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Am I doing right?
« on: July 01, 2010, 11:31:06 PM »
I am single Christian and in the Lord for 8 years

And in my office complex,  I see a girl every morning and in return she also looks at me.

The question is she isn't a believer and I don't want to take this matter seriously but also I can't ignore her because I may hurt her.

I haven't talked to her about this because we don't talk at all instead wish each other.

Am I doing right by staying where I am, I mean being in my limits because a believer and an unbeliever cannot join together.

Or Should I completely ignore her and hurt her?

I am confused

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Am I doing right?
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Re: Am I doing right?
« Reply #1 on: July 02, 2010, 05:08:42 AM »
Why cant you just treat her the same way as you treat all the other people where you work? Just be polite and say hello but leave it at that.

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« Reply #2 on: July 02, 2010, 08:47:51 AM »
I am single Christian and in the Lord for 8 years

And in my office complex,  I see a girl every morning and in return she also looks at me.

The question is she isn't a believer and I don't want to take this matter seriously but also I can't ignore her because I may hurt her.

I haven't talked to her about this because we don't talk at all instead wish each other.

Am I doing right by staying where I am, I mean being in my limits because a believer and an unbeliever cannot join together.

Or Should I completely ignore her and hurt her?

I am confused

Hey, Mr. Jonah! Why don't you go for it? So what she isn't a believer? If she's not gonna try to tear you down because you are a believer in Christ, then you should go for it! Don't write off what could potentially be the best thing to ever happen to you just because you two don't share religious beliefs. If you write this woman off solely because she doesn't share your beliefs, then, to be 1,000,000,000,000% honest, you're no better than people who kill in the name of their religion, such as people who kill others because they disagree with their beliefs:

Solaris Worshipper: My god is the most powerful being of all!

Non-believer: I do not believe that

Solaris Worshipper: WHAT!!!!! Now you die!

*Solaris' disciple kills the non-believer*

I did that mini-sketch to show that the guy who disagreed with Solaris' disciple had to pay merely because he didn't agree with the disciple's beliefs. What I'm saying is, don't make someone pay just because they don't share your religious beliefs...

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Re: Am I doing right?
« Reply #3 on: July 02, 2010, 09:19:16 AM »
I am single Christian and in the Lord for 8 years

And in my office complex,  I see a girl every morning and in return she also looks at me.

The question is she isn't a believer and I don't want to take this matter seriously but also I can't ignore her because I may hurt her.

I haven't talked to her about this because we don't talk at all instead wish each other.

Am I doing right by staying where I am, I mean being in my limits because a believer and an unbeliever cannot join together.

Or Should I completely ignore her and hurt her?

I am confused

Hey, Mr. Jonah! Why don't you go for it? So what she isn't a believer? If she's not gonna try to tear you down because you are a believer in Christ, then you should go for it! Don't write off what could potentially be the best thing to ever happen to you just because you two don't share religious beliefs. If you write this woman off solely because she doesn't share your beliefs, then, to be 1,000,000,000,000% honest, you're no better than people who kill in the name of their religion, such as people who kill others because they disagree with their beliefs:

Solaris Worshipper: My god is the most powerful being of all!

Non-believer: I do not believe that

Solaris Worshipper: WHAT!!!!! Now you die!

*Solaris' disciple kills the non-believer*

I did that mini-sketch to show that the guy who disagreed with Solaris' disciple had to pay merely because he didn't agree with the disciple's beliefs. What I'm saying is, don't make someone pay just because they don't share your religious beliefs...


 The reason why he is rightly not interested in a non believer, is because God tells us not to, and believe me it is for a very good reason. Didnt you say your dad is a pastor and you really didnt know that?

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« Reply #4 on: July 02, 2010, 10:16:10 AM »
I am single Christian and in the Lord for 8 years

And in my office complex,  I see a girl every morning and in return she also looks at me.

The question is she isn't a believer and I don't want to take this matter seriously but also I can't ignore her because I may hurt her.

I haven't talked to her about this because we don't talk at all instead wish each other.

Am I doing right by staying where I am, I mean being in my limits because a believer and an unbeliever cannot join together.

Or Should I completely ignore her and hurt her?

I am confused

Hey, Mr. Jonah! Why don't you go for it? So what she isn't a believer? If she's not gonna try to tear you down because you are a believer in Christ, then you should go for it! Don't write off what could potentially be the best thing to ever happen to you just because you two don't share religious beliefs. If you write this woman off solely because she doesn't share your beliefs, then, to be 1,000,000,000,000% honest, you're no better than people who kill in the name of their religion, such as people who kill others because they disagree with their beliefs:

Solaris Worshipper: My god is the most powerful being of all!

Non-believer: I do not believe that

Solaris Worshipper: WHAT!!!!! Now you die!

*Solaris' disciple kills the non-believer*

I did that mini-sketch to show that the guy who disagreed with Solaris' disciple had to pay merely because he didn't agree with the disciple's beliefs. What I'm saying is, don't make someone pay just because they don't share your religious beliefs...


 The reason why he is rightly not interested in a non believer, is because God tells us not to, and believe me it is for a very good reason. Didnt you say your dad is a pastor and you really didnt know that?

Maybe I'm misinterpreting this verse but doesn't it say somewhere in the NT that we're not supposed to judge?

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Re: Am I doing right?
« Reply #5 on: July 02, 2010, 10:36:21 AM »
I am single Christian and in the Lord for 8 years

And in my office complex,  I see a girl every morning and in return she also looks at me.

The question is she isn't a believer and I don't want to take this matter seriously but also I can't ignore her because I may hurt her.

I haven't talked to her about this because we don't talk at all instead wish each other.

Am I doing right by staying where I am, I mean being in my limits because a believer and an unbeliever cannot join together.

Or Should I completely ignore her and hurt her?

I am confused

Hey, Mr. Jonah! Why don't you go for it? So what she isn't a believer? If she's not gonna try to tear you down because you are a believer in Christ, then you should go for it! Don't write off what could potentially be the best thing to ever happen to you just because you two don't share religious beliefs. If you write this woman off solely because she doesn't share your beliefs, then, to be 1,000,000,000,000% honest, you're no better than people who kill in the name of their religion, such as people who kill others because they disagree with their beliefs:

Solaris Worshipper: My god is the most powerful being of all!

Non-believer: I do not believe that

Solaris Worshipper: WHAT!!!!! Now you die!

*Solaris' disciple kills the non-believer*

I did that mini-sketch to show that the guy who disagreed with Solaris' disciple had to pay merely because he didn't agree with the disciple's beliefs. What I'm saying is, don't make someone pay just because they don't share your religious beliefs...


 The reason why he is rightly not interested in a non believer, is because God tells us not to, and believe me it is for a very good reason. Didnt you say your dad is a pastor and you really didnt know that?

Maybe I'm misinterpreting this verse but doesn't it say somewhere in the NT that we're not supposed to judge?
 

I dont say that we are to judge non believers, but that we arent to go out with them or marry them.

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« Reply #6 on: July 02, 2010, 12:01:36 PM »
Here's an article from a contributor to the Grace Centered site. It covers quite a bit of this topic matter.
 ::reading::
http://www.gracecentered.com/unequally_yoked.htm

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« Reply #7 on: July 02, 2010, 04:02:30 PM »
Hi Jonah,
 Treat her with love as you would do any human being. You don't have to ignore her or not speak to her because she is not a believer. But yes, when it comes to dating and marriage, God has commanded us to not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever so just keep that in mind. Have good conversation with her - let her know about the love of Jesus. Let her know what He has done in your life. She's either going to want to know more so she can become a believer, be your friend just because she likes you, or move around.

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« Reply #8 on: September 04, 2010, 11:50:11 PM »
Stefanie said it right,
Pray for this person, and your witness, know what you believe and be open to thje Holy spirit to teach you what to say when the time comes.
you can't do better than that.

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« Reply #9 on: September 06, 2010, 04:14:59 PM »
I am single Christian and in the Lord for 8 years

And in my office complex,  I see a girl every morning and in return she also looks at me.

The question is she isn't a believer and I don't want to take this matter seriously but also I can't ignore her because I may hurt her.

I haven't talked to her about this because we don't talk at all instead wish each other.

Am I doing right by staying where I am, I mean being in my limits because a believer and an unbeliever cannot join together.

Or Should I completely ignore her and hurt her?

I am confused

Hey, Mr. Jonah! Why don't you go for it? So what she isn't a believer? If she's not gonna try to tear you down because you are a believer in Christ, then you should go for it! Don't write off what could potentially be the best thing to ever happen to you just because you two don't share religious beliefs. If you write this woman off solely because she doesn't share your beliefs, then, to be 1,000,000,000,000% honest, you're no better than people who kill in the name of their religion, such as people who kill others because they disagree with their beliefs:

Solaris Worshipper: My god is the most powerful being of all!

Non-believer: I do not believe that

Solaris Worshipper: WHAT!!!!! Now you die!

*Solaris' disciple kills the non-believer*

I did that mini-sketch to show that the guy who disagreed with Solaris' disciple had to pay merely because he didn't agree with the disciple's beliefs. What I'm saying is, don't make someone pay just because they don't share your religious beliefs...


 The reason why he is rightly not interested in a non believer, is because God tells us not to, and believe me it is for a very good reason. Didnt you say your dad is a pastor and you really didnt know that?

Maybe I'm misinterpreting this verse but doesn't it say somewhere in the NT that we're not supposed to judge?

C'mon man.....the bible says blatantly........"Do not be unequally yoked" .  The End.
Doesn't mean he should ignore her......quite the opposite.......act friendly and let your light shine.

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« Reply #10 on: September 29, 2010, 12:34:43 PM »
Maybe she'll convert if you date her. I knew nothing about Jesus when i met my Christian boyfriend (4 years ago) What's wrong with going out to dinner? A single date is neither necessarily sexual or a binding contract. Maybe if you're in a close working environment it would be a bad idea to confuse that professional relationship, but at the end of the day don't be afraid to socialise...or even go for a meal/drink/date with people outside the faith, even if it is only once - don't do things you know are wrong but don't isolate and cocoon yourself from the world then wonder why you only have Christian friends and don't know how to talk to or understand how to bring non-Christians to the faith.

Dating a Christian man should be such a revelation for her she sees the good Christianity does, as opposed to a lot of the bad the media likes to shout about.

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« Reply #11 on: September 30, 2010, 03:34:47 AM »
It is common enough for a single guy to notice an attractive single woman...and vice versa.

Then if you and she were to have lunch together a couple of times to get more acquainted with each other...it really wouldn't be an issue.

More than likely she isn't half the woman you think she is. Sure, she can appear attractive by many of her attributes and characteristics but...if she is not a Christian then you two won't have all that much in common. She may not be into the "party" lifestyle but...that doesn't mean that you two at core are going to share the same heart. More often than not non-believers are extremely attractive...often more so than believers.

witnessing dating really doesn't work...never has and never will.

Granted there will be those on here that say to "Shun the non-believer, shunnnnnnnnn" But that sort of thing is as ridiculous as it sounds.

Invite her to Church, if you like, and watch her reaction.


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« Reply #12 on: October 01, 2010, 07:40:38 AM »
It is common enough for a single guy to notice an attractive single woman...and vice versa.

Then if you and she were to have lunch together a couple of times to get more acquainted with each other...it really wouldn't be an issue.

More than likely she isn't half the woman you think she is. Sure, she can appear attractive by many of her attributes and characteristics but...if she is not a Christian then you two won't have all that much in common. She may not be into the "party" lifestyle but...that doesn't mean that you two at core are going to share the same heart. More often than not non-believers are extremely attractive...often more so than believers.

witnessing dating really doesn't work...never has and never will.

Granted there will be those on here that say to "Shun the non-believer, shunnnnnnnnn" But that sort of thing is as ridiculous as it sounds.

Invite her to Church, if you like, and watch her reaction.



You know what they say? There's always a first. I believe that my wife and I would fit your description of witnessing dating. It was because of her and the way she lived and that she was witnessing to me in our relationship that I was saved.

Shouldn't say "never has and never will." Never isn't always a reality.

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« Reply #13 on: October 01, 2010, 11:14:55 AM »
I was using a generalization & norm. This of course excludes special instances. More times than not though we read about these mixed marriages not workin out.

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Re: Am I doing right?
« Reply #14 on: October 01, 2010, 05:39:23 PM »
I am single Christian and in the Lord for 8 years

And in my office complex,  I see a girl every morning and in return she also looks at me.

The question is she isn't a believer and I don't want to take this matter seriously but also I can't ignore her because I may hurt her.

I haven't talked to her about this because we don't talk at all instead wish each other.

Am I doing right by staying where I am, I mean being in my limits because a believer and an unbeliever cannot join together.

Or Should I completely ignore her and hurt her?

I am confused
You should treat her like she's a human being. Be nice to her.

You don't have to date her.