Why am I having so much of a problem getting a good Christian girlfriend?

[Howdyboyalan]

Somehow I dont think hacking is on the top of many girls' list:P

[chosenone]

Somehow I dont think hacking is on the top of many girls' list:P

 

It would put me off actually

[Mere Nick]

Napoleon Dynamite said girls like guys who can do that.  Since he is such a good dancer I figured he must know what he's talking about.

[dothackzero]

Does anyone have some tips for atleast being to make friends with girls?

[fanuvmxpx]

Does anyone have some tips for atleast being to make friends with girls?

Yes. Treat them just like your male friends (in the sense of go 'hang out' and have fun). Find common interests and go and do things together. Try not to be shy around them, be confident & happy to be spending time with them.

Do your very best to make a date feel less like a date and more like a fun time to hang out and get to know your female friend. Talk about your Christian walks, find out what church she goes too. Be honest about yourself, honesty is very important and they will know exactly who you are up front.

The most important advice...if you two have "chemistry" it will happen naturally...don't force it. Most of the time you'll be able to tell if the girl likes you. Before you go in close for the goodnight kiss...look for signs of shyness/smiling...good eye contact...blushing...thi ngs like that.

If you don't know the girl yet, have someone introduce you or just say hello and find out why you are both in the same place at that time. The first response to a hello my name is John or whatever it may be is a good indicator if they would even want to be your friend (or worth your time).

[wolflet7]

Well I often find myself out of subjects to ask when talking to a girl.  The thing is, a conversation that is deep and fluid can go from skiing to plastic forks.  Conversations can be limitless as long as you keep it going.  Here are some starters for conversations...

Doing anything interesting later today/this weekend?

How is your family?

What's new in your life?

Did you see the baseball/football/hockey/basketball game last night?  Who were you rooting for?

Today is going to be a boring day.  What do you like to do on boring days?


The point is, try to ask questions that won't weird her out.  Ex. "What's your favorite store?  Wal-Mart or Target?"  You see?  Really weird because why does it matter?  Ask questions that you wouldn't mind being asked/answering.  Not too bland questions like "What's your favorite color?" and not too complicated questions like "What would you do if a giant meteor started coming at you at 50 mph when it is 500 yards from your head and there is no vehicle around you?".  Just typical questions. 

[dothackzero]

So how hard is it find a girl that's a Christian, a virgin, and waiting till she's married to do anything sexual?

[wolflet7]

Well, personally for me, not very hard at all.  That may also be because I am in high school and am not that old.  If you are having trouble finding a girl, then perhaps online dating is your thing.  You never know what opportunities await!

[Howdyboyalan]

Does anyone have some tips for atleast being to make friends with girls?

Like I said, stop trying so hard, and just see them as people rather than girls

[dothackzero]

Does anyone have some tips for atleast being to make friends with girls?

Like I said, stop trying so hard, and just see them as people rather than girls

The problem is that I'm not that good with making friends with guys either. :p

Anyway, maybe I should make about this question:
So how hard is it find a girl that's a Christian, a virgin, and waiting till she's married to do anything sexual?

The only problem is that's created a lot of problems in other forums I've been too, and I can figure out where I should post in here.

[Howdyboyalan]

It depends.

I have been scrutinising abstinence only education and purity ring schemes and I have come to the conclusion they are total naff. The purity ring scheme relies on people banding together for support, and when the number of people with them in a school exceeds a critical mass the whole system breaks down, and abstinence ed just doesn't work.

Sooo....you can't just really hope to meet a christian girl with these moral values at school, college, work etc (sure there will be some, but most people who say they are christian, arent). It would be better to get very involved in your christian community. Even some of these girls won't have the values you are looking for. So just find yourself a good group of friends, be happy, and the rest will come naturally.

what worries me about your posts is that you seem to have no love for yourself. One of the best pieces of advice really is love yourself before you love another. You are just going to give heartachle and hassle to both yourself and your partner if you rush into it, because you will be overly insecure, worrysome, and maybe even controlling. Let a relationship blossom out of an increased love of yourself and of life.

[dothackzero]

what worries me about your posts is that you seem to have no love for yourself. One of the best pieces of advice really is love yourself before you love another. You are just going to give heartachle and hassle to both yourself and your partner if you rush into it, because you will be overly insecure, worrysome, and maybe even controlling. Let a relationship blossom out of an increased love of yourself and of life.

What do you mean by loving myself. Like taking care of my self or something?

[Howdyboyalan]

Self respect, knowing you are  worthy person, confidence in ones self.

[dothackzero]

Self respect, knowing you are  worthy person, confidence in ones self.

I do give my self respect, that way I don't smoke, do drugs, or drink.
Meaning worthy for a girl?
Can being screwed with in elmentry and high school, kill someone's self confidence?

[Howdyboyalan]

no not being worthy for a girl. I just mean feeling good about yourself. Being screwed with can kill confidence, but everyone gets it to some degree. It is going to have differing effects depending on what kind of person you are. You just have to be strong and move past it.