Christian and her semi-Agnostic boyfriend.

[skwaa.scott]

To the op, I can see that you say you are a devoted Christian, did you think about the fact that he wasnt when you first went out? Did no one in your church or family mention this to you, or advise you against it? I know that my pastor would very strongly advise anyone not to go out with a non believer. Also, I am pretty amazed that it took a whole year for you to even talk about faith and God together because its so vital. Sorry but that surprises me so much.   

We had been friends for about a year before we started dating so I did know, but I wasn't sure exactly how bad it was. With his parents being religious I thought he wasn't that far off from what they believed, but I was wrong. No one advised me against it because he'd helped out at my church during fundraisers and gone to plays and things. We didn't talk about it very early because I couldn't figure exactly how I needed to bring it up or if he would be weirded out by the topic of our future too early. But I have talked about my own faith to him before.

[skwaa.scott]

maybe God brought you together with this guy, who's got some confused ideas about what he believes, so that you could show him the right path? i don't think you should leave him because of his not having sorted out what he beleives yet. my boyfriend put up with me, helped me and showed me the right way to live, like a loving Christian should. Christianity seems to me to be about spreading the word of Jesus ('go, and make disciples' etc), maybe God is giving you the chance to lead a messed-up guy to salvation through showing him Jesus?

I don't think I'll give up on him, no, and even if we break up we've talked about still being friends because that's how we were before. But yes, I am slowly trying to show him the way. I know he believes in something and so I'm hoping to help him realize that what he believes in is God. thank you for sharing your story. 

[Lily76]

I was crying when I read this :(

I’m a Christian for only few years. But, I studied the bible almost daily and went to church regularly. So it is not like I do not know anything.

I’m sure that you do not commit a sin when you date or marry unbeliever.

I’d say it makes marriage easier and safer. You will be happier, but it is really up to you since biblically Paul asked only Corinthians to marry believers because they were influenced by other religions making them in danger to lose faith. Therefore; if you trust yourself that he won’t influence you somehow then you may consider it. There could be other risks. Just do not listen to whoever says it is a sin, or you can’t date him. There are many things Paul asked Corinthians to do while he did not ask others.

My marriage would not have happened probably if I did not become a believer myself. We are separated for *the second time now* not sure if telling you this will help you or not. I’m just telling you my experience so yeah it could have risks. Basically, for me I tend to be liberal and I do not like a lot of rules he asked me to follow. I was not able to adapt to completely new life and actually I do not want all those rules in my life.

“Also, I am pretty amazed that it took a whole year for you to even talk about faith and God together because its so vital. Sorry but that surprises me so much.