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Re: Forum for Christian singles
« Reply #35 on: Sun Jul 29, 2012 - 21:41:16 »
I can't find anyone :(

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« Reply #36 on: Thu Jan 03, 2013 - 14:16:12 »
I'm definitely matromonally challenged for sure.  I've never dated a Christian man before.  I think it's because of my extreme personality ::amen!:: lol......BUT the more I put Jesus first, the easier it is to cope with being alone

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« Reply #37 on: Thu Jan 03, 2013 - 16:33:26 »
Best Advice for a Single:

Date! Only When You Actually DON'T Need It

This is the most important rule before you start searching for your soul mate.

That makes as much sense as saying to eat only when you are not hungry.

If you are coming off of a 10 day fast when are you supposed to get "not hungry" enough to eat?

God was moved to make woman when he noticed that it was not good for the Man to be alone.

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« Reply #38 on: Fri Jan 04, 2013 - 18:55:58 »
Best Advice for a Single:

Date! Only When You Actually DON'T Need It

This is the most important rule before you start searching for your soul mate.

That makes as much sense as saying to eat only when you are not hungry.

If you are coming off of a 10 day fast when are you supposed to get "not hungry" enough to eat?

God was moved to make woman when he noticed that it was not good for the Man to be alone.

I totally agree. I have seen it written many times that it is only when we are happy being single, and have stopped looking for a mate, that God will find us someone. I have never heard such nonsense! I never liked being single, I love being married, and I was proactive in finding a husband, and guess what, God rewarded that, and I have an amazing husband.

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Re: Forum for Christian singles
« Reply #39 on: Fri Jan 04, 2013 - 20:06:38 »
Best Advice for a Single:

Date! Only When You Actually DON'T Need It

This is the most important rule before you start searching for your soul mate.

That makes as much sense as saying to eat only when you are not hungry.

If you are coming off of a 10 day fast when are you supposed to get "not hungry" enough to eat?

God was moved to make woman when he noticed that it was not good for the Man to be alone.

For some people i completely agree that its best not too date till you don't need it.For me that's the case and heres why.

You need to ask yourself what do you value the most in life. For me it was the desire to be married over God.Looking back i am glad God kept a woman out of my life,because i wasn't ready yet.Had he not i would have focused more on the woman and not of God.

 If God isn't more important too you than your desire to find a husband or wife you need to rethink your priorities.

Luke 9:61 And another also said, Lord, I will follow thee; but let me first go bid them farewell, which are at home at my house.
62 And Jesus said unto him, No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.

33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.

 The point isn't that marriage is wrong,but if you are not right in your walk with God you do a disservice to yourself and your future mate.


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Re: Forum for Christian singles
« Reply #40 on: Sat Jan 05, 2013 - 21:01:36 »
Best Advice for a Single:

Date! Only When You Actually DON'T Need It

This is the most important rule before you start searching for your soul mate.

That makes as much sense as saying to eat only when you are not hungry.

If you are coming off of a 10 day fast when are you supposed to get "not hungry" enough to eat?

God was moved to make woman when he noticed that it was not good for the Man to be alone.

For some people i completely agree that its best not too date till you don't need it.For me that's the case and heres why.

You need to ask yourself what do you value the most in life. For me it was the desire to be married over God.Looking back i am glad God kept a woman out of my life,because i wasn't ready yet.Had he not i would have focused more on the woman and not of God.

 If God isn't more important too you than your desire to find a husband or wife you need to rethink your priorities.

Luke 9:61 And another also said, Lord, I will follow thee; but let me first go bid them farewell, which are at home at my house.
62 And Jesus said unto him, No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.

33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.

 The point isn't that marriage is wrong,but if you are not right in your walk with God you do a disservice to yourself and your future mate.


That has so much wisdom.  I'm the same way.  I'm glad God has kept a man from my life because I would've made that man my number one over Him. We need to be dependent on God alone, for all things.  Don't think of marriage as the ultimate goal.  The ultimate goal is to live with Christ, and fully surrendering to Him.  Marriage is just having someone by your side to worship Christ and do His work with you. 

1 Timothy 6:6 - But godliness with contentment is great gain

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Re: Forum for Christian singles
« Reply #41 on: Sat Mar 22, 2014 - 07:45:54 »
The site you recommend says convicted criminals cannot join. I'm not a criminal, but I've been convicted. Do you think they'd give me a pass? ...

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« Reply #42 on: Mon Mar 24, 2014 - 06:07:40 »

For some people i completely agree that its best not too date till you don't need it.For me that's the case and here's why.

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33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.

 The point isn't that marriage is wrong,but if you are not right in your walk with God you do a disservice to yourself and your future mate.

But if you don't "NEED" to find someone, why even bother in the first place? You list the scriptures that say how much better it is to be single.

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« Reply #43 on: Fri Dec 09, 2016 - 12:01:20 »
Singleness for me is like God asking you to take a bitter pill. Too bitter at the start until you get used to it and don't taste it anymore.

Or, it's  like a curse given to you by God for whatever reason you will only know when you face Him.

So good luck with us singles. Lol

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« Reply #44 on: Fri Dec 09, 2016 - 12:08:40 »
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God is a God of orderliness, when a young man has established himself in a profession and began to earn enough money whereby he can feed himself and a wife, then he should start praying that the Lord will guide to God’s choice for him to be a helpmate and establish a home and raise Godly seed. At that time, through prayer and waiting on God, He will surely guide him to the right one he has prepare for him to accomplish God’s great plan in their life.


I love the idea and the ideal -

However, I am 51yo, been well employed for years - and still waiting... AND more important - I am not close to being alone.  It seems you have not made much of an effort to be in touch with a large number of singles - I think that will bring reality to bear on the sad state of older Christian singles....

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Quoting what you quote. Believe me no matter how you pray to God about it, the last word will always be His. Your prayers or even tears won't do much to change His plans. If God deemed that you stayed single, you'll be single. So, it is really better to keep in mind the possibility of being single or alone forever.

Having that perspective keeps you from being disappointed. It makes you happier, stronger... Not expectant of God to give you someone.

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« Reply #45 on: Fri Dec 09, 2016 - 12:13:24 »
Best Advice for a Single:

Date! Only When You Actually DON'T Need It

This is the most important rule before you start searching for your soul mate.

That makes as much sense as saying to eat only when you are not hungry.

If you are coming off of a 10 day fast when are you supposed to get "not hungry" enough to eat?

God was moved to make woman when he noticed that it was not good for the Man to be alone.

I totally agree. I have seen it written many times that it is only when we are happy being single, and have stopped looking for a mate, that God will find us someone. I have never heard such nonsense! I never liked being single, I love being married, and I was proactive in finding a husband, and guess what, God rewarded that, and I have an amazing husband.

Good for you! BUT... BUT it is not always the case! How many Men and women who died waiting for their mate from God???? Hahaha countless I say.

Just don't expect it to happen. Better life

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« Reply #46 on: Fri Dec 09, 2016 - 12:34:13 »
Best Advice for a Single:

Date! Only When You Actually DON'T Need It

This is the most important rule before you start searching for your soul mate.

That makes as much sense as saying to eat only when you are not hungry.

If you are coming off of a 10 day fast when are you supposed to get "not hungry" enough to eat?

God was moved to make woman when he noticed that it was not good for the Man to be alone.

I totally agree. I have seen it written many times that it is only when we are happy being single, and have stopped looking for a mate, that God will find us someone. I have never heard such nonsense! I never liked being single, I love being married, and I was proactive in finding a husband, and guess what, God rewarded that, and I have an amazing husband.

Good for you! BUT... BUT it is not always the case! How many Men and women who died waiting for their mate from God???? Hahaha countless I say.

Just don't expect it to happen. Better life

Yes i had always hoped to marry again, but I also knew that it may well have never happened.
Have you been proactive? As I always say, God isnt going to bring someone to your door. I met my husband on a Christian dating site, as did many couples I know.

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« Reply #47 on: Fri Dec 16, 2016 - 12:51:42 »
Best Advice for a Single:

Date! Only When You Actually DON'T Need It

This is the most important rule before you start searching for your soul mate.

That makes as much sense as saying to eat only when you are not hungry.

If you are coming off of a 10 day fast when are you supposed to get "not hungry" enough to eat?

God was moved to make woman when he noticed that it was not good for the Man to be alone.

I totally agree. I have seen it written many times that it is only when we are happy being single, and have stopped looking for a mate, that God will find us someone. I have never heard such nonsense! I never liked being single, I love being married, and I was proactive in finding a husband, and guess what, God rewarded that, and I have an amazing husband.

Good for you! BUT... BUT it is not always the case! How many Men and women who died waiting for their mate from God???? Hahaha countless I say.

Just don't expect it to happen. Better life

Yes i had always hoped to marry again, but I also knew that it may well have never happened.
Have you been proactive? As I always say, God isnt going to bring someone to your door. I met my husband on a Christian dating site, as did many couples I know.

That's what I realized but it was already too late. I thought when I was younger, I would just spent my time serving God in ministry and being a breadwinner while trusting God He will take care of finding a mate for me. I'm not really the type of person that will make an effort to find an opposite sex or find a mate by myself. I thought that's part of having a "personal savior". Anyway,  I literally followed "see ye first... Etc. Etc"

But I am very wrong. I should have not thought of that that way. I should have not trusted God that way. I should have made an effort before. I really regret it many times lately. But it's too late so I just accept reality.


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« Reply #48 on: Fri Dec 16, 2016 - 16:11:06 »
Best Advice for a Single:

Date! Only When You Actually DON'T Need It

This is the most important rule before you start searching for your soul mate.

That makes as much sense as saying to eat only when you are not hungry.

If you are coming off of a 10 day fast when are you supposed to get "not hungry" enough to eat?

God was moved to make woman when he noticed that it was not good for the Man to be alone.

I totally agree. I have seen it written many times that it is only when we are happy being single, and have stopped looking for a mate, that God will find us someone. I have never heard such nonsense! I never liked being single, I love being married, and I was proactive in finding a husband, and guess what, God rewarded that, and I have an amazing husband.

Good for you! BUT... BUT it is not always the case! How many Men and women who died waiting for their mate from God???? Hahaha countless I say.

Just don't expect it to happen. Better life

Yes i had always hoped to marry again, but I also knew that it may well have never happened.
Have you been proactive? As I always say, God isnt going to bring someone to your door. I met my husband on a Christian dating site, as did many couples I know.

That's what I realized but it was already too late. I thought when I was younger, I would just spent my time serving God in ministry and being a breadwinner while trusting God He will take care of finding a mate for me. I'm not really the type of person that will make an effort to find an opposite sex or find a mate by myself. I thought that's part of having a "personal savior". Anyway,  I literally followed "see ye first... Etc. Etc"

But I am very wrong. I should have not thought of that that way. I should have not trusted God that way. I should have made an effort before. I really regret it many times lately. But it's too late so I just accept reality.



My aunt married the love of her life when she was 60 and he was 70. Its never too late.

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« Reply #49 on: Sat Dec 31, 2016 - 15:05:15 »
Lmao.????

I'd say "No thank!" you if it will be just when I turned 70. Besides, I expect to die at 50.

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« Reply #50 on: Sat Dec 31, 2016 - 23:09:52 »
Lmao.????

I'd say "No thank!" you if it will be just when I turned 70. Besides, I expect to die at 50.
 

Why do you say that?

i married my soul mate when we were both nearly 50. Its never to late for love and companionship.

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Lmao.????

I'd say "No thank!" you if it will be just when I turned 70. Besides, I expect to die at 50.
 

Why do you say that?

i married my soul mate when we were both nearly 50. Its never to late for love and companionship.

It's because what I asked and wanted is a family. Marrying first time at 50 is just an insult for me or something. It's like putting salt on the wound. So I honestly will say "God, thanks but no thanks. Just bring me home. " it's just a disappointment so never mind.

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Lmao.????

I'd say "No thank!" you if it will be just when I turned 70. Besides, I expect to die at 50.
 

Why do you say that?

i married my soul mate when we were both nearly 50. Its never to late for love and companionship.

It's because what I asked and wanted is a family. Marrying first time at 50 is just an insult for me or something. It's like putting salt on the wound. So I honestly will say "God, thanks but no thanks. Just bring me home. " it's just a disappointment so never mind.
 

Yes I understand that you wanted children, but He will never answer a prayer that you will die. I would rather have a great marriage with no children than no marriage at all. 

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« Reply #53 on: Fri Jan 06, 2017 - 19:01:56 »
Lmao.????

I'd say "No thank!" you if it will be just when I turned 70. Besides, I expect to die at 50.
 

Why do you say that?

i married my soul mate when we were both nearly 50. Its never to late for love and companionship.

It's because what I asked and wanted is a family. Marrying first time at 50 is just an insult for me or something. It's like putting salt on the wound. So I honestly will say "God, thanks but no thanks. Just bring me home. " it's just a disappointment so never mind.
 

Yes I understand that you wanted children, but He will never answer a prayer that you will die. I would rather have a great marriage with no children than no marriage at all.

Chosen....

So would I.

But at my age, and having prayed and waited for 51 years... since I was 18... and finding no one, or better said... no one wanting me, no everyone gets a shot at that brass ring.

It takes someone who has lived a life, alone , to understand what always me is saying.

I now get it.... it was never to be for me.

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« Reply #54 on: Sat Jan 07, 2017 - 07:18:29 »
Lmao. ??? ?

I'd say "No thank!" you if it will be just when I turned 70. Besides, I expect to die at 50.
 

Why do you say that?

i married my soul mate when we were both nearly 50. Its never to late for love and companionship.

It's because what I asked and wanted is a family. Marrying first time at 50 is just an insult for me or something. It's like putting salt on the wound. So I honestly will say "God, thanks but no thanks. Just bring me home. " it's just a disappointment so never mind.


That's just absurdity, I'm 54 and married my wife 2 1/2 years ago, this has been the best time of my life without exception. You seem to be saying to God, "I want it when I want it, not when YOU deem fit, if I can't have it when I want it I don't want it at all". You're writing off what could be something truly wonderful because it doesn't fit into your "plan".  ::frown::

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« Reply #55 on: Sat Jan 07, 2017 - 10:26:19 »
Lmao.????

I'd say "No thank!" you if it will be just when I turned 70. Besides, I expect to die at 50.
 

Why do you say that?

i married my soul mate when we were both nearly 50. Its never to late for love and companionship.

It's because what I asked and wanted is a family. Marrying first time at 50 is just an insult for me or something. It's like putting salt on the wound. So I honestly will say "God, thanks but no thanks. Just bring me home. " it's just a disappointment so never mind.
 

Yes I understand that you wanted children, but He will never answer a prayer that you will die. I would rather have a great marriage with no children than no marriage at all.

Chosen....

So would I.

But at my age, and having prayed and waited for 51 years... since I was 18... and finding no one, or better said... no one wanting me, no everyone gets a shot at that brass ring.

It takes someone who has lived a life, alone , to understand what always me is saying.

I now get it.... it was never to be for me.


 I have some lovely women close to me who are in the same position as you. There are quite a lot of Christian women in the same position sadly due to the lack of godly men. I do get where you are coming from, but I also have a close friend who married at 40, never did get pregnant, but who has an amazing marriage and full life. They travel all the time and have many friends. My aunt too had a very happy marriage at 60. Its never too late for love, even if without children.

My advise is always to be very proactive.  Many Christians are meeting on Christian dating sites now, I think I know about 8 or 9 couples who met this way including us. Getting involved in as much as you can where you will meet other Christians is another ploy. As my friends husband said to their 30 year old son, you aren't going to meet anyone sitting at home all the time.   

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« Reply #56 on: Sat Jan 07, 2017 - 10:32:34 »
Lmao. ??? ?

I'd say "No thank!" you if it will be just when I turned 70. Besides, I expect to die at 50.
 

Why do you say that?

i married my soul mate when we were both nearly 50. Its never to late for love and companionship.

It's because what I asked and wanted is a family. Marrying first time at 50 is just an insult for me or something. It's like putting salt on the wound. So I honestly will say "God, thanks but no thanks. Just bring me home. " it's just a disappointment so never mind.


That's just absurdity, I'm 54 and married my wife 2 1/2 years ago, this has been the best time of my life without exception. You seem to be saying to God, "I want it when I want it, not when YOU deem fit, if I can't have it when I want it I don't want it at all". You're writing off what could be something truly wonderful because it doesn't fit into your "plan".  ::frown::

Exactly, we were age 48 and 49 when we married 11 years ago. How is marrying the love of you life at 50 an insult??? I watched a programme the other day about old people finding love (and I mean old people, not 50's or 60's)and they were getting married in their 70's-90's. I think thats amazing. 
If you have already written later love off as 'an insult', then its not going to happen.
 You may even meet someone who has children and grandchildren who you can enjoy with them.

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« Reply #57 on: Sat Jan 07, 2017 - 10:58:46 »
Lmao. ??? ?

I'd say "No thank!" you if it will be just when I turned 70. Besides, I expect to die at 50.
 

Why do you say that?

i married my soul mate when we were both nearly 50. Its never to late for love and companionship.

It's because what I asked and wanted is a family. Marrying first time at 50 is just an insult for me or something. It's like putting salt on the wound. So I honestly will say "God, thanks but no thanks. Just bring me home. " it's just a disappointment so never mind.


That's just absurdity, I'm 54 and married my wife 2 1/2 years ago, this has been the best time of my life without exception. You seem to be saying to God, "I want it when I want it, not when YOU deem fit, if I can't have it when I want it I don't want it at all". You're writing off what could be something truly wonderful because it doesn't fit into your "plan".  ::frown::

Exactly, we were age 48 and 49 when we married 11 years ago. How is marrying the love of you life at 50 an insult??? I watched a programme the other day about old people finding love (and I mean old people, not 50's or 60's)and they were getting married in their 70's-90's. I think thats amazing. 
If you have already written later love off as 'an insult', then its not going to happen.
 You may even meet someone who has children and grandchildren who you can enjoy with them.


Yep, there are many different scenarios that could transpire into having a truly wonderful and loving relationship, stomping your feet on the ground because it's not happening in your timeline will hinder it from ever happening. 

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« Reply #58 on: Sat Jan 07, 2017 - 12:35:02 »
What do you call 10-20 years or more of being alone? Can you consider that a blessing or a curse, especially when God said "It's not good for man to be alone."?

Personally, I would rather not wait and expect anymore and survive life daily than live expecting and hoping it to happen. If God wills it, so be it. If not, so be it. It's just tiring to hope or wait. I'd rather be used to being alone and be happy than always wanting something that's not happening. It is just too disappointing.

Accepting the reality of life is where I am right now. Realizing that not all prayers are given that's why there is NO in His answer, it's not God's responsibility to provide a spouse, not all dreams come true, marriage is not for all, being alone is still a "future" (Jer. 29:11), and this is the future God has for me.

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Re: Forum for Christian singles
« Reply #59 on: Sat Jan 07, 2017 - 12:50:21 »
What do you call 10-20 years or more of being alone? Can you consider that a blessing or a curse, especially when God said "It's not good for man to be alone."?

Personally, I would rather not wait and expect anymore and survive life daily than live expecting and hoping it to happen. If God wills it, so be it. If not, so be it. It's just tiring to hope or wait. I'd rather be used to being alone and be happy than always wanting something that's not happening. It is just too disappointing.

Accepting the reality of life is where I am right now. Realizing that not all prayers are given that's why there is NO in His answer, it's not God's responsibility to provide a spouse, not all dreams come true, marriage is not for all, being alone is still a "future" (Jer. 29:11), and this is the future God has for me.
 
How do you know what future God has for you??? Maybe, just maybe, He wants you to get out there and make new friends and meet new people. Be proactive. if I hadn't done that I would probably still be alone now, 17 years after my first marriage ended.

We are very different, because to me hope is vital. Its kept me going through terrible times, the hope that is in me.   
When my first marriage suddenly ended after 23 years, I was in my 40's. After 4 years of trying to recover, I began to think about the possibility of getting married again.  I knew that the number of available Christian men of that sort of age was very very small, and this was confirmed after I had spent some time on Christian dating sites where the numbers of women were about 3 to 1 men, and this got worse as the ages increased.
So looking at it realistically, the chances of me meeting a good man and getting married again seemed slim. However I believe in being proactive. I also had hope. I also know that God can do things that seem impossible.
So, as I said to myself, a man isn't going to turn up at you door. I was on various Christian dating sites for 2 years before I met my now husband. I had been in communication with countless men, and had met 3 before my husband. A lady who I made friends with through one of these sites, who was also in her 40's, was on it for 7 YEARS before she met her husband. She had hope and she didn't give up.
Hope is vital, without it we can get bitter and angry and resentful. 

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« Reply #60 on: Sun Jan 08, 2017 - 11:10:38 »
It's simply because of what God is giving me right now. I'd rather accept it now so I can plan my life alone than hope for another endless years and wake up still alone.

I'm done hoping. It will just disappoint me again.

There are people who kept hoping till their 50s and 60s and wake up alone. That's the only time they started to accept the fate they have. I don't want to waste my time hoping for nothing. I did it already.

And yes I used to be proactive but only during my late 20s. I was a breadwinner and had to focus on working for my family for most of my 20ish years. Back then that I didn't have time for myself I relied on God to work it out for me. But well His plan is different. This is what he is giving me---a life alone. So no choice but to accept it.

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« Reply #61 on: Sun Jan 08, 2017 - 13:44:16 »
It's simply because of what God is giving me right now. I'd rather accept it now so I can plan my life alone than hope for another endless years and wake up still alone.

I'm done hoping. It will just disappoint me again.

There are people who kept hoping till their 50s and 60s and wake up alone. That's the only time they started to accept the fate they have. I don't want to waste my time hoping for nothing. I did it already.

And yes I used to be proactive but only during my late 20s. I was a breadwinner and had to focus on working for my family for most of my 20ish years. Back then that I didn't have time for myself I relied on God to work it out for me. But well His plan is different. This is what he is giving me---a life alone. So no choice but to accept it.


You may be alone in this season but that could change at any time, keeping your mind open to what tomorrow may bring is healthy living. You,I, nor anyone else knows the details of God's plan for us, yet you seem to know since He has not fulfilled your desires as of yet and have concluded that your situation is finite. Those are YOUR plans, not God's. 

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« Reply #62 on: Sun Jan 08, 2017 - 14:00:57 »
It's simply because of what God is giving me right now. I'd rather accept it now so I can plan my life alone than hope for another endless years and wake up still alone.

I'm done hoping. It will just disappoint me again.

There are people who kept hoping till their 50s and 60s and wake up alone. That's the only time they started to accept the fate they have. I don't want to waste my time hoping for nothing. I did it already.

And yes I used to be proactive but only during my late 20s. I was a breadwinner and had to focus on working for my family for most of my 20ish years. Back then that I didn't have time for myself I relied on God to work it out for me. But well His plan is different. This is what he is giving me---a life alone. So no choice but to accept it.
 


At 32 you have a very negative attitude. There is NOTHING to stop you from being proactive now. Have you tried internet dating and persisted at it? You have another 10 years or so when you could have children.
I have been though terrible times in my past, I could easily have given up hope for things to ever change or getting better. Thank God I didn't.

Have you heard that phrase 'you are what you say?' Thats got a lot of truth in it. If your attitude is that things will never improve, or you will never be happy, then guess what, you are right. If you have a more thankful and positive attitude, if you trust God that He does have good plans for you as He promises, then the world is your oyster.
God isnt going to bring a man knocking on your door. In the end its up to you whether you make the effort or not.