Is anybody else confused??

[Cross-titled]

Guys,

I've been where you guys are with the singles thing and have survived it.  I really haven't talked much about it, vocally with very few and never on this board.  Maybe one of these days.  God worked on me, in me, through me, massaged me, molded me and just kinda threw me out there.  I've landed on my feet in more ways than one since then.  Just know He loves you and will provide for you.

[msbradley]

Cross, as soon as He's finished with me, I'm giving you a manna. Ok, I'll give it to you now. Even though I don't want to yet. I'm tired of not having someone special! I have a friend (married) that tells me to get out, he's not going to come knocking on your door. Well, I'm tired of getting out, ABM (all by myself)!

To DCR, I say (type) things like that even if I am not familiar with you.

Watch out!!!

[EruditeJoy]

Guys,

I've been where you guys are with the singles thing and have survived it.  I really haven't talked much about it, vocally with very few and never on this board.  Maybe one of these days.  God worked on me, in me, through me, massaged me, molded me and just kinda threw me out there.  I've landed on my feet in more ways than one since then.  Just know He loves you and will provide for you.

Thank you so much for the encouragement, Cross-titled. 

I believe that my Heavenly Father knows my heart and all its desires....and fears.  In this area, as in all areas of my life, it's a matter of taking up my cross daily and saying "Lord, Your will, not mine, be done."  I don't always succeed, but God's tender mercies are new every morning, and I wake up and try it again.

I have always struggled to patiently wait on God's timing.  Perhaps, now, He is teaching me what it truly means to abide in Him.  For some reason, I always believed that abiding wasn't supposed to hurt.  But, sometimes,  it does. 

Silly me.

[msbradley]

Hey EJ, I relate with the patience thing. I tend to ask Him why, hmmm I guess I whine to Him too. I've even found myself asking Him how long do you expect me to be patient? That probably restarts His clock back to  zero for me. I understand His will is the best and only. It's so hard to assure myself I'm listening to Him. I made a decision about a month ago not to get into a relationship with someone. I see him now with a girlfriend and I find myself wondering if I really went the way I was supposed to , or am I playing myself the fool with Satan. It's really scary for me to know what is right. 

[janine]

Speaking from the other end of a 25-year marriage --

It ain't all it's cracked up to be.  Of course that's easy to say with a spouse in the house and kids behind me.

Even in a happy marriage you'll occasionally find yourself looking back wistfully at those days when it was only you, and you alone under God, who made all the decisions for your life.

[DCR]

Do you suppose that sentiment depends on how old (or how young) you were when you were married?  I suspect someone who was married in their late teens or early twenties (a little too young, in my opinion) might tend to have more regrets about missing out on a single life than, say, someone in their thirties who's never been married.

[msbradley]

AMEN, DCR!!!
I give manna to you!!

[memmy]

Does that make sense?

Perfect sense JAIA!

[spurly]

Just say no, spurly.  Sheesh.

Under what conditions, in what venue, do you get to spend enough time around people to know if you might like to ask them out?

In Bible study classes, at church fellowship dinners, at church picnics, at Sunday School parties, working on service projects with church groups, etc.

[angeleyes]

Hello Everyone,

This is regarding what DCR said.[qDo you suppose that sentiment depends on how old (or how young) you were when you were married?  I suspect someone who was married in their late teens or early twenties (a little too young, in my opinion) might tend to have more regrets about missing out on a single life than, say, someone in their thirties who's never been married.
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I am still young but I hate being single sometimes. I feel that as a young Christian woman I have had enough experience to know what I want and what I need. So I feel that experience is more the issue for me than age.
I also believe that men in my age group are so used to women asking them out that they don't feel that it is necessary to ask a woman out on a date. I also feel that in a way it is better to get married when you are younger because in your adolescent ages your hormones are all over the place and like the Bible says "it is better to marry than to burn in passion". To make the long story short, no matter what age you are I feel that just about everyone will have some regrets, but I rather get married than to have to later on regret going to hell. When I'll get married? That is of course up to God, I just hope and pray that it is sooner than later.


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[sobern90]

If you like someone or want a dinner partner so you are not alone ask  what harm is it going to do.

I am 50 and I get tired of eating out alone and so I ask others to join me.  Friendship is the start of all good relationships and that takes at least one person having the courage to say "hey would you liek to go out?"

[sobern90]

sorry can't type..

should have said "hey would you like to go out"