Age gaps

[Amy]

Thanks Janine, I appreciate you looking after me, but like I said many times before: I wasn't looking for advice.

I was looking for a discussion on the topic. I pretty much knew I would never be with him anyway, and if I was going to be with him, I was going to wait until I was 18. Well, I'm nearing my 18th birthday now and while I still care about him, I've decided that he's not someone I would want to be with. I just enjoy being friends with him.

So... hopefully we're all done lecturing Amy LOL

[janine]

Any time your underage self speculates about any sort of romantic relationship with anybody, lectures will be an inevitable result. 

[Amy]

By the way, sorry for the delay in replies. I've been so busy this past year. I don't get on here much any more, which is sad, because I love this place.

Anyway, all in good humor: Lecturing minors is a bad habit to have. My boss has actually threatened to fire someone for lecturing me about things because I'm "a minor" (still don't know how she found out about that... I never told her) LOL

[JohnDB]

The May-September romances I have heard of before.

Even met a young woman who admitted she likes older guys. She was pretty and all...and I found out after the fact that she had a small crush on me...but no matter...whe wasn't my type.

I was working with a guy who actually was living with a very young woman. (yeah they were shacking up) He was worried about it all the time too. He was getting older and was having a hard time keeping up with her. He was scared she was gonna leave him for a younger guy all the time.
He is looking at retiring in fifteen years or so....her career is getting off to a great start and she will be in the prime of hers when he goes to retire.

All of those people that she works with are a constant source of worry for him. Poor fellow...he has what a lot of guys idealize. (I don't...I prefer someone my own age) and yet he is filled with worry and strife about the whole thing. Fear of rejection is one of the worst fears there is...it can ruin a relationship.

Oh well...his boat and not mine.

[chosenone]

The other thing is dying. My dad married a lady 24 years younger than him and when he died she was still only in her 40's. She is 57 now and still alone.

Men die on average 2 or 3 years sooner anyway so the ideal may be for women to marry men who are slightly younger than them. lol.(like I did)

I have never had any interest in much older man although when I was 15 I did have quite a serious relationship with a 23 year old. he was a nice guy.