Hey everyone please read this if you can...

[MorganTheAngel]

     Hey everyone, I didn't really wanna bother anyone with this, and I'm not sure this is the right chatroom to post this in, but oh well.
     Let's just say in the Reader's Digest version, that I just had my heart broken, and all I want is just to know that I am not alone. I'm not asking for any advice or criticism, just for people to respond and say something like, "Hey, we've all been there and we know how it hurts." But to be more specific, this has to do with a certain guy that I had feelings for and now he's got a girlfriend. It sounds foolish - I know. But I'm gonna try to move on, and it's going to be really tough. It just hurts, ya know? Like when you see that person that you love and they're with someone else, that really stings. I just want be reassured that we've all been there, because it's really hard for me to deal with pain like this. The sad part of it is, I had to learn it the hard way. I am holding back tears, and I really feel horrible. And especially when you think that you can be with this person, and then so many people will bring you down and be like, "Oh you don't stand a chance," that adds to the pain. So many people have tried to bring me down, but I never gave up. I have been praying to God that He will give me the courage to fight to win this person's heart and now he's dating someone else. I just need reassurance, please?

Thank you for reading this,
xoxo Peace, Love, Serenity
~Morgan~

[Mere Nick]

Morgan,

The sooner the better.  I'm guessing you are still awfully young.  This happens alot.  It even happened to me once when I was a teenager.  A girl I thought was the greatest thing to ever breath air dumped me.  A friend and his girlfriend shortly thereafter invited me to go with them and a girl they wanted to me to meet down to Carowinds.  Being the wild man I was at the time, I showed up drunk and on a crying jag about the girl who broke my heart.  I've always wondered what my Carowinds date had to say later on about all of this. 

A good 7-10 years later I saw the girl that dumped me and, well, I just wouldn't want to ever be caught between her and the trough when they yell sooey.  It turns out her dumping me was one of the kindest things anyone has ever done.

[wolflet7]

Well, it's a sad fact in this harsh life and faith that we can't always get what we want when we ask God, our Father.  He is an all knowing Father and He will teach us, His children, what we need and provide us with what we need.  If God answered my prayers, I would be dating a girl that I now doubt that I trust anymore.  I now do not think that she is the right/perfect match for me because of her loyalty to only one guy.  I do not know what went on with her and the other guys that showed up at some Youth Group thing 20-30 minutes late two times.  I do not trust her now and wouldn't date her for $1,000,000.  Whatever she did with the guys, whether it be just talking for a bit or heaven knows what, I know learned my lesson.  A couple months ago, I went back to my old church with my divorced dad, just to hang out with him and catch up with my old friends and the pastor there that I was also tight with taught a lesson on why God doesn't answer our prayers.  He said that God is our Father and that we are His children.  It's like God being an adult and us, His children, being His 6 year-old sons and daughters.  We do not understand some things, but He knows all too well what He should provide for us.  The pastor also told us that if God answered all of his prayers, then he wouldn't be married.  In fact, I think he asked God for several women throughout his lifetime.  Maybe the "perfect guy" isn't the best bet after all.

[chosenone]

Yes it is hard and painful when someone that you like very much doesnt return the feeling. It maybe that they really arent the right one for you anyway, remember, Gods wants the very best for you and the person who you think is the best may well not be in reality. yes it happened to me a few times when I was in my teens, and when I was 17 I found out that my boyfriend of 8 months was seeing someone else at the same time. I was devastated at the time but now I am middle aged I have the best husband ever, so let God be your guide and let Him choose who is best fo you becuase he knows the future and who he has planned out for you. 
Also, dont know if this other person is a Christian but dont go there if they arent anyway, it is a waste of time, and not what Gods wants for you. 

[MorganTheAngel]

Also, dont know if this other person is a Christian but dont go there if they arent anyway, it is a waste of time, and not what Gods wants for you. 

Why shouldn't I date someone who isn't Christian? I was just asking...do you think God would be angry at me if I was seeing someone who is Jewish? Because the Jews are God's chosen people, even though we are Gentiles. Just Wondering. Thanks

With aLL Serenity,
Morgan<33

[phantommagic]

 ::priest::yes, that's hurt. I ever feel it to. But, maybe we should let the one we love to find someone he/she love. We will be happy if we see someone we love feel happy. Maybe, the man it's not for you. God will choose the best for you. We should pray for the best, and we should not say a name (someone we love), because, we have to let God guide us to the right person.

[DCR]

Also, dont know if this other person is a Christian but dont go there if they arent anyway, it is a waste of time, and not what Gods wants for you. 

Why shouldn't I date someone who isn't Christian? I was just asking...do you think God would be angry at me if I was seeing someone who is Jewish? Because the Jews are God's chosen people, even though we are Gentiles. Just Wondering. Thanks

With aLL Serenity,
Morgan<33

Do you really want to be in a relationship, or worse yet a marriage, where religion is a point of contention that causes family tensions?  What about your children?  Wouldn't it bother you if they didn't believe in Jesus because their father is Jewish?

To me, it's not so much an issue of God being angry with me as it is in adding stress and complicating my life by allowing that to be an issue.  Also, Scripture says that we should avoid being yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14).

[phantommagic]

That's right DCR!!

Think about it, if you marry someone who is not christian, you'll get problem soon.

1. What kind of mindset you teach too your children? Christ mindset or 'other god mindset'?
2. You're children maybe will not be a christian
3. It's the same like you teach your children about "it's okay to marry someone who is not christian". Maybe your children will copy that

[chosenone]

Also, dont know if this other person is a Christian but dont go there if they arent anyway, it is a waste of time, and not what Gods wants for you. 

Why shouldn't I date someone who isn't Christian? I was just asking...do you think God would be angry at me if I was seeing someone who is Jewish? Because the Jews are God's chosen people, even though we are Gentiles. Just Wondering. Thanks

With aLL Serenity,
Morgan<33

 God very sensibly tells us not be uneaqually yoked with anyone who isnt a chirstian. A jewish person isnt a christian.Light and dark dont mix. One is following God and one is in Satans kingdom with very different standards and often morals.

[phantommagic]

women has a big chance to change her "faith to God" because she will be attracted to who her boyriend believe in (in this case faith to God)

[yesult]

     Hey everyone, I didn't really wanna bother anyone with this, and I'm not sure this is the right chatroom to post this in, but oh well.
     Let's just say in the Reader's Digest version, that I just had my heart broken, and all I want is just to know that I am not alone. I'm not asking for any advice or criticism, just for people to respond and say something like, "Hey, we've all been there and we know how it hurts." But to be more specific, this has to do with a certain guy that I had feelings for and now he's got a girlfriend. It sounds foolish - I know. But I'm gonna try to move on, and it's going to be really tough. It just hurts, ya know? Like when you see that person that you love and they're with someone else, that really stings. I just want be reassured that we've all been there, because it's really hard for me to deal with pain like this. The sad part of it is, I had to learn it the hard way. I am holding back tears, and I really feel horrible. And especially when you think that you can be with this person, and then so many people will bring you down and be like, "Oh you don't stand a chance," that adds to the pain. So many people have tried to bring me down, but I never gave up. I have been praying to God that He will give me the courage to fight to win this person's heart and now he's dating someone else. I just need reassurance, please?

Thank you for reading this,
xoxo Peace, Love, Serenity
~Morgan~

I think sometimes a danger we can face as christian, is trying to get God to do what we want him to do. So when something really important comes up - like a relationship, we can sub-conciously place God in a bit of fairy godmother role (believe me I've done this.)
It's like - God can do anything. God loves me, therefore God can change just this circumstance and this situation, and I'll live happily ever after. And God wants that.

But Gods ways arn't our ways. And sometimes his answer is no. If we've prayed and a situation just hasn't worked out - all we can really do is walk away and be as strong as we can about it.

*praying for you. I think most of us have been guilty of this and gotten a bit burned, at some stage, don't worry. (In fact the worst times it happens is when a couple actually end up together and get married when it wasn't Gods will.) So you might have gotten off lightly believe me. God knows the future as well as this guys character. And he is sovereign and does have our best interests at heart.

Hope that helps.

God bless