I would like an honest and non-joking answer from you guys because this subject is really hard to talk about and it's been plaguing my mind for months now.
I've had this feeling lately that i'm worried that i'm going to ejaculate. It plagues my mind and consumes my thoughts. It has not actually happened yet, but when i think about the possibility a little bit, i keep thinking that it might happen and then my mind (potentially) almost wills it to happen or thinks it will happen.
I know that to ejaculate it takes stimulation, but i think i'm really worried that something is going to slightly arouse me, and then even before i get an erection, i will ejaculate.
This is making me terrified of sex, or to even go quite a few moves previous, it is making me nervous when i'm with my girlfriend. We are christian and we haven't had sex, but we kiss occasionally and hug and that can give me an erection, or at least a semi-erection and i worry that when i'm aroused i won't be able to control it and i'll ejaculate.
I have had a couple of instances lately where i will just be sitting with some friends or with my girlfriend and i think about this whole thing and then there will just be this sudden shock in my system that says "it might happen now!" and then i get a hot flash in my body and from what it feels like in my groin as well. Then i feel like it will actually happen and i have to control it.
But to be honest, i don't know how to control it and even if it doesn't happen, the feeling or the thought lingers in my mind and in my body all the time. I also feel like any sort of stimulation might set my mind going on it and it'll build up without my help.
Please do not suggest masturbation. I used to masturbate, i don't anymore, or at least try not to. I believe it's wrong, and i believe it's not being holy and i'm abusing my relationship with my girlfriend. There have been times in the past few months where the pressure has gotten so much that i feel that i must masturbate and i have, but then i feel awful, shallow, really guilty and i feel like i have no control over this issue - that it has control over me.
I just want to know if any of you guys can help me, make any suggestions, anything like that that will help me. I've looked up stuff on premature ejaculation but 99% of all that stuff is about actually having sex. There is very little about being a mid-20's guy, who's not married yet, isn't having sex and is struggling with these thoughts.
This whole thing seems really ridiculous sometimes to me. I mean, of course i'm not going to prematurely ejaculate while i'm just out somewhere with my girlfriend, or with some friends, or at work. I've gone 24 years of my life and it hasn't happened before, but i can't shake the feeling that it might happen. Am i crazy, or what? I would appreciate only helpful answers. Please no making fun of, or ridiculing.
