If I never married...

[JohnDB]

Since my first year anniversary is coming up...

I can honestly say that if something were to happen to my current wife I don't think I would do it again. I got too many places and things to do...most women absolutely want anything to do with a lifestyle and goals such as mine....even if they were  committed to God...they simply won't have it. Even this wife may be committed...but she is balking about the what, when, how, where, and why now...

Her real ideals are coming out now...but there is no going back...come hell or high water that is the direction I am going...she can come of she likes but if she doesn't she will get left behind...I ain't staying.

It isn't like I didn't tell her what and where and how and why....gave her every warning and caution. 

Since so few women want that...even from the numerous women that I knew when single...I seriously doubt that any woman would want that. I am fun to be around and I love to play...but

[Elaine]

This poll is for those who are single, both those who have never been married and those who find themselves single again due to the loss of a spouse by death or divorce.
If you never married (or never married again) would you be satisfied with your life?

Are you kidding, I'm free. I'm finally free. And never happier now for 3.5 years!
Never want to be in a relationship ever again.  It takes way too much focus off of God.   

 "Ahh, yes let's focus on this transitory illusion that will leave you or die."

We all have our different backgrounds and perspectives and callings --that's mine.
Yours are not wrong or right -and neither is mine.   To each his own.

[chosenone]

This poll is for those who are single, both those who have never been married and those who find themselves single again due to the loss of a spouse by death or divorce.
If you never married (or never married again) would you be satisfied with your life?

Are you kidding, I'm free. I'm finally free. And never happier now for 3.5 years!
Never want to be in a relationship ever again.  It takes way too much focus off of God.   

 "Ahh, yes let's focus on this transitory illusion that will leave you or die."

We all have our different backgrounds and perspectives and callings --that's mine.
Yours are not wrong or right -and neither is mine.   To each his own.

 Yes Elaine some maybe are better off single and maybe that is for you. If that is where tyou7 feel fulfilled than they is brilliant.

Marriage like singleness is also a calling, and some people I know REALLY  havent  got a clue how to deal with the give an take of marriage and how to make another person happy.  I have seen it.

As for me. I always wanted to marry and have children. It was in me from my childhood,and when I was 15 I used to knit baby clothes ( I think my mum got a bit concerned at this point).

After my divorce( after 25 years of marriage) I did think that I may never marry again (due to the distinct lack of available Christiian guys in their late 40s and early 50's.lol) but I did hope that I would. When God found me my husband well over 4 years ago, I coudnt have been happier . I am called to marriage. I get closer to God IN marriage than I do out of marriage, which is the opposite of you isnt it. I LOVE being married but that is just me and everyone is different. Our differences are what make us unique.
 

[Elaine]

Oh boy, chosenone, I've just found out my best friend has been hiding from everyone ---bec of shame--that her husband is a sex addict and a rage-o-holic ----I knew he had bi-polar problems but...He's the most handsome man and a multi-millionaire!

They are going through so much ---is there any hope for the common person to find a normal healthy partner??

I don't know anymore!! (I actually do know it's possible ---but it does take alot of work or divine grace.)

[Lynette_g2000]

I have spent many years in pursuit of Love or something near to it and been miserable every moment.  I woke up one day and said Lord here I am I will be what you want, stop chasing my own selfish  desires and chase you. 

I was happier immediately.  Would I like a husband? certainly.  I will be just as happy of I do not go out with another man until Jesus comes and gets me. 

So yes I am busy being happy and single right now. 

Of course I have been married and it was not enjoyable at all. 

Great question. 

[IamStefanie]

God gives some the gift of singleness and others the gift of marriage. That's what Paul wrote....
I believe it...
I have never been married, but I have been in many  'relationships' and none have been successful (defintely not be God's standards), if you will...but they have all been for a purpose and the most beautiful place I am at now is having a REAL RELATIONSHIP with God thru Christ. It's beautiful. The time I get to spend with God. It's so awesome to know that He can be with me and be with you at the same time! I know I don't have that kind of power! But, having a relationship with God has allowed me work on my present relationships: with my child, parents, brother, friends, other relatives, even my co-workers. I have been allowed to bump my head and cry to God by myself without having to worry if someone does or does not understand  me. I can go to God when I feel like it, day or night. This, to me, is a major benefit of God's gift of singleness.
Now, I know some of you may say that you can have this same thing in a marriage. I'm not going to argue that point. I'm sure you can (because I know if I get married, my husband will be a godly man who knows God, therefore, understanding me shouldnt be that hard, LOL). However, the bible says when you are single, your interests are more of pleasing God and not your spouse. It didn't say that it was bad, it is what it is. I would like be married, one day. But I've grown to know that it's not what makes ME!!! And that is so much freedom! I do get shook up sometimes when I'm like, OMG, no companionship?? But I come back to reality because I have PLENTY of companionship. God is so good to me! He gives me companiship with Him, my family and friends. I know family and friends could go away, but I praise Him for supplying me with ALL of my needs.
So I know that I am content with my 'singledom' and I am getting the best use out of it.
Again, I know that Paul writes that singleness is a gift so, sure, there is a possiblity that I will not be married, but God will make that decision. I'm doing my part (the best that I can, of course) by living a holy life (that has been more of the challenge than dealing with 'singledom'), following His commandments, and loving others....

[JohnnO]

I was married for 18 years when M went home. I am well trained to be a good husband. It would be a shame to let these valuable skills (and all those years of training) go to waste. As Chosenone said, I feel closer to God within marriage than without.

As a single dad I have no time for ministry beyond my daughter. I have no helpmate in my life.

If I were to never marry again I would look on my life as an almost total waste. If God is going to keep me on the shelf he may as well take me home now.

This is not to say that I am depressed or despondent yet, after all I still have a couple years to meet someone and have more kids, but my life has been so focused on being a good Godly husband and father for the last 22 years that I do not know how to be a single anymore.  It is not good for man to be alone.

[yesult]

It is not good for man to be alone.

I agree, it's not the natural state for a human being. The bible mentions it as a gift for some people, and also advisable in some situations. But that doesn't mean it's healthy for everyone.