Celibacy for Life, Any Thoughts?

[LOVE2DAY]

STAY CELIBATE. THERE NOTHING WRONG WITH IT, I HAVE BEEN FOR 7 YEARS AND IAM FINE. NOTHING TO BE ASHAME OF.

BUT IAM NOT TELLING YOU NOT TO MARRY JUST MARRY ANOTHER VIRGIN LIKE YOURSELF AND ONLY IN THE LORD.

[jessbuds]

What do you mean celibate? like you never made love to anyone right? but what about sperm release or arousal? Or thinking about sex or doing masturbation nothing at all?

[spurly]

Celibacy for life is a great idea for those who are able to do so.

[chosenone]

if you are called to it,and want to be celibate that is fine,  but most are not and I LOVE being married. I was single for 6 years after my forst husband left and I am SO happy that I met my husband. Each to their own but for most God will lead them to marry.

[admin]

if you are called to it,and want to be celibate that is fine,  but most are not and I LOVE being married. I was single for 6 years after my forst husband left and I am SO happy that I met my husband. Each to their own but for most God will lead them to marry.

Right, most people are not called to be celibate. Though this might sound primitive to some of you, I really think Christians need to get married and have babies when the time is right. We need to be putting more Christians in the world. Right now, Muslims are repopulating themselves and even expanding. Christians are not. It's at least something to consider.

Also....our bodies were created to be sexual unless we've got a defect. So it's really difficult to fight that. If you're going to try to be celibate your entire life....good luck with that! As for me, sex was God's idea and His invention. And as far as I'm concerned it's a best seller!

[chosenone]

if you are called to it,and want to be celibate that is fine,  but most are not and I LOVE being married. I was single for 6 years after my forst husband left and I am SO happy that I met my husband. Each to their own but for most God will lead them to marry.

Right, most people are not called to be celibate. Though this might sound primitive to some of you, I really think Christians need to get married and have babies when the time is right. We need to be putting more Christians in the world. Right now, Muslims are repopulating themselves and even expanding. Christians are not. It's at least something to consider.

Also....our bodies were created to be sexual unless we've got a defect. So it's really difficult to fight that. If you're going to try to be celibate your entire life....good luck with that! As for me, sex was God's idea and His invention. And as far as I'm concerned it's a best seller!

Definately, I agree.

[zoonance]

I practice celibacy for a week - every once in a while.   That's a fringe benefit for being married.  We don't have to if we don't want to.  We get to when we want to. We have to when we have to!
That is kind of Celibacy for Life.  (not a lifetime)

[chosenone]

STAY CELIBATE. THERE NOTHING WRONG WITH IT, I HAVE BEEN FOR 7 YEARS AND IAM FINE. NOTHING TO BE ASHAME OF.

BUT IAM NOT TELLING YOU NOT TO MARRY JUST MARRY ANOTHER VIRGIN LIKE YOURSELF AND ONLY IN THE LORD.

Again you are telling others what to. You say STAY CELEBATE. YOu also say that we should only marry someone who is a virgin. Both are wrong for the majority of people. No where are we told that we have to remain celebate.No were are we told that we can only marry a virgin.
if you want to be celebate that is fine and your choice but you dont have to.
For those who want to marry and who are married this definately doesnt apply as The Bibke tells us that we are not to deprive our spouses of sex, so we would be disobeying God is we did this (and why would we want to anyway??? )

[zoonance]

We are told (instructed?) to only marry in the Lord.  Is that a command or just good advise?  Or do we not like being told what to do - even if it is from His Word?  I don't think those are inappropiate questions to ask.   The part about only marrying a virgin may be a "added" assumption on part of a deduced conclusion.  Not a bad one, but perhaps not to the same level as the directive to only marry in the Lord.

[chosenone]

We are told (instructed?) to only marry in the Lord.  Is that a command or just good advise?  Or do we not like being told what to do - even if it is from His Word?  I don't think those are inappropiate questions to ask.   The part about only marrying a virgin may be a "added" assumption on part of a deduced conclusion.  Not a bad one, but perhaps not to the same level as the directive to only marry in the Lord.

It is good for God to tell us what to do such as marrying someone who is a Christian, but it isnt right for someone  to tell others that they should be celibate becuase that isnt right for the majority of people. I would guess that most single people here want to marry and that is good and right and normal.
I have never met anyone who is actually called to be celibate and usually if someone doesnt marry it isnt becuase they dont want to but just that they havent mnet the right person yet.

[zoonance]

You are correct.  Anyone "demanding" that a person be celibate for a lifetime isn't biblical.  Putting off sex until married is.   One has to wonder how celibacy is demanded for the clergy of some groups.

[chosenone]

You are correct.  Anyone "demanding" that a person be celibate for a lifetime isn't biblical.  Putting off sex until married is.   One has to wonder how celibacy is demanded for the clergy of some groups.

Yes it certaibly isnt Biblical is it. if someone CHOOSES to be celibate then that is fine and is their choice, but most would rather marry.

[emilylauren]

But there are many people who consider themselves to be asexual and who simply don't feel sexually attracted to anyone. I've even heard stories of people who got married, but because they both were asexual they still did not have sex. So if you feel a calling to be celibate, or if you simply don't have any real interest or desire in having sex with someone, there is nothing wrong with that. Don't allow the world or it's apparent 'norms' define who you are. 

[chosenone]

But there are many people who consider themselves to be asexual and who simply don't feel sexually attracted to anyone. I've even heard stories of people who got married, but because they both were asexual they still did not have sex. So if you feel a calling to be celibate, or if you simply don't have any real interest or desire in having sex with someone, there is nothing wrong with that. Don't allow the world or it's apparent 'norms' define who you are. 

No nothing worng with that at all. if you want to be celibate then do, if you want to marry then do. Both are fine.

[yesult]

As above. Wow, interesting thread  Since as followers of christ, we don't really have an option other to be celibate till marriage.

So be single and enjoy it - then if the right man comes along, marry and live happily ever after.

The bible describes singleness is a gift. (As in like prophecy or teaching). So I think you have to have the gift to be truly happy, because he created us to want to share our lives with someone.

However marrying because you feel left out or under pressure is one of the worst things you could do.

Just be true to yourself and honour God with your life and pray - and he'll bring the right guy in his perfect timing. 

(Says someone who's still waiting. But hey - at least I haven't married the WRONG guy. No regrets.)