Physical Attraction

[Fem2009]

Maybe I am too picky, but I did "try" to like him, because I liked his personality over the phone.  In person, he was slightly repulsive and overweight.  I am probably being picky, but I feel that I am allowed to be picky, as I will have to sleep with the person that I marry, and don't want to be "repulsed" by this person, I want to enjoy that intimate relationship.  

I will agree that it is very important to find someone loyal, loving and honest, but I also feel that the person that God has for me will also be someone that I am not grossed out by.  I did not say he has to be "Brad Pitt".  I do think he has to be "somewhat good looking".  Not perfect, but at the least not someone I am slightly repulsed by.  I don't think God would want me to settle for someone and end up unhappily married.

I don't think you're being too picky. What's wrong with not wanting to marry someone who grosses you out?

It's vain. People aren't gonna ever be 100% what you dream about. They change, life throws curve balls at you. We all have our down & out moments where we need the support and devotion of loved ones. If you know what babies are like, then you'd understand that you're gonna get grossed out once in a while by people you claim to love. What happens when your guy decides you gross him out? Especially when you're older we go right back to that helpless stage. Would it be wrong for him to walk out on you? You can have a true caring heart or you can let little things get to you. It is your choice, after all.

[Fem2009]

My husband always told me he thought I was "beautiful"............long story short.

He told me I would make a good wife for someone but not for him because he did not want a Christian wife..........he wanted someone to drink and party with him and that was not me.

I rededicated my life to the Lord several years after we were married and it all went down hill from there..............EXCEP T MY RELATIONSHIP WITH THE LORD..........IT IS THRIVING !!!!!

He has the "right" one for me somewhere !!!

Our divorce will be final next month.

Best Wishes to you!
In a way, I am in the same boat as you were. Except he wants me to be super loose/sexy looking. It started innocently with requests for heels instead of flip-flops, hair down instead of up, why don't you ever wear make-up for ME? Then the requests became larger. I was blinded at first. Now I am aware that is just not who I want to be. It took a while to catch on. Nevertheless, God loves me unconditionally and when HE comes first I am at my happiest!

[kensington]

David was peeping where he wasn't supposed to be peeping.

love,

sopranette

Yep...  "At a time when men went to war, David stayed home"...  If David had been where he belonged...     He would not have seen Bathsheba to begin with. 

[yesult]

Maybe I am too picky, but I did "try" to like him, because I liked his personality over the phone.  In person, he was slightly repulsive and overweight.  I am probably being picky, but I feel that I am allowed to be picky, as I will have to sleep with the person that I marry, and don't want to be "repulsed" by this person, I want to enjoy that intimate relationship.  

I will agree that it is very important to find someone loyal, loving and honest, but I also feel that the person that God has for me will also be someone that I am not grossed out by.  I did not say he has to be "Brad Pitt".  I do think he has to be "somewhat good looking".  Not perfect, but at the least not someone I am slightly repulsed by.  I don't think God would want me to settle for someone and end up unhappily married.

I don't think you're being too picky. What's wrong with not wanting to marry someone who grosses you out?

It's vain. People aren't gonna ever be 100% what you dream about. They change, life throws curve balls at you. We all have our down & out moments where we need the support and devotion of loved ones. If you know what babies are like, then you'd understand that you're gonna get grossed out once in a while by people you claim to love. What happens when your guy decides you gross him out? Especially when you're older we go right back to that helpless stage. Would it be wrong for him to walk out on you? You can have a true caring heart or you can let little things get to you. It is your choice, after all.

But that's basically saying 'either/or'.  I (and other people on this thread) are saying that you can have both.

Someone who you find physically attractive as well as someone who has good character.

[Fem2009]

Maybe I am too picky, but I did "try" to like him, because I liked his personality over the phone.  In person, he was slightly repulsive and overweight.  I am probably being picky, but I feel that I am allowed to be picky, as I will have to sleep with the person that I marry, and don't want to be "repulsed" by this person, I want to enjoy that intimate relationship.  

I will agree that it is very important to find someone loyal, loving and honest, but I also feel that the person that God has for me will also be someone that I am not grossed out by.  I did not say he has to be "Brad Pitt".  I do think he has to be "somewhat good looking".  Not perfect, but at the least not someone I am slightly repulsed by.  I don't think God would want me to settle for someone and end up unhappily married.

I don't think you're being too picky. What's wrong with not wanting to marry someone who grosses you out?

It's vain. People aren't gonna ever be 100% what you dream about. They change, life throws curve balls at you. We all have our down & out moments where we need the support and devotion of loved ones. If you know what babies are like, then you'd understand that you're gonna get grossed out once in a while by people you claim to love. What happens when your guy decides you gross him out? Especially when you're older we go right back to that helpless stage. Would it be wrong for him to walk out on you? You can have a true caring heart or you can let little things get to you. It is your choice, after all.

But that's basically saying 'either/or'.  I (and other people on this thread) are saying that you can have both.

Someone who you find physically attractive as well as someone who has good character.

Listen, don't flip flop with ME. This is what I was responding to. NOT what you just typed:

"I don't think you're being too picky. What's wrong with not wanting to marry someone who grosses you out? "

[yesult]

Don't flip flop with YOU. Didn't realise I had. And not quite sure what you're trying to accuse me of either.

I was agreeing with the post YOU quoted and you were disagreeing with both us.

Where is the mis-understanding?

And if you want to answer a specific person and not several quotes at once (that agree) then don't post the added quotes.

[Cally]

What pitchforks? Do tell.

Oh, I should never be afraid of anyone who could kill the body, but after that, do no more, should I?   I fear God much more.

[Fem2009]

Don't flip flop with YOU. Didn't realise I had. And not quite sure what you're trying to accuse me of either.

I was agreeing with the post YOU quoted and you were disagreeing with both us.

Where is the mis-understanding?

And if you want to answer a specific person and not several quotes at once (that agree) then don't post the added quotes.

Don't tell me how to post. Your "what's wrong with not being grossed out by someone?" was directly above my response: IT IS VAIN. So, don't act confused.

[fanuvmxpx]

Don't tell me how to post. Your "what's wrong with not being grossed out by someone?" was directly above my response: IT IS VAIN. So, don't act confused.

If you cannot control your emotions & speech, you will be reported to moderators. We're trying to keep things civil here. Please stop issuing others commands.

You can always ask a poster to clarify a point if need be, without resorting to attack speech. And I agree with Yesult, why should I have married an unattractive person instead of my hot wife? Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

[Fem2009]

Don't tell me how to post. Your "what's wrong with not being grossed out by someone?" was directly above my response: IT IS VAIN. So, don't act confused.

If you cannot control your emotions & speech, you will be reported to moderators. We're trying to keep things civil here. Please stop issuing others commands.

You can always ask a poster to clarify a point if need be, without resorting to attack speech. And I agree with Yesult, why should I have married an unattractive person instead of my hot wife? Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

Please stop issuing others commands? Like this command below??

Don't flip flop with YOU. Didn't realise I had. And not quite sure what you're trying to accuse me of either.

I was agreeing with the post YOU quoted and you were disagreeing with both us.

Where is the mis-understanding?

And if you want to answer a specific person and not several quotes at once (that agree) then don't post the added quotes.

[Fem2009]

Fanuv: Please follow your own rules and deal with these matters through personal messages. Also, did I report you when you were getting explicit in the "Will I Go to Hell" thread? No, I did not, I politely corrected you.

[yesult]

Don't flip flop with YOU. Didn't realise I had. And not quite sure what you're trying to accuse me of either.

I was agreeing with the post YOU quoted and you were disagreeing with both us.

Where is the mis-understanding?

And if you want to answer a specific person and not several quotes at once (that agree) then don't post the added quotes.

Don't tell me how to post. Your "what's wrong with not being grossed out by someone?" was directly above my response: IT IS VAIN. So, don't act confused.

Excuse me. Who's telling who how to post. And you're the one confused here. You answered both my post and somebody elses post. You listed them together. So I answered you.
Then you started getting agro.

I answered by pointing out your error and you're still attacking me.

Is the attack because I disagree with you? Or are you still confused?

[fanuvmxpx]

Don't tell me how to post. Your "what's wrong with not being grossed out by someone?" was directly above my response: IT IS VAIN. So, don't act confused.

If you cannot control your emotions & speech, you will be reported to moderators. We're trying to keep things civil here. Please stop issuing others commands.

You can always ask a poster to clarify a point if need be, without resorting to attack speech. And I agree with Yesult, why should I have married an unattractive person instead of my hot wife? Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

Please stop issuing others commands? Like this command below??

Don't flip flop with YOU. Didn't realise I had. And not quite sure what you're trying to accuse me of either.

I was agreeing with the post YOU quoted and you were disagreeing with both us.

Where is the mis-understanding?

And if you want to answer a specific person and not several quotes at once (that agree) then don't post the added quotes.

He was explaining how to use the quoting feature on the forums. I don't see any commands, only a friendly explanation/reminder to be careful of who you quote.

[fanuvmxpx]

Fanuv: Please follow your own rules and deal with these matters through personal messages. Also, did I report you when you were getting explicit in the "Will I Go to Hell" thread? No, I did not, I politely corrected you.

No thank you, I don't follow commands from humans well. But I always defend my brethren when they are misinterpreted.

Regarding the explicit speech in the other thread, I didn't need correction. Your emotional response to a word in the English language (with few synonyms) was immature to the point being made in the thread.

And as you have referred to my brother yesult as satan, simply because you have poor reading comprehension, you will now be reported as a disturber of peace.

Please be civil in your future responses.

[Fem2009]

Fanuv: Please follow your own rules and deal with these matters through personal messages. Also, did I report you when you were getting explicit in the "Will I Go to Hell" thread? No, I did not, I politely corrected you.

No thank you, I don't follow commands from humans well. But I always defend my brethren when they are misinterpreted.

Regarding the explicit speech in the other thread, I didn't need correction. Your emotional response to a word in the English language (with few synonyms) was immature to the point being made in the thread.

And as you have referred to my brother yesult as satan, simply because you have poor reading comprehension, you will now be reported as a disturber of peace.

Please be civil in your future responses.

And as you have referred to my brother yesult as satan, simply because you have poor reading comprehension, you will now be reported as a disturber of peace.

All I have to say to you and your display of anger is:

I did not call ANYONE satan. Retract your statement, if you have any respect for God's law.