What do men look for in a wife?

[Fem2009]

Many women open up here. TIme for the men to open up some: As a Christian, what is important to you? What do you look for in a wife?
 

[dougk1971]

I look for peace and serenity in the friendship first, and that she believes in the grace offered by God thru his Son Jesus Christ.  Building trust in the friendship is vital to me.  I need some spark of attraction physically, too.  But it really comes second to what I said first.  Temper, openness to communicate, responsible with duties, all things that are important to me.  I think most of all, that she be a humble follower of Christ, because God can mold a friendship where two people submit to humility in Christ into a great marriage.

Doug

[Fem2009]

I look for peace and serenity in the friendship first, and that she believes in the grace offered by God thru his Son Jesus Christ.  Building trust in the friendship is vital to me.  I need some spark of attraction physically, too.  But it really comes second to what I said first.  Temper, openness to communicate, responsible with duties, all things that are important to me.  I think most of all, that she be a humble follower of Christ, because God can mold a friendship where two people submit to humility in Christ into a great marriage.

Doug

Thank you! That's a great response...

[Fem2009]

hmmm. Guess you guys are shy 

[Fem2009]

No one's gonna bite? hmmmm
Is this an old, worn out topic?

[Bocephus]

First it starts out with sexual attraction.  Then inner beauty.  Shared life direction and goals.  Common religious beliefs.

[Rahn]

Some years ago I was looking for someone who would want to be a minister's wife. That is no longer the case. Now I would want someone who understands life and its struggles. Maybe the woman has or has had aging parents. She has experienced life and knows the ups and downs of faith.

I have never married and would like to experience something of the exhilaration of relationship. I have had only one woman that came close to being the one. I am not sure if I am capable of falling in love. I have had my share of temptations but seen several divorces of people who should have never married. I know the shallow deceit of infatuation. Marriages made from Hollywood stereotypes do not last. (There are a few good marriages but they are rare).

When it comes to the physical attraction, I do want someone who is close to me in size. I am not a tall man nor a big man. I am English, Irish, and Scottish. That defines me, but I cannot say I would look for this ethnic background alone. I also want someone who reads and seeks to better her mind. I never want to stop "learning." However, someone who is strictly a librarian type would not fit in my world. I want someone who has a little bit of a wild side that will bring some excitement to life. I have lived an obscure life with aging parents and need something more.

Most of all I want someone that God will look down and call the relationship good. Will God be pleased with our union? Will this relationship destroy or enhance the most important relationship? 

[wolflet7]

In some cases, I would have to agree with Gary.  Sexual attraction, at least in looks, is something that is viewed from the eye, when I don't know the girl. 

If I were to have a "dream wife", she would have to have a very strong relationship with God and let that intertwine in our marriage.  God did make us and would make our love for each other, so it's only fair that He is also in our marriage - to a degree lol.  She would also have a desire that would further our relationship.  I would also want her to play tennis with me and I would want to teach her new things and also learn from her. 

[Fem2009]

aaawwww

[Wycliffes_Shillelagh]

aaawwww

And then you wonder why guys don't respond.

[walker starr]

     Hey Fem I didn`t understand the awwwww   What did that mean?   

[Bocephus]

Good laundry and cooking skills. 

 

[Wycliffes_Shillelagh]

Good laundry and cooking skills. 

 

I'm good at both those things Gary.  Would I be an attractive candidate?

::battingeyelashes::

[Bocephus]

Good laundry and cooking skills. 

 

I'm good at both those things Gary.  Would I be an attractive candidate?

::battingeyelashes::

There would be no sexual attraction.  That was first on my list.

[Wycliffes_Shillelagh]

Good laundry and cooking skills. 

 

I'm good at both those things Gary.  Would I be an attractive candidate?

::battingeyelashes::

There would be no sexual attraction.  That was first on my list.

Thank God!!!