Have you ever experienced this?

[HeavensTears]

The man you're dating shows you pictures of other women he was previously in a relationship with. Would you find that odd?

Why do some do this: Keep pictures of people he/she was in a relationship with and it didn't work out?  




Note: of course, we're no longer together but I always wondered about that. And he has taken pictures of me and his kids together. But now, I'm hoping he erased them. Why remind yourself of what could have been or what once was when you're not even in a relationship with that person anymore?  

[chosenone]

that would turn me off big time if any man showed me pictures of an ex.

[UtahDad]

When things are 100% over I do some housecleaning, all cards, mementos and pictures are thrown out.  There may be one or two missed sometimes but that can cause too many problems having pictures of your ex hanging around to be found.

[chosenone]

When things are 100% over I do some housecleaning, all cards, mementos and pictures are thrown out.  There may be one or two missed sometimes but that can cause too many problems having pictures of your ex hanging around to be found.

 Yes but I think that a person accidently finding a picture isnt the same as actually being shown one.

[JohnnO]

The man you're dating shows you pictures of other women he was previously in a relationship with. Would you find that odd?
 

If it was a girl showing me a picture of her ex boyfriend it would only happen on our last date. The last thing I need is someone committing emotional adultery against me with some ex boyfriend. KWIM?

[HeavensTears]

Let me clarify some more cuz I seriously don't want to sound as if I'm falsely accussing him.

He showed me some pictures on his cell phone (why, I don't know) and I'd seen that there were several pics of other women he was with. I asked him who they were and he told me. I still wondered why he kept those pictures of them anyway.

In any case, its still weird. And rest assured that I don't have any reminders of him or our relationship. The only thing I need to do now is use that experience as a stepping stone to better handle any personal relationships with wisdom in the future.

Sometimes memories hurt, but they can still serve their purpose regarding being smarter about stuff later, know what I mean?  

[HeavensTears]

The man you're dating shows you pictures of other women he was previously in a relationship with. Would you find that odd?
 

If it was a girl showing me a picture of her ex boyfriend it would only happen on our last date. The last thing I need is someone committing emotional adultery against me with some ex boyfriend. KWIM?

What does KWIM mean?

[JohnnO]

What does KWIM mean?

Sorry. KWIM = Know What I Mean.

[yesult]

I've never been bothered by it. If someone shows you photos of their ex's at least it shows they cared enough about them to keep the photos even if it didn't work out. I think I'd find it stranger if they didn't have any pics. To me it would be like - why? didn't you care about each other?

I've never liked having photos taken so I've usually tried to avoid it. But if you care about someone, unless it ends badly, I don't see why you shouldn't have momentos of them just because they were your friend, if nothing else.

[JohnDB]

This may sound strange but...The guy actually still has a soft spot in his heart for everyone he has dated...including you.

Just because someone isn't a person that they can be married to or live with doesn't negate the relationship that he had with that person in finding out about them. He still likes you and thinks highly of you...that is the reason for the pics.

His showing you the pics was his way of saying that even if the relationship doesn't work out he still will always think highly of you...the same as he thinks highly of those he has dated in the past...It isn't really about trophys...just relationships. (sometimes relationships end on a sour note...)

[Huscarl]

While a guy showing his new girlfriend pictures of his ex is undeniably odd and overall a bad idea, I don't think you should have to necessarily throw out everything that an ex gave your or every picture

If things ended civilly I don't think a guy or girl should be expected to try and forget that their relationship ever existed.  It's good to remember the good times you shared together at least in some corner in your heart, why date someone and share happy moments together if you are just going to forget about them as soon as it's over.

But keeping pictures of an ex hanging on a wall or on a desk....not a good idea for anyone

[JohnnO]

I've never been bothered by it. If someone shows you photos of their ex's at least it shows they cared enough about them to keep the photos even if it didn't work out. I think I'd find it stranger if they didn't have any pics. To me it would be like - why? didn't you care about each other?

I've never liked having photos taken so I've usually tried to avoid it. But if you care about someone, unless it ends badly, I don't see why you shouldn't have momentos of them just because they were your friend, if nothing else.

I am seeking to be married. I date only to achieve that purpose. A year ago I had a brief relationship with a wonderful woman of God. Unfortunately she ended up not being interested in me for the long term.

After she broke it off I deleted all references to her, hard copy, and from all computers. Our time together was totally wasted time as it did not move me toward marriage.  Keeping any momento of her would only deprive my future wife of some small part of my heart.

Why would I want to do that?