Um uh um uh...well, I'm not saying that.
Biblically, I am doomed to go to hell if I marry a divorced man...unless they've been cheated on.
I've tried to find a loophole but my Pastor says no.
Not fair, really.
Your pastor has a questionable relationship with Jesus IMHO; he relies on the law...which will save no one.
All things are permissible...but, not all things are beneficial; for some it might be better to stay unmarried. Others live by grace and the love of Jesus, and trust what He did for them on the cross...they have freedom in Christ. Once we repent...we are forgiven; we cannot go back and change things...we can only trust in what God's grace and love can do in our life.
What church do you belong to?
Amen. I am married to a previously divorced man and he is the best and most godly man I have ever met. His wife met another man and divorced him, even though he had not been unfaithful or abusive or anything. We later found out that she had committed adultery while the divorce was progressing. We didn't know that when we married, but she had abandoned him by divorcing him anyway.
God clearly bought us together, and if I were you I would find a new church. Don't just go by what one pastor says, I studied this for myself for years and read many books. Pastors will all disagree on this.
I didn't want to meet a widowed man, because they do tend to idolise their first wives and seem to only remember the good times and forget the bad, even if their marriage wasn't that good. I didn't want to have to compete with a dead woman!
I realised that at the age I was then(mid 40's, I may never marry again, but God had other ideas.
I knew that if I did marry again, I wanted a divorced man, (I was also divorced after 25 years of marriage). I got the best!!!!!
I found these books helpful and Biblical
Divorce and remarriage in the church by David Instone Brewer.
Divorce:Gods will? by Stephen gola. website www.divorcehope.com