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Offline Hiswarrior123

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2 months ago I met this guy at work. He has asked me out, and I said no-due to being a Christian and knowing how it says in the Bible that it is unwise to do so, that it states not to be yoked to unbelievers.
I have formed feelings for this guy, he is different to most. I am not meaning this in a romantic sort of way, more of the way that he stands out from the crowd with how respectful, caring and honest he is (i see this at work).

Since he asked me out he has asked me and we have discussed some Christian topics, he seems quite interested in Christianity and God-he was not raised in a Christian home.
He also said to me how he is open to Christianity and how since meeting me, I have opened his eyes to it. He says that this is not for me, but because of me.

I really like the way he respects those around me and he is so humble.

I also am falling for him! And don't know if this is wrong or right. I am a little confused, since he is so polite and unlike even other guys who say they are Christian.

What are your views on this topic? I know it was quite an explanation about whats been happening but i'm telling you guys this because i am clueless as what to do.

:) just interested in your perspectives/what you would do! ::smile::

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Re: Is dating non-christians okay when they are open to Christianity?
« Reply #1 on: Thu Jul 21, 2011 - 06:06:24 »

Hi again, and I say no for the reasons listed I posted on your other thread.  ::smile::

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Re: Is dating non-christians okay when they are open to Christianity?
« Reply #2 on: Sat Oct 01, 2011 - 10:16:47 »
Dating a person is a personal issue. There is nothing bad in it but remember, 'iron sharpens iron'. Does the person share your beliefs, does he/she believe in God, does he believe in the bible. Read AMOS 3 VS 3.

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Re: Is dating non-christians okay when they are open to Christianity?
« Reply #3 on: Sat Oct 01, 2011 - 10:17:25 »
Dating a person is a personal issue. There is nothing bad in it but remember, 'iron sharpens iron'. Does the person share your beliefs, does he/she believe in God, does he believe in the bible. Read AMOS 3 VS 3.

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Re: Is dating non-christians okay when they are open to Christianity?
« Reply #4 on: Sat Oct 01, 2011 - 23:35:33 »
I would say that it is not a good idea. Its great that he is interested, but what happens if he never makes that committment to God? YOu will then have to choose God or him. I would say to be friends, but not to date at this time and explain why to him. If he is a nice man, he will understand. 

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Re: Is dating non-christians okay when they are open to Christianity?
« Reply #5 on: Sun Oct 02, 2011 - 11:19:06 »
Water finds its own level.

The real issue isn't his relationship with Christ but yours in this situation. Sure non-believers can have attractive appearances but their focus is vastly different than yours. Being a Christian isn't about morality or humility although many of us are.

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Re: Is dating non-christians okay when they are open to Christianity?
« Reply #6 on: Tue Nov 01, 2011 - 11:46:46 »
Dating a person is a personal issue. There is nothing bad in it but remember, 'iron sharpens iron'. Does the person share your beliefs, does he/she believe in God, does he believe in the bible. Read AMOS 3 VS 3.

I agree. I mean, you know what the Bible says. The scripture doesn't change. It all depends on how we receive the information.

See, intially, when you met him, you knew he wasn't Christian, but he is kind/respectful, etc. Now, that you have fallen for him, it's hard to let go. I think that's why you have been given advice by the other posters here to NOT date a non-christian to begin with. But again, it is a personal issue.

So, I'll answer you question, if it were me? Knowing what I know now, I would find out about this person before I decide to date them. Ok, for example, if I met Joe Blow at the job and we are attracted to each other. He asks me out, I'm not going to say 'oh by the way, are you Christian? Because if you're not, it's a no no!.' I would say something like, yes, we can talk over coffee away from work and see how that goes. And for me, being that my faith is very important to me, I would mention it our first meeting. If I find out he is not Christian, my best bet is to no longer go on a date with him.

Now, being someone who enjoys good company and hasn't dated in almost 3 years, that would be a challenge I guess. But knowing WHO I know and what I know now, I would have to be smart about it. No point of sharing your soul with someone who doesn't believe in the same Savior that you do.