Well, I note that 777 posted this on April 3, and it is now April 25. Where is he? Just like this girl, he is not getting back in touch with us, either.
Not sure what was up with this girl...but I know I used to go on eharmony just to check messages as well. I was praying to God as I used that website, that the "right one" would be made evident to me if he existed in any of my contacts. eharmony would send me messages to converse with everyone...but I didn't. I am not going to be that involved in trying to find a mate. My mate choice is more up to God and less up to me. I had one particular criteria I was looking for in their survey answers, and none of them were answering in what I considered a Christ centered way. So, I hardly contacted any of them. Some of us do not live life as though the goal for a single is to get married. Some of us work on enjoying our singleness, and we try to keep our focus off "God, where is he/she?" I admit, I have met very few Christian singles with this attitude. But who we marry is totally God's choice (or should be). Adam was single and doing as God had comissioned him...then, God brought him his mate. It was God who said "It's not good for man to be alone," and who decided when it was time for Adam to have a wife. So, I was not trying to avoid any of those guys for any other reason than God did not tell me to get involved with them. I was upfront with one of them as soon as I saw the negative trend in things...and just told him why I could not continue.
Men and women need to get over the game playing mentality. As Christians aren't we just looking for the one God has chosen us to be with to fufill our life's purpose with? If I meet a guy and get to know him a little and then it comes plain to me he is not God's choice for me, I will find some way to tell him this plainly. I told one guy very honestly that I knew what I was looking for and wouldn't stop until I found it (right to his face), and we are still friends and talk all the time. Honestly IS the best policy![/font]