Masterbation is not a sin as long as it is not done lusting after someone (I will not acnolage anyones retort on this issue unless you can provide concret scriptral proof that its a sin for EVERYONE not just Er lol). The bible states that if you burn with passion you should marry. Im not saying just marry anyone but a sex drive like that ought to motivate you to get on some christian dating sites, find christian dating singles groups, etc. Finding a mate is not some magical experience, it takes work just like getting a degree or finding a job. I feel there is very little guidance in chruch as to how to go about finding a mate (or even facilitation of dating in chruch) but there is plenty of condemnation if you act out, shame on the church for setting people up for failure. I believe in providing real solutions people can work with (as I am an engineer lol) and my clients dont appreciate "well pray about it and Jesus will guide the way" lol. If you are talking to christians and they are not offering you clear consise usefull information then they are just taking the easy way out. Im not saying not to pray, but prayer is most useful when your hand is already on the wrench and you just need a little (or alot lol) help to turn it, if you are sitting on the couch and you have not even gone to the store to buy the wrench you are dead in the water. You can also set up a profile on craigslist. I will issue one word of warning, most guys want to test drive before they buy, this is because feminism has very deep roots in the church, men have alot to loose and not much to gain by getting married. The feminism in church has drasticly set men up for failure and then when they do fail the church beats them over the head for it eventually causing them to leave (this is the story of my life lol, luckily it only cost me a year and a half alot of guys suffer for years with a sexually neglectful wife before they pull the ejection seat), the days of the submissive wife are long gone so its like a mine field for us guys to even attempt to be godly in the area of sex. Women are trying to take on the role of the male and want the men to be submissive and that is a sick twisted evil perversion.