What do men look for in a wife?

[troopal]

I would look for someone who is :

Aspiring for godliness - Im not expecting her to be totally godly, but there should be a genuine desire and aspiration for that. What means is that she is actively working on her character and relationship with God and submit to His authority.

The course she wants to go in her life should be compatible with mine. For an example if she really desires to be a missonary in India and I desire to plant a church in Washington then , these callings do not match.

She should have a good sense of humor.

She should be unbelievably beautiful. But thank God that all he has created is beautiful ;p

[christclem]

the most attractive thing is her love for God.then there have to be commonalities;things you can relate to.Physical attraction cant be completely ignored.temperment,compassion,trust,loyalty.Men need to be needed.

[wolflet7]

the most attractive thing is her love for God.then there have to be commonalities;things you can relate to.Physical attraction cant be completely ignored.temperment,compassion,trust,loyalty.Men need to be needed.

Totally agree with that!  It also doesn't hurt to be a curly blonde  My favorite!

[janine]

... a curly blonde for wolflet...

[wolflet7]

Lol, you're so kind janine...but I think I'll pass because she...well, to tell you the truth, she doesn't look human 

[mike]

Lol, you're so kind janine...but I think I'll pass because she...well, to tell you the truth, she doesn't look human 

She's a dog, but she has a good personality. 

[wolflet7]

Lol, I'll keep my options open for college.  I hope there are quite a few curly blondes going to a Christian college in my town soon 

[zoonance]

The more shallow amongst us might have scribbled the phone number 736-2436 in our little black book as 7 is the perfect prefix to a perfect number.    

[JohnnO]

Ah the LIST question!

Attraction works outward to inward, from looks to character.

The list below is somewhat organized alonog those lines.



Christian. This is of course non-negotiable. I won't even waste my time with someone who's not saved when we meet.


height: 5'4 to 5'10, prefer 5'6-5'8

hair: long hair (mid shoulder blade length or more). I really like the reddish auburny tones but blond or brown is OK too. Not a big fan of black black hair. (of course if she is stunningly beautiful otherwise this could change that's why this one is in gray) I'd like her to be confident enough to wear a pony tail pulled through a ball cap and not have to adjust her hair all the time.

Eye color. Depends on hair color. With blonde hair she should have brown eyes. With brownish hair blue eyes, with reddish hair green eyes. Of course this is ideal and alternates will be accepted. Eyes should be bright in whatever color.

body type: Slim (even to skinny) or athletic. I'm currently down 27 lbs from my peak and won't let myself regain that weight. Need someone else who wants to stay in shape.

age range. 28-41 or so with 35 being ideal. This is based on my desire to have more children. Again an slightly older or younger woman in exceptional shape would probably be OK

Wants children. And will be a good mother to the Girl

Will relocate to be here. The Girl has lost so much already that I can't really move her away from her mamaw and everything she knows


Job type. If she has to work at all, teacher would probably be my first choice. I'd prefer her to be a full time mom/homemaker and perhaps homeschool the kids. She wouldn't have to work for financial reasons and this area has a lot of full time moms. Its the most important job one can have.

Hobbies interests: Must be creative. Should like fishing and boating (I just bought a boat). any other hobby is good. Must be physically active and in shape. Biking, Hiking, walking are plusses. Has to be involved in church, not just a pew sitter. Singing is good. Reader. Not a big TV addict.

Denomination: No preference but must be accepting of the existence of the baptism of the Holy Spirit. I don't think it's crucial that she be Spirit filled as long as she allows others to be. Doctrinally something close to Assemblies of God or Pentecostal Church of God.

Spiritual walk: Must be an active Christian. Knowing Jesus as Savior is good but knowing him as Savior and friend is much better. Prefer someone involved in the creative ministries (singing, drama, mime, banners, flags etc). Modest but not overwhelmingly so. (I am a tush and leg man. someone who feels compelled to always be in a long skirt or dress would rob me of the joy of admiring her in jeans or shorts)

Personality type. Has to be fun. young hearted at least. Sanguine

Things I don't want:
Smoker or other drug user (occasional social drink is OK. No drunkeness)
overweight -- my wife struggled with this for years and it puts a great strain on the marriage. Of course her other medical problems magnified this.
Poor medical health --- She was physically or mentally ill for most of our marriage. After her passing I just don't have the strength to deal with it again. (Of course I would do our entire married life over again given the chance. She was more than worth the effort)
Angry or habitually negative. --- I'm usually a very positive person and being down on others always leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
liberal -- I'm about as conservative as they come politically. Most liberal ideas hurt the very ones they are supposed to help. I'd take a bears fan before I'd think about a liberal