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« on: July 03, 2009, 11:51:22 AM »

Hi guys, this is my first post so here goes..
I go to a Christian school and I really like this girl in my form.  I'm in Year 8 and my Dad doesn't want me to get a girlfriend until University (which is ages away!). My mum says she wouldn't mind my sister getting a boyfriend after her GCSE's , and I suppose that applies to me getting a girlfriend too. I make her laugh and we talk loads when im sitting next to her in lessons. She seems to be in a similar situation to me, saying that she's also a Christian and her dad's funny about her getting a boyfriend at this age. I want to honour my parents (like it says in the Bible) but I also have a big crush on this girl. Should I wait till after my GCSE's and then ask my mum and dad permission to date this girl (that's if she'd like to go out with me) , or should I just give it up as a fantasy and wait till i'm a lot older. Thanks a lot guys..

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« Reply #1 on: July 04, 2009, 04:21:40 AM »

Unless you're planning to marry her, it is a fantasy. Dating is merely seeing if someone is the right person to marry. Anything else is using someone emotionally.

Fall in love. Bond emotionally. Fall out of love. Break up. Fall in love. Bond emotionally. Fall out of love. Break up.

Fall in love. Get married. Fall out of love. I want to get a divorce.


It's a wordly pattern that works against marriage, not for it.
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« Reply #2 on: July 04, 2009, 12:11:41 PM »

I think about marriage, but then I remember I'm only in year 8. I can sometimes imagine myself spending the rest of my life with this girl, but it's so far in the future I sometimes wonder why. Isn't dating about spending time with each other, and getting to know each other better? Thanks for your help.
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« Reply #3 on: July 04, 2009, 05:36:47 PM »

Is Year 8 like 8th grade?

Feel free to ask her out, eat lunch with her, get to know her friends and do the puppy love thing.  Don't kid yourself into thinking that its forever tho.  It doesn't even go home from school.
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« Reply #4 on: July 04, 2009, 06:50:51 PM »

If yawl hang out at school together there isn't going to be an issue in the world. Eat lunch together, talk on the phone together. I would strongly suggest that you not profess undying love for her at this point...you simply are going to make a fool of yourself.

When you start driving and then you want to see her outside of school...you might have an issue with your father then...maybe...but then maybe not.

You have to remember as a very young man you have yet to have the long-standing dealings with hormones that are rather new to your system as yet. (what, maybe five years at best?)

If I knew when I was your age what I know now....whooooo boy!!!...I probably wouldn't have lived to see this age so...it is part of God's wisdom that your shortsidedness exists and God has given you parents that are there to look out for you in such matters.  Your tastes and predelections have yet to fully develop and some of your experiences now are going to shape that...for both you and her.

Once you strike a match and blow it out you can't do it again...The match won't ever relight by striking it on a box again. So...avoid such heartbreaks by dating relatively few women ever seriously.  Or play the role of "big spender" and date the whole world giving your heart to none but a select few.

Be nice, be respectful and occasionally you might have to remind her to behave in such a fashion as well. Pondering Just cause they are women doesn't mean that they are perfect either. You only get one shot at youth...expend it wisely.
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« Reply #5 on: July 05, 2009, 07:35:01 AM »

Thanks for the advice guys :) Yep, Grade 8 is the same as year 8 here in England (or so Yahoo Answers told me..) .
I've asked God about it, and if he doesn't want me to get involved with this girl I guess he'll tell me, so I just have to wait and see what he says.

Thanks again :)
John
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« Reply #6 on: July 08, 2009, 10:18:02 AM »

Hi John  Smile

I think you should honor your parents and wait.... 

http://www.sermonaudio.com/search.asp?speakerWithinSource=&subsetCat=&subsetItem=&mediatype=&includekeywords=&keyword=Paul%5EWasher&keyworddesc=Paul+Washer&currsection=sermonsspeaker&AudioOnly=false&SpeakerOnly=true&keywordwithin=dating

Check out some of these sermons on the topic of dating when you get the chance.  Let me know what your thoughts are afterwards.
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