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Offline dothackzero

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Basically, I know that God is gonna provide me with a wife. But because I'm so shy, I'm having a problem doing my part and getting out there and talking and to make friends with girls. Basically, I have no idea how I'm gonna receive a girlfriend from God if I can't even get girls to notice me.

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Re: How are shy people supposed to do our part in finding a girlfriend?
« Reply #1 on: October 13, 2011, 08:58:31 PM »
Basically, I know that God is gonna provide me with a wife. But because I'm so shy, I'm having a problem doing my part and getting out there and talking and to make friends with girls. Basically, I have no idea how I'm gonna receive a girlfriend from God if I can't even get girls to notice me.


Gonna have to work a little on not being as shy.  And be yourself and talk to them.  Say Hi.  No cheesy pickup lines and what not.

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Re: How are shy people supposed to do our part in finding a girlfriend?
« Reply #2 on: October 13, 2011, 10:59:00 PM »
I'm just guessing here but I'm thinking it is not simply a matter of getting out there.
Shyness(i'm shy by nature) may have under the surface things that you may want to deal with before landing a wife and before you start having kids and bringing them up in your insecurities. Work on yourself and find out why you are the way you are. Push yourself to attend church, volunteer get around people of the opposite sex working on projects. get to where you can love yourself, see what makes you tick.

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Re: How are shy people supposed to do our part in finding a girlfriend?
« Reply #3 on: October 14, 2011, 07:23:33 PM »
You can enjoy being with Christian ladies, and not worry about if you are noticed; every one is special to Jesus. And the Christian ones love you ::smile::
Be patient, "with all lowliness and gentleness,
                       with longsuffering,
          bearing with one another in love," (Ephesians 4:2)

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Re: How are shy people supposed to do our part in finding a girlfriend?
« Reply #4 on: November 16, 2011, 04:39:05 PM »
Basically, I know that God is gonna provide me with a wife. But because I'm so shy, I'm having a problem doing my part and getting out there and talking and to make friends with girls. Basically, I have no idea how I'm gonna receive a girlfriend from God if I can't even get girls to notice me.


How do you know that God is going to provide you with a wife? 

God has not given a spririt of fear (shy,cowardly) but of Power, Love and a sound mind.

Pray to God and ask him to help you to demonstrate this Power, Love and sound mind.

Also, God says he doesn't like cowards.


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Re: How are shy people supposed to do our part in finding a girlfriend?
« Reply #5 on: December 13, 2011, 03:48:15 PM »
I don't think being yourself is always the answer. What if you are an untinteresting, ugly fat slob? I think it is OK to try to improve yourself and look for tactics for meeting women. I just started dating a girl 3 weeks ago. I met her at a work conference. I found a reason to talk to her (asked her about her laptop). A couple hours later I had her phone number. When I go through the checkout line of a cute clerk at a grocery store I say "How's the grocery business?". Home Depot "How's the home improvement business?". It starts a conversation pretty much every time. In my view the key to meeting women is not to care about being rejected. Half of us are boys and the other half girls. There is someone out there for you. By that I don't mean there is just one right one. I mean that if you try hard enough you will find someone. I've been rejected a few times and it sucks but I've also had a few girlfriends and been married, none of which would have happened if I didn't try.

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Re: How are shy people supposed to do our part in finding a girlfriend?
« Reply #6 on: December 13, 2011, 04:08:09 PM »
Just don't ask an elevator repairman about his/her job...  Cause it has it's ups and downs...
I'm just a sinner trying to do the best that I can.

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Re: How are shy people supposed to do our part in finding a girlfriend?
« Reply #7 on: December 14, 2011, 08:18:09 AM »
Just don't ask an elevator repairman about his/her job...  Cause it has it's ups and downs...
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Thats the attitude! Its not always easy to remember but finding a girlfriend should be fun

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Re: How are shy people supposed to do our part in finding a girlfriend?
« Reply #8 on: December 14, 2011, 08:51:25 AM »
Matthew 6:25-34 talks about not worrying about the things we need for this life. Because God say's for us to not worry at all. I take what the author mentions as examples, and include wives, children, and any other needs we could be concerned about for life.

The most important part of this to me is versus 33 and 34, where it says to seek 1st the Kingdom of God and His Righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you (Remembering that God's will should always be a part of whatever your seeking as part of the final outcome, being willing to accept whatever He chooses for you).

Being shy to me is no different than being outgoing or in the middle, it's probably just who you are at this point in your life and no big deal. Actively seeking God, and seeking to server Him and others will put you in contact with people automatically.

I was shy too when I first became a Christian, and I too wanted to get past my shyness, and get to know people at church, so I volunteered to be a greeter. Worked like a charm, and I even met my wife there.

My goal wasn't to find a wife, it was to honor God. This and other lessons I've learned so far, is that don't do things so God can bless you. He already knows your needs and His plans for you, and His desire is to bless you - His way.

As in Matthew 6, set out on a path that "Seeks 1st the Kingdom of God", and creates a pattern of choices for serving God and growing for your whole life because of "Eternity", and freedom from worry, believing in your heart that God loves you personally - Jer. 29:11-14, and will care for your needs way beyond what you could ever do for yourself.

God bless on your wonderful journey of honoring The Lord  ::smile::.