Confessional,
you're completely right, nobody has been promised a perfect mate will show up at the door. If it happens, then praise the Lord! But is seems most of us live under the old saying that the Lord helps those who help themselves.
No need for confusion. Men have been making the effort to find a good wife since time on this earth began. Fair warning, the Good Book says a good woman is rare as rubies.
Hope your search meets success.