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Re: Getting harder and harder to believe there is someone out there
« Reply #15 on: May 08, 2016, 01:09:55 AM »
.....I'm 43 (divorced for 12 years) and don't even find women my age attractive.

I just happened upon this old thread and I know exactly what you mean, 777. I am now age 61, been single since 1989, and I feel the exact same way. Largely because I was spoiled by two extraordinary and very attractive women.

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Re: Getting harder and harder to believe there is someone out there
« Reply #16 on: November 11, 2016, 09:06:54 AM »
I'm also in the same boat, 32 single and haven't been married. I never had a really lasting relationship in my entire life.

While some of the encouragement are meant for good, I believe those with me in the boat can't hardly be encouraged by those words. Marriage they say is a goft from God. That means some He gave that give while some he didn't. That's something I don't understand.

Personally,  I've given up on my dream and desire to have my own family. God's silence or inaction on the matter I think is enough reason for me to give up. Maybe being single is hos best gift and plan for me. I don't know. So I just ask Him to just take away the desire and longing because they are torturing me everyday.

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Re: Getting harder and harder to believe there is someone out there
« Reply #17 on: November 11, 2016, 09:36:27 AM »
I'm also in the same boat, 32 single and haven't been married. I never had a really lasting relationship in my entire life.

While some of the encouragement are meant for good, I believe those with me in the boat can't hardly be encouraged by those words. Marriage they say is a goft from God. That means some He gave that give while some he didn't. That's something I don't understand.

Personally,  I've given up on my dream and desire to have my own family. God's silence or inaction on the matter I think is enough reason for me to give up. Maybe being single is hos best gift and plan for me. I don't know. So I just ask Him to just take away the desire and longing because they are torturing me everyday.
 

32 is very young to give up on that dream. I know 2 christian ladies, both aged 36, who are both still very hopeful of getting married. I also know 2 other women who met and married their husbands in their late 30's. I don't think that God picks and chooses who will marry and who wont. One of the difficulties is that there are far less men in the church than women, and that's sad.
Have you made lots of effort to meet people? Are you involved in lots of things? Internet Christian dating sites? Clubs? Hobbies? Christian singles holidays? Christian speed dating? I know about 8 or 9 Christian couples who met on Christian dating sites including myself, and we were both in our late 40's.


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Re: Getting harder and harder to believe there is someone out there
« Reply #18 on: November 11, 2016, 10:50:56 AM »
There are a lot of great never-married single men and women of any age, many of them depressed about their situation.  Finding each other is the problem.  But, give it time, don't be desperate, keep yourself in order, and eventually you'll find someone.  Oh, and, get involved with various non-dating activities to increase your chances of finding love sooner than later. 

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Re: Getting harder and harder to believe there is someone out there
« Reply #19 on: November 13, 2016, 08:27:28 AM »
Thank you!

I tried those stuff but to no avail. I'm nit just really that person who will be out there looking. 

Anyway,  I find it easy to give up on the dream than hope. Hoping entails disappointed and pain at the end. I finally find rest for my heart when I said I give up. Whatever God wants to do or plan, so be it. I'm just not waiting and hoping anymore.  ::smile::

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