I'm a single male, just got out of a relationship. I'm 32 and live in Ohio. I feel really lonely at times. I don't have a lot of friends around. I just want someone as a friend right now of the opposite sex. I just find it easier to talk to females. I'm new to the forums, but just curious if anyone else was interested. Sounds phishy I know, but I'm not a perv :P Just really feeling isolated with my problems. If anyone is interested, let me know.
Shinu, lets take this one at a time. I see you have two problems here and do not expect to solve them both with one remedy - a woman.
1. The first problem you should sort out is your loneliness. This is so that when you meet a partner you will not be a burden to her. Take yourself out of the house and go where people are - starting with finding a Christian church in your neighbourhood where you can be useful in helping out there. I take it that you ar a Christian, so this should not be a problem for you, right? You can add to that by joining classes on whatever interests you.
Engage in activities where teamwork is involved. Going to cenimas and theatres by yourself are not such good ideas, as they make you feel isolated.
When you are indoors find an indoor hobby to occupy yourself. It may sound obvious, but take the time to cook for yourself. If you cannot cook, then join a class to larn. This ensures that your time is
productively spent and not just idling around. Plan your day and your week and certainly do not get out of bed at 12 noon ...!
2. Once you have combated your loneliness, then you will be a mopre independent, confident, capable, interesting pereson to get to know - because you will have more to contribute to any new relationship you enter into.
As you do your part in 1. above, at the same time ask God to send the right partner in your life, and He will do it. You can quot Him on His own words - "it is not good for man to live alone" - and He will have to honour you. But you will have to do your part above first, plus read the bible every day.
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