I wonder when the line is crossed between wanting something and being desperate for it? When I became single again after 23 years of marriage, I knew that as a 40 something Christian lady, the chances of me meeting a similar age Christisn available guy was very small. I accepted that(what choice did I have?) but after recovering for 3 or 4 years, I just I REALLY wanted to marry again, but it had to be the right man, not just any old man and definitely not a non believer.
Was I desperate? I don't think so. I wouldn't have settled for any old guy. Did I really desire to meet a good Christian guy? Yes. Was I happy to meet him? Wow yes! Am I happy to be married again? yes. Would I have been happy if I was still alone? Well I love being married I have to say, and I don't like being single.
I have met ladies who seem very content being single and that's brilliant. I am pleased for them, and I suppose that we are all different aren't we.
I have to say though, that I don't believe the old, 'when you stop looking and are happy and content as a single person you will find someone'. I was being proactive when I found my husband, on a Christian dating site, as were about 7 or 8 couples that I know who also met this way. Being totally desperate must show though, and must be a turn off.