I first got married at 19, so not a lot of time to be single then. After 25 years my marriage suddenly ended and I then had 6 years as a single parent. It was an awful time for me as I was ill, in debt, had three very unhappy and hurting children and no family to turn to.(parents had died some time before.)So I guess for me my time as a single person was bad and I wasn't able to make anything of it.
I think its brilliant that you are able to have that chance, but sort of sad that you couldn't do that in your marriage.
Since I married again, I have come alive, many of the pressures are off me, I am not in debt, and much better physically,and am now able to get more involved in things and friends etc. I go to the gym and swimming regularly, eat healthily and am thriving spiritually.
Do you think that some of us thrive more as single people and some more as married people?
Actually, I've yet to be married. I have been in several ungodly relationships though - fornicating, 'shacking up', etc. But these two years I have not been in a 'serious' relationship(still tried to operate off of old ideas but to no success - thank God!) and my next relationship will lead to marriage (smile). And I believe the reason I did not do any these things (as far as where I'm at now) was because I needed to come to Christ first (hindsight I guess). And as I continue to seek the kingdom, I feel more complete.
But, I do desire to be in a marriage and I know in God's time it will happen - I just believe that. But I'm just enjoying this time in my life. I don't think being single is better than married or the vice versa, necessarily. And I believe both are gifts at the appropriat time. It's all in the idea of being content with who you are (as Paul said) and making the best of it. So that's where my mindset is.
Now, do I think some of us thrive more being single or being married? Yes, probably. And the reasonings could be vast so I won't get into all of that because that's more on a matter of opinion but I think so. Some people work better as a 'team' while others work well solo. But there are also people who thrive one way or the other...