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Being Single at church, and not looking for a date
« on: September 10, 2011, 07:57:11 PM »
  Ok in the past, I hate to admit it but there was a hindrance for me. And it only cause problems in the little group I was in. So what I am asking is how do you put God first without alienating yourself, and seeming aloof from the other sex. Quite honestly there are many many things I have to iron out before i became dateable/marriable/whatever. But Salvation must come frst.i

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Re: Being Single at church, and not looking for a date
« Reply #1 on: September 11, 2011, 12:58:15 PM »
Imagine yourself in the other people's shoes & how can you be a wonderful platonic friend to them. Its easier if you have been in a similar situation. If someone actually shows genuine concern (as if they were a sibling) how do you think it would be received?
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Re: Being Single at church, and not looking for a date
« Reply #2 on: September 11, 2011, 03:47:26 PM »
Ok . . . I don't know what you mean by the "hindrance". But . . . in case you mean there was someone interested in you, but this got into a problem, you can share with ones who you trust, who are mature so they can do well with you. And be available to share with anyone who you had a problem with, but show that you seek to relate like you do with the mature people who are gentle and humble and not trying to steer you into anything. And go easy . . . "with longsuffering" (in Ephesians 4:2) > we all can be wrong, somehow; so as you get closer with anyone, be ready with longsuffering and forgiveness ready to go. Encourage any problem person to share with you while you are together with others who are more mature and with it, so they can help you to relate right.

If someone is unreasonable, get committed in prayer to be kind and patient with the person, and with prayer with hope for doing better with the person. Then have forgiveness and caring ready for how God is able to change to person to do better ::smile::

God bless you, too ::smile:: bill
Be patient, "with all lowliness and gentleness,
                       with longsuffering,
          bearing with one another in love," (Ephesians 4:2)