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Re: Can My Fiance and I Marry?
« Reply #15 on: March 04, 2010, 06:57:30 AM »
Pastors can say all kinds of things. Have you prayed about it and do you feel that God himself has given you the go ahead on it?

True.  I just meant that it wasn't just us getting carried away.  But you are right others opinions aren't important.  But sometimes someone else sees something that you yourself don't see.  I took it as positive since he has seen so many couples and maybe he does have an idea about whether or not they are right for each other.

I've prayed about it but not enough.  Sunday will be impossible.  Mainly because we can't get a license in time.  I had thought God was telling us that Sunday was the day.  But, obviously not.   ::crackup:: Maybe God is telling us to wait?  

I'm just so confused right now.  I don't know what God's plan is for us.  

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Re: Can My Fiance and I Marry?
« Reply #16 on: March 04, 2010, 07:05:54 AM »
Maybe Gods telling you to wait another week or a few more days. I wouldnt look at it as worse case scenario. Just because its not going to be on the sunday you want doesnt mean that it wont ever happen. Just be patient about it. If you both are really in love with each other then there isnt anything to worry about.

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Re: Can My Fiance and I Marry?
« Reply #17 on: March 04, 2010, 12:52:48 PM »
Maybe Gods telling you to wait another week or a few more days. I wouldnt look at it as worse case scenario. Just because its not going to be on the sunday you want doesnt mean that it wont ever happen. Just be patient about it. If you both are really in love with each other then there isnt anything to worry about.

Fiance and I went to get our marriage license today.  We didn't realize that we needed to have a witness to get the license and that the witness has to know both of us (no dragging someone off the street..lol).  We got our parts notarized then we have someone from our church that we would like to witness.  Just means taking her with us to my bank to get her signature notarized.  Then it's back to the County Recorder's office to get the license issued.  Then a 3 day wait period before it's valid.

And I've been getting the impression from my fiance that he would like me to have a nice, new dress and just generally add a little bit of 'decoration' to the day.  I understand that and I will probably look back and be glad I had at least a bouquet! And I'm sure his daughters would like to bridesmaids so we will need to get dresses for them.  And maybe there are a few people I would like to be there.   ::juggle:: But I really am going to keep an eye on this to make sure it doesn't go beyond what we wanted.  ::pray::

We are also getting a prenup.  After much discussion we decided that we should have them.  The Bible does allow for divorce in the event of adultery and if that were to happen I couldn't continue with the marriage and neither could he.  And we both have children from prior marriages to consider.  The prenup won't be ready until Monday at the earliest.

He still has to ask my Dad.  Not an easy task.  I'm 39 and he is 38 but we still want to do that.  Considering my Father hasn't met him and knows only about his past (which isn't to bad but not great either) that might not be plain sailing.  But we have decided that he will sit and listen to everything that my Father has to say and try to answer his concerns.  But, ultimately it's our decision, we have made up our minds and we are really only seeking his blessing.

We don't have rings yet!  I'm hoping that doesn't become an issue.  I'm not looking for anything expensive.  It's a symbol of our love and commitment and not of our wealth. 

Oh Gosh.  Sounds like God knows me better than I know myself.  ::clappingoverhead::

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« Reply #18 on: March 04, 2010, 01:27:48 PM »
Congratulations.  I wish you happiness.

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Re: Can My Fiance and I Marry?
« Reply #19 on: March 27, 2010, 04:16:56 AM »
then of course you can marry! 

if god was to deny you of such a beautiful relationship, who would want to follow such a god? 

as long as you accept him into your relationship and there is no moral reason why you cant marry, go for it.

good luck

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Re: Can My Fiance and I Marry?
« Reply #20 on: March 27, 2010, 10:16:05 AM »
then of course you can marry! 

if god was to deny you of such a beautiful relationship, who would want to follow such a god? 

as long as you accept him into your relationship and there is no moral reason why you cant marry, go for it.

good luck

Hi Louise.  Thank you for bringing this thread back up.  Reading back over my post gives me a chance to see more of God's work. 

We are married now.  God has truly blessed us with our union and we give all thanks to God for our marriage.  I had a beautiful dress, my husband and son wore matching suits, my husband's daughters were bridesmaid and flower girl. 

We didn't do the prenup.  Our Brothers and Sisters in Christ can understand why we didn't  ::smile::  Jerry asked my Dad.  He wished us all the best, said he loved me, but that that he wouldn't be there. 

We had something that came up that allowed us to get two beautiful rings.  They are just material things but it's still nice.  My dress in my first wedding cost twice what this whole wedding cost. 

I thank God for giving this to me.  A day where I made a covenant with God, my husband and myself.