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cs80918

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Women overwhelming want a taller man. 

Men want a woman with a pretty face or nice body or both.


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Offline fcadcock

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Judging from personal experiences, it's men.  How else do you explain women agreeing to go out with someone as ugly as me?  rofl

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Meh.  I don't care if the guy is tall or not.  I definitely have to be attracted to him though.  I like really strong manly guys so the "pretty boy" look rarely gets my attention.  The scrawny small shouldered guy also gets a pass from me.

I think we all have different things we like :)

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I think it is more of a personal thing than a male/female thing.

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I'm gonna agree with DaveW.

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In general (and there are always exceptions), I would say that a man is more attracted by physical features, at least  initially, and a woman by the mans character, how he treats her, his sense of homour, kindness etc etc.
Thats why you can often see attractive women with quite plain men, but you rarely see a good looking guy with a plain lady. My husband isnt really my type physically, he is tall and slim wheras I used to like the more stocky rugby player type man(not a muscle man, cant bear that)but I was attracted to him immediately by his character and personality and patience and his laid  back relaxed personality. Not to say I dont find him physically attractive, because I really do, but he just wasnt the physical type that I would have gone for years ago.
Now a really good looking man would usually put me right off, because so many really good looking men are arrogant with it, and arrogant men are a total turn off for me.

I think this could show why porn mags for women with men in them never took off, wheras romance novels are so popular with women.  We are attracted by different things generally.

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I only saw my husband on a fuzzy cam before I met him in person.

When I saw him, I was shocked at how short he was! Really wasn't expecting him to only be a couple inches taller than me, total opposite of what I had always been attracted to.

I saw him standing behind a glass door holding a rose in his hand, I told him I was going to pack light and I tripped over 3 of my luggage's when I saw his face. He looked so nervous. I said to myself, you like it, you don't like it, you are going to marry him.

His first memory of me was my fluorescent green gum in my mouth. He has this obsession with gum and knew I was his when he saw it in my teeth when I smiled at him.

Neither of us was what we had expected, we were even better.  ::smile::


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Definitely men. But women do care about your clothes and how you smell. If you dress decent, smell good and make them laugh you can be a troll and still get a girl.
« Last Edit: Sat Dec 31, 2011 - 00:40:08 by Carwhisperer »

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I think it is more of a personal thing than a male/female thing.

I agree. But for the sake of conversation, I think women actually care a lot of about looks contrary to popular belief. Women enjoy a man who is shape, nice smile, nice hair or clean bald head, nice eyes. I think the difference (generally) between the avg man and avg woman is that women can endure the change that comes with age more gracefully. Men that I met do care (about looks intially), sure, but I think they are more into looks when it comes to a matter of display. The prettier she is makes him look better. But for mere attractiveness, men just enjoy women! As long as she is clean and has most of her teeth, she seems to be a winner (if she has some sense of course). This is general, please no one get offended. And of course I am not speaking for anyone, just something I've seen in my few years on this earth...


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I actually dig shorter men. I'm all of 5'3" and some change, so, with heels on, I get to about 5'6". A guy who is like no taller than 5'7" is great to me. I am a dancer (not professionally, but I do my thing) and I like to dance with a guy who I am on equal playing field with. My son's dad is a tall guy (almost 6'4"), so I don't discriminate.

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I'm sure that this [attraction to physical qualities] is something that can be important to both men and women, depending on the individual, of course.

But even if the woman is very attractive, I'm equally interested in the total sum of who and what she is with regard to her personality and the disposition of her heart.

Is she kind and loving? Does she have a healthy sense of humor? Is she fun? Is she resilient and positive? Is she a sincere Christian woman? Is she capable of being a friend?

Personality adds a lot to the total sum of our attractiveness, and appearances alone mean nothing if the personality is lacking vitality, depth and charisma.


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I actually dig shorter men. I'm all of 5'3" and some change, so, with heels on, I get to about 5'6". A guy who is like no taller than 5'7" is great to me. I am a dancer (not professionally, but I do my thing) and I like to dance with a guy who I am on equal playing field with. My son's dad is a tall guy (almost 6'4"), so I don't discriminate.

Have you dated many men shorter than you?

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I actually dig shorter men. I'm all of 5'3" and some change, so, with heels on, I get to about 5'6". A guy who is like no taller than 5'7" is great to me. I am a dancer (not professionally, but I do my thing) and I like to dance with a guy who I am on equal playing field with. My son's dad is a tall guy (almost 6'4"), so I don't discriminate.

Have you dated many men shorter than you?

 ::giggle:: Well, considering I'm not a tall woman, most men I have met in the past are usually taller than me. But yes, I have dated two guys that I recall being shorter than me. One guy had to be like 4"11. When he came to my door for the first time, I was taken back a little, but he didn't waver because of my reaction. And the other guy was maybe an inch shorter. And they were both quite confident, so the height difference wasn't an issue. But I wouldn't want to wear high heels  ::giggle:: Just wondering, what made you ask?

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That's a no brainer. MEN! Generally speaking, women are more accepting. We'll overlook certain things if a man has qualities of value of like a good heart.

Height has never been an issue for me. I really dont understand why it would even matter.




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Physical features are important.
But more importantly is, do you agree spiritually?
It is the only thing that can guarantee a successful relationship. 

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Offline EmmieCA83

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Somewhat, I would wanna be attracted. Having a nice smile and eyes always get me. But what counts really is more about the inside. Some guys are very good looking, but their personalities are not up to par. I like a respectful, nice, hard working man who has goals and ambitions for his life.

 

     
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