She is suicidal. I am very, very, very scared. What can we do? Will you please please pray for us? Thank you for being kind. Please respond with kindness and understanding. Please don't condemn us anymore.