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Hi I am sad
« on: Thu Apr 05, 2018 - 15:42:55 »
I am sad. Really sad.  I wish men understood me. They never want to date me. I have sever anexity disorder and
I tell them. Then they don't answer my calls or call me back.
And i am sad and fustrated  i wont have a boyfriend because
of my mentail illness. And I feel like I am nothing to men. I am doing what Jesus wants me to do. I have been reading his words on Fridays. And sometimes going to church. I dont know if it is a fear or what. But men don't
want to give me a chance i am 33 can't drive a car. I know
people love me. But i am having a hard time right now.

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Re: Hi I am sad
« Reply #1 on: Thu Apr 05, 2018 - 15:57:31 »
I'm sorry you're so sad, Michelle.

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Re: Hi I am sad
« Reply #2 on: Thu Apr 05, 2018 - 19:51:56 »
It hurts that people do that to me. Its not fair i have something wrong. I wish people would give me a chance.

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Re: Hi I am sad
« Reply #3 on: Thu Apr 05, 2018 - 21:09:32 »
Michelle can you try and go to church more often? Maybe to a midweek group as well? I know its not easy but the more you can mix with people in a safe setting, the more confidence you will gain. I know that people who are anxious in social situations tend to stay away from people, but that can just make things worse.
Do you work?   Do you have hobbies? Interests?

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Re: Hi I am sad
« Reply #4 on: Thu Apr 05, 2018 - 23:57:12 »
I am sad. Really sad.  I wish men understood me. They never want to date me. I have sever anexity disorder and
I tell them. Then they don't answer my calls or call me back.
And i am sad and fustrated  i wont have a boyfriend because
of my mentail illness. And I feel like I am nothing to men. I am doing what Jesus wants me to do. I have been reading his words on Fridays. And sometimes going to church. I dont know if it is a fear or what. But men don't
want to give me a chance i am 33 can't drive a car. I know
people love me. But i am having a hard time right now.

If you have a severe anxiety disorder the last thing you should want is a boyfriend.
I am not sure if its fair for you to blame men for not understanding you or not wanting to pursue a relationship that is likely to be self-destructive.
Perhaps you should attempt to get a grip on your mental state first before you do something that may make things worse.

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Re: Hi I am sad
« Reply #5 on: Fri Apr 06, 2018 - 08:53:18 »
I know that. I just thought it would help me if I had a boyfriend.

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Re: Hi I am sad
« Reply #6 on: Sat Apr 07, 2018 - 21:17:29 »
So sorry as hope that you can rely on God first and foremost. Before anything or anybody else. As really people come and go. But God never leaves nor forsakes you. As He will listen to your thought and need no matter what Michelle!

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Re: Hi I am sad
« Reply #7 on: Sat Jun 02, 2018 - 19:28:20 »
Hi Michelle,

I was just strolling through christian forums when I happened on your post. When I started reading the replies I felt I also wanted to reach out and just validate you in what you are going through. Christ is all about the little details in our lives as well as the big ones, and he cares about everything we struggle with. I have struggled with depression, anxiety, etc throughout my life, even felt some of the things you've described due to insecurity at times. Now single again, the last thing I want to do is date. However what you struggle with is not an isolated struggle by far. And to be fair, it takes courage to admit the authentic parts of our lives, emotions, struggles, etc. Give yourself credit for doing so because you deserve it.

None of us are perfect and we all have our issues. If dating were left to perfect people or people who have it all together already surely it'd be a misrable existence for all. And while the best attractor is confidence, the reality is we attract people that mirrors our own personal level of confidence. People who suffer anxiety often struggle with reacting from fears rather than giving the truth a chance. And I get it. It helps to remember everyday that we have perfect love in Christ. We start with that perfect love everyday as the foundation, as the reality, as the inspiration that never fades. Why would Christ give you second best? Ultimately these times of singleness is reserved for the personal teaching of His perfect love for you. It means this is a special time in your life that God will not leave it to the imperfect love of others for you to know how much you are valued, how deeply intimate he is, how trustworthy he is, and faithful.

Can you imagine why God who created this vast universe, who brings kings to their knees, who rises the sun every morning would do everything he could do to be with us? I mean, we need community absolutely. And God created us for intimacy. Sometimes God allows personal struggles like anxiety, insecurity, depression, relationship struggles and whatever else to make us realize how much we need perfect love. And from that perfect love as a foundation we forgive and grow even in/with imperfect love, moving closer to his love.

If you are in Christ, yours or my personal issues aren't our personal issues, they are Christ's as well to hold in his grace, teaching, direction. This is what probably drew me to this post to encourage you. He loves you. He understands your struggle more than anyone else. He is gentle and kind. He doesn't want you to fix everything, just give it over to him so he can do wonderful and amazing things in your life when trusting him, his goodness, his direction and love. We indeed have that amazing God with a love that is over anything we can imagine it to be. It's so important to know he cares so much to reach out make us understand he does not criticism, condemn, or belittle our needs. He gave us needs, God sized needs because only he can fill them in the way we need. Don't give up to discouragement or despair my friend. Keep praying, get closer to him, seek him, for he delights in those who trust in his unfailing love. He has a purpose for your life, your relationships, your struggles.

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Re: Hi I am sad
« Reply #8 on: Wed Sep 12, 2018 - 10:06:27 »
Hey Michelle, perhaps you could join an outdoor pursuits group in your area where going out for gentle walks helps you meet up with similar people just wanting friendship? Or, join a local arts & crafts hobbyists' club where getting together will put you among interesting people, those who take kindly to befriending others. I joined an embroidery club once and made a couple of good friends I still know, and they visit us often. I wasn'gt looking for dating anyway; just wanted friendship and sharing ideas.

So perhaps that could be a poss? You never know who you might meet and having a shared hobby also makes a good foundation for friendship.  ::smile::

 

     
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