I don't think I will ever trust men

[ConqueredbyLove]

As a little girl - it seems simple -and, yes, I was betrayed by my father and his father.

Abused, dear heart?

[Cally]

babe:

Thanks so much for your testimony and input. That was really effective.   

[chosenone]

hehealedme
A reason that people cheat on a really good and nice spouse is the same reasonn why others stay in a relationship where they are constantly beaten up. In other words neither are understandable or fathomable to me.

Why did my husbands ex have an affair with another man when she had a good and goldy man for a husband?. I havent a clue. he is honetly the best and nicest man I have ever met. I think she is mad to have let him go.She will never find a better man than him.

As for other reasons why people leave good spouses, take your pick, people go agaisnt God, they get blinded by Satan, they are selfish, they have low morals, they dont get the faithfullness thing, they want  their own selfish desires to be met despite their spouse and children, they are 'bored', they want that constant 'in love' feleing', they dont want to keep their promises made to their spouse, they think the grass is greener (which it usually isnt), they have no discipline or self control, they have no boundaries in place, they allow themselves to get too close to another person, they rebel against God, they justify it by saying that their spouse wasnt meeting their 'needs', the list could go on and on.

[yesult]

hehealedme
A reason that people cheat on a really good and nice spouse is the same reasonn why others stay in a relationship where they are constantly beaten up. In other words neither are understandable or fathomable to me.

Ditto.

I can understand the cheaters more because some are just (I was about to say ugly people but that might not express it in the best way). Some people are simply willing to sacrifice anothers trust and happiness to 'fulfill' (or think they will) their idea of what they deserve.
It's lousy.

God gave it the death penalty and he's love. That's how seriously he views it (only because of the consequences.) However in our society where the rules arn't his, you can't institute the same thing fairly. But it has to be one of the lowest and most devestating things you can do to a person.

However that being said, I've met people who have cheated and I wouldn't have guessed they were capable of something like that because they seemed like such normal and decent people. Although I always knew them after years of being a christian so that might have been part of it.

[Luna]

You know the other thing is that if you really "love" your gay friends you'd be doing them a gigantic favor by moving them away from that lifestyle, among (probably) other things.

Do you move someone away from being born with their color of skin or heritage?  Being gay is who they are.....no one has the ability, or the right, to try to move them away from their orientation.  Even the American Psychological Association, after decades of research and studies, have concluded this is not possible.

The color of your skin or heritage is not something you can choose, being gay is a lifestyle choice.

And it can be hard to trust guys sometimes, but you can't let what happened to you in the past keep you done in the future :)

[walker starr]

        I will admit it.  I only want one thing.  I want popcorn.   

[JohnDB]

        I will admit it.  I only want one thing.  I want popcorn.   

Mind if I join you?

And if Elaine doesn't wish to date...so what?
No crime or problem in being single...it is much more free than being married.
And if I remember right...highly encouraged in the Bible by Paul.

[yesult]

        I will admit it.  I only want one thing.  I want popcorn.   

  yum yum

[chosenone]

hehealedme
A reason that people cheat on a really good and nice spouse is the same reasonn why others stay in a relationship where they are constantly beaten up. In other words neither are understandable or fathomable to me.

Ditto.

I can understand the cheaters more because some are just (I was about to say ugly people but that might not express it in the best way). Some people are simply willing to sacrifice anothers trust and happiness to 'fulfill' (or think they will) their idea of what they deserve.
It's lousy.

God gave it the death penalty and he's love. That's how seriously he views it (only because of the consequences.) However in our society where the rules arn't his, you can't institute the same thing fairly. But it has to be one of the lowest and most devestating things you can do to a person.

However that being said, I've met people who have cheated and I wouldn't have guessed they were capable of something like that because they seemed like such normal and decent people. Although I always knew them after years of being a christian so that might have been part of it.

 

yes, and this applied to my brothers 2 wives. I loved both of my sisters in law and they both seemed lovely. The first left him when their little boy was only 3 or 4. The whole family were devastated. She left that guy and then married another and that marriage lasted 3 months.
The second wife had 4 affairs (we found out after she left him for the guy she had her 4th affair with). Again none if us could believe it, She seemed lovely, we got on so well, and I thought so much of her.She left their 2 teenage children with him also. None  of us could believe that she could be like that, but sadly she was and is.
My ex husbands sister did the same. I got on so well with her. She got bored with her husband and had an affair and they divorced.Again we were all so shocked.
My husband said he just couldn't believe that his wife could ever have another relationship and divorce him (and she is a christian)so we never know what people are capable of do we.

As you can see it is mainly women in our families who have cheated which is becoming more and more common these days.I hate cheating, it appalls me that anyone could do something so terrible and devastating to someone who they claimed to love.

[yesult]

I hate cheating, it appalls me that anyone could do something so terrible and devastating to someone who they claimed to love.

Me too 

[Richard]

Women only want one thing, financial security.

See how silly that sounds? I believe the truth is, we all want the same thing - to love and be loved. To a lot of men, that looks like sex and to a lot of women that looks like financial security. The fact that so many of us are confused about our true feelings doesn't mean we are bad people, it means we are spiritually immature people. There is a remedy for that but it takes some effort.

[babe]

Doesn't  sound silly at all.

Without  God we're all outta tune and off balance, and overly influenced by one or a few immediate concerns.

Not that any of these concerns are exactly invalid or despicable.

Just that they are acting a bit like the missing God.

[chosenone]

Women only want one thing, financial security.

See how silly that sounds? I believe the truth is, we all want the same thing - to love and be loved. To a lot of men, that looks like sex and to a lot of women that looks like financial security. The fact that so many of us are confused about our true feelings doesn't mean we are bad people, it means we are spiritually immature people. There is a remedy for that but it takes some effort.

 I cant actually relate to the financial security thing as being all that I really want. To me there are far more important thngs than that. I have actually had real financial struggles throughout much of my life, and was a single mum for 6 years, but arent we supossed to trust God to provide?

[babe]

Women only want one thing, financial security.

See how silly that sounds? I believe the truth is, we all want the same thing - to love and be loved. To a lot of men, that looks like sex and to a lot of women that looks like financial security. The fact that so many of us are confused about our true feelings doesn't mean we are bad people, it means we are spiritually immature people. There is a remedy for that but it takes some effort.

 I cant actually relate to the financial security thing as being all that I really want. To me there are far more important thngs than that. I have actually had real financial struggles throughout much of my life, and was a single mum for 6 years, but arent we supossed to trust God to provide?

A response like that disqualifies you for claiming you're "high maintenance". 

That trust must have worked out OK.

[chosenone]

Women only want one thing, financial security.

See how silly that sounds? I believe the truth is, we all want the same thing - to love and be loved. To a lot of men, that looks like sex and to a lot of women that looks like financial security. The fact that so many of us are confused about our true feelings doesn't mean we are bad people, it means we are spiritually immature people. There is a remedy for that but it takes some effort.

 I cant actually relate to the financial security thing as being all that I really want. To me there are far more important thngs than that. I have actually had real financial struggles throughout much of my life, and was a single mum for 6 years, but arent we supossed to trust God to provide?

A response like that disqualifies you for claiming you're "high maintenance". 

That trust must have worked out OK.

 

You are right I am not high maintenance and actually very easy to please.Thankfully all of my three kids are like that as well and my husband is one of the easiest people to please that I have ever met. It make such a difference.