Kyla,
As a woman in her late twenties, I would recommend that you only seek your husband at church or christian events. Do not trust the internet for dating. If someone in a random thread catches your eye-fine-but donot go on personals sites. CRAIGSLIST is a cesspool of prostitutes and pedophiles. Please trust me on this one Kyla. There are many books which can teach you what the dating world is really about.
I understand that you are seeking marriage, however, it's going to involve being friends first and perhaps not liking your first "choice." Make FRIENDS with a few guys so you can learn which personality is your fave. By all means donot give in to their or your sexual impulses. It only leads to heartache. Building a healthy friendship and learning what you want in a man comes first. If you give yourself sexually your decision making will end up masked by those feelings of love-which really are just lust, not love. Therefore, personal sites will not be a good choice for a young christian lady seeking a man of substance who isn't just looking for his next lay. Be careful of men on christian sites who are hunting virgins. This is why it is not wise to answer questions about your virginity. any man who asks that question first has THAT first on his list-this is not a man who wants a christian wife to love and grow with. This may possibly be one of the "fake christians" who believe in keeping a slave and twists God's words to brain wash women. This world is full of liars and sin. Many people use the information you share with them to put on a mask and fool you into thinking they are at your level. I would ask alot of questions and be careful not to share too much too soon, talk about the bible, talk about their goals, ask questions such as "what type of woman are you seeking" "do you ever look at porn" these questions may help you see into their mind unless they are hiding. Eventually, the truth always comes out. This is why it's necessary to take it very slow, so as not to regret moving in haste and getting burned. Sorry to sound pessimistic. You seem like a lovely young lady and I hope I have helped you to protect your heart. Otherwise, always remember that lessons are important in life. So mistakes are ok. But don't say that no one ever told you that you should not give in to a mans sexual need before he commits to you through marriage. Many men are not willing to do that these days. WHY BUY THE COW WHEN THE MILK IS FREE?? Don't be one of those easy girls who go through life in bitterness and insecurities due to a lack of self worth. I aslo hope that you won't be naive enough to become anyone's slave. LEARN about men by reading and alking to friends and loved ones. Maybe it's a sign of how intelligent you really are by coming to this site first before fallling into the trap of online dating. Get a college degree and be someone of worth-who can support herself, if need be. Because nothing in life is guaranteed, you don't want to be dependant on anyne or anything to live a happy, content life.
I know if you trust in God and stay true to yourself by
reading the bible and self help books
attending church and surrounding yourself with christians like yourself
remaining a virgin with out telling men until you've decided that he is a true christian and has known you long enough
serving God first and not a man
building healthy friendships with true christians who won't mislead you etc
you will find what you are seeking.
So focus on exactly what you want and build yourself. Then you'll find a man who will genuinely be worthy of you
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