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Re: Forum for Christian singles
« Reply #30 on: December 25, 2010, 04:46:47 PM »
What a great question!  What goes through my mind?  I often wonder if I will ever find someone who is right for me.  I often find women I'm initially attracted to, but after one or two dates I usually find some reason why they aren't right. 
I want a woman who is morally straight.  She doesn't have to be a Christian but I would prefer that she be chaste.  I have been celibate for some time now and I truly believe it has helped me deal with other vices and addictions to which I was once enslaved.
I want a woman who is kind and forgiving.  Not just with me, as I probably deserve any brow-beating I might recieve, but with other people.  A generosity of spirit is something I find very compelling.
I want a woman who is honest and forthright.  I have never been any good at playing romantic "games." One thing I am trying to erase from my life is hypocrisy, and so I try to avoid it wherever possible.
I want a woman who isn't hung up on appearances.  I'm no George Clooney and I'm not looking for a beauty queen, or someone who gives much credence to what other people think of her.
I want an emotionally strong woman.  I have had difficulty with women who lead with their emotions to the detriment of all reason.
So that's what goes through my mind.  I have this wish list and every year Santa brings me a rock in my stocking.

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Re: Forum for Christian singles
« Reply #31 on: January 15, 2011, 10:08:27 PM »
Smart Americans is a good one...being single in a way is being "smart."

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Re: Forum for Christian singles
« Reply #33 on: September 08, 2011, 05:15:25 PM »
LOL... You make a wonderful point!  See? Political correctness alienates people.   ::giggle::

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Re: Forum for Christian singles
« Reply #34 on: January 29, 2012, 04:16:39 AM »
Best Advice for a Single:

Date! Only When You Actually DON'T Need It

This is the most important rule before you start searching for your soul mate.

The need for another person to make you whole and content only means that you are not ready to date.

Loneliness is a spiritual disease. This is the main cause of failure in dating.
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Re: Forum for Christian singles
« Reply #35 on: July 29, 2012, 08:41:16 PM »
I can't find anyone :(

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Re: Forum for Christian singles
« Reply #36 on: January 03, 2013, 01:16:12 PM »
I'm definitely matromonally challenged for sure.  I've never dated a Christian man before.  I think it's because of my extreme personality ::amen!:: lol......BUT the more I put Jesus first, the easier it is to cope with being alone

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Re: Forum for Christian singles
« Reply #37 on: January 03, 2013, 03:33:26 PM »
Best Advice for a Single:

Date! Only When You Actually DON'T Need It

This is the most important rule before you start searching for your soul mate.

That makes as much sense as saying to eat only when you are not hungry.

If you are coming off of a 10 day fast when are you supposed to get "not hungry" enough to eat?

God was moved to make woman when he noticed that it was not good for the Man to be alone.

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Re: Forum for Christian singles
« Reply #38 on: January 04, 2013, 05:55:58 PM »
Best Advice for a Single:

Date! Only When You Actually DON'T Need It

This is the most important rule before you start searching for your soul mate.

That makes as much sense as saying to eat only when you are not hungry.

If you are coming off of a 10 day fast when are you supposed to get "not hungry" enough to eat?

God was moved to make woman when he noticed that it was not good for the Man to be alone.

I totally agree. I have seen it written many times that it is only when we are happy being single, and have stopped looking for a mate, that God will find us someone. I have never heard such nonsense! I never liked being single, I love being married, and I was proactive in finding a husband, and guess what, God rewarded that, and I have an amazing husband.

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Re: Forum for Christian singles
« Reply #39 on: January 04, 2013, 07:06:38 PM »
Best Advice for a Single:

Date! Only When You Actually DON'T Need It

This is the most important rule before you start searching for your soul mate.

That makes as much sense as saying to eat only when you are not hungry.

If you are coming off of a 10 day fast when are you supposed to get "not hungry" enough to eat?

God was moved to make woman when he noticed that it was not good for the Man to be alone.

For some people i completely agree that its best not too date till you don't need it.For me that's the case and heres why.

You need to ask yourself what do you value the most in life. For me it was the desire to be married over God.Looking back i am glad God kept a woman out of my life,because i wasn't ready yet.Had he not i would have focused more on the woman and not of God.

 If God isn't more important too you than your desire to find a husband or wife you need to rethink your priorities.

Luke 9:61 And another also said, Lord, I will follow thee; but let me first go bid them farewell, which are at home at my house.
62 And Jesus said unto him, No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.

33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.

 The point isn't that marriage is wrong,but if you are not right in your walk with God you do a disservice to yourself and your future mate.


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Re: Forum for Christian singles
« Reply #40 on: January 05, 2013, 08:01:36 PM »
Best Advice for a Single:

Date! Only When You Actually DON'T Need It

This is the most important rule before you start searching for your soul mate.

That makes as much sense as saying to eat only when you are not hungry.

If you are coming off of a 10 day fast when are you supposed to get "not hungry" enough to eat?

God was moved to make woman when he noticed that it was not good for the Man to be alone.

For some people i completely agree that its best not too date till you don't need it.For me that's the case and heres why.

You need to ask yourself what do you value the most in life. For me it was the desire to be married over God.Looking back i am glad God kept a woman out of my life,because i wasn't ready yet.Had he not i would have focused more on the woman and not of God.

 If God isn't more important too you than your desire to find a husband or wife you need to rethink your priorities.

Luke 9:61 And another also said, Lord, I will follow thee; but let me first go bid them farewell, which are at home at my house.
62 And Jesus said unto him, No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.

33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.

 The point isn't that marriage is wrong,but if you are not right in your walk with God you do a disservice to yourself and your future mate.


That has so much wisdom.  I'm the same way.  I'm glad God has kept a man from my life because I would've made that man my number one over Him. We need to be dependent on God alone, for all things.  Don't think of marriage as the ultimate goal.  The ultimate goal is to live with Christ, and fully surrendering to Him.  Marriage is just having someone by your side to worship Christ and do His work with you. 

1 Timothy 6:6 - But godliness with contentment is great gain

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Re: Forum for Christian singles
« Reply #41 on: March 22, 2014, 06:45:54 AM »
The site you recommend says convicted criminals cannot join. I'm not a criminal, but I've been convicted. Do you think they'd give me a pass? ...

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« Reply #42 on: March 24, 2014, 05:07:40 AM »

For some people i completely agree that its best not too date till you don't need it.For me that's the case and here's why.

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33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.

 The point isn't that marriage is wrong,but if you are not right in your walk with God you do a disservice to yourself and your future mate.

But if you don't "NEED" to find someone, why even bother in the first place? You list the scriptures that say how much better it is to be single.

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« Reply #43 on: December 09, 2016, 11:01:20 AM »
Singleness for me is like God asking you to take a bitter pill. Too bitter at the start until you get used to it and don't taste it anymore.

Or, it's  like a curse given to you by God for whatever reason you will only know when you face Him.

So good luck with us singles. Lol

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« Reply #44 on: December 09, 2016, 11:08:40 AM »
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God is a God of orderliness, when a young man has established himself in a profession and began to earn enough money whereby he can feed himself and a wife, then he should start praying that the Lord will guide to God’s choice for him to be a helpmate and establish a home and raise Godly seed. At that time, through prayer and waiting on God, He will surely guide him to the right one he has prepare for him to accomplish God’s great plan in their life.


I love the idea and the ideal -

However, I am 51yo, been well employed for years - and still waiting... AND more important - I am not close to being alone.  It seems you have not made much of an effort to be in touch with a large number of singles - I think that will bring reality to bear on the sad state of older Christian singles....

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Quoting what you quote. Believe me no matter how you pray to God about it, the last word will always be His. Your prayers or even tears won't do much to change His plans. If God deemed that you stayed single, you'll be single. So, it is really better to keep in mind the possibility of being single or alone forever.

Having that perspective keeps you from being disappointed. It makes you happier, stronger... Not expectant of God to give you someone.