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Re: Will I be single forever?
« Reply #15 on: October 15, 2015, 01:44:04 AM »
Christian Men will be single as long as Christian Women are not willing t give up the same superficiality they complain of Men mantaining.

But then again which 26 year old lady is really interested in a 26 year old video game playing, cartoon watching, magic playing boyfriend?
Religion aside, if my daughter would come home with a grown up boyfriend who spends his time this way and on top of that keeps himself busy with sci-fi science, string theory and parallel universes...I think I will scratch my head a few times.

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Re: Will I be single forever?
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Re: Will I be single forever?
« Reply #16 on: October 15, 2015, 02:06:53 AM »
Christian Men will be single as long as Christian Women are not willing t give up the same superficiality they complain of Men mantaining.


 There are loads of godly single ladies around.

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Re: Will I be single forever?
« Reply #17 on: October 15, 2015, 02:12:58 AM »
Christian Men will be single as long as Christian Women are not willing t give up the same superficiality they complain of Men mantaining.

But then again which 26 year old lady is really interested in a 26 year old video game playing, cartoon watching, magic playing boyfriend?
Religion aside, if my daughter would come home with a grown up boyfriend who spends his time this way and on top of that keeps himself busy with sci-fi science, string theory and parallel universes...I think I will scratch my head a few times.


 yes I so agree, and so many men well into adulthood are still like this, and still at home in their late 20's and 30's not seemingly wanting to be independant from mummy and daddy at all. I know several like this just among the people I know. What girl is interested in a guy of 30 and older who is still living at home like a child, getting all his meals cooked for him, his ironing done and being looked after as if he was 10 years old. Not many. Especially if they have been independent for many years at that age themselves. They wants someone who will look after them, not a man who cant even look after himself.  ::frown::

 

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Re: Will I be single forever?
« Reply #18 on: October 15, 2015, 08:46:09 AM »
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But then again which 26 year old lady is really interested in a 26 year old video game playing, cartoon watching, magic playing boyfriend?
Religion aside, if my daughter would come home with a grown up boyfriend who spends his time this way and on top of that keeps himself busy with sci-fi science, string theory and parallel universes...I think I will scratch my head a few times.

I know a man who works in the Salvation army who recently had a much younger woman take interest in him. He makes very little money, and she was trying to coax him into leaving that position and pursuing a high-paying career--earlier in his life, he had a very upper-middle-class income. He's a REALLY good, godly man who now believes in serving the Lord in what he does, but the woman would not settle for him doing what he does for a minimal income. He had an awesome response: that he would not allow his value to be held hostage by his bank account. So yeah, that woman will be single for good while longer, and she's almost 30!

Proverbs 6:26--For by way of the prostitute a man is brought to a loaf of bread.

I also recently saw this comment from a different single man that I thought was so amazing that I saved it:

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Thank you, thank you, thank you! So many Christian women have based my worth on what career I have and on how much money I have. I hear so many Christian women saying "I'm looking for my Boaz," which is really just a nice Christian way of saying "I want to marry a man for his money." And they claim that there are no available men in the church today. For years, I have pleaded with God for a good career opportunity so that I can be worth something to a woman. But I've realized that my worth is in Christ, not in a career. Christian women may shun me because I don't fit their idea of "God's best," but I know I am worth a lot to Jesus. And the way I see it, if a woman doesn't want to be there with me during my failures and struggles, then she doesn't deserve to be there with me during my success.

Praise GOD that more and more men are figuring out how to shut this door through which Satan tries to rob them of knowledge of their worth in Christ!!!! Wow!

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Re: Will I be single forever?
« Reply #19 on: October 15, 2015, 08:58:52 AM »
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But then again which 26 year old lady is really interested in a 26 year old video game playing, cartoon watching, magic playing boyfriend?
Religion aside, if my daughter would come home with a grown up boyfriend who spends his time this way and on top of that keeps himself busy with sci-fi science, string theory and parallel universes...I think I will scratch my head a few times.

I know a man who works in the Salvation army who recently had a much younger woman take interest in him. He makes very little money, and she was trying to coax him into leaving that position and pursuing a high-paying career--earlier in his life, he had a very upper-middle-class income. He's a REALLY good, godly man who now believes in serving the Lord in what he does, but the woman would not settle for him doing what he does for a minimal income. He had an awesome response: that he would not allow his value to be held hostage by his bank account. So yeah, that woman will be single for good while longer, and she's almost 30!

Proverbs 6:26--For by way of the prostitute a man is brought to a loaf of bread.

I also recently saw this comment from a different single man that I thought was so amazing that I saved it:

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Thank you, thank you, thank you! So many Christian women have based my worth on what career I have and on how much money I have. I hear so many Christian women saying "I'm looking for my Boaz," which is really just a nice Christian way of saying "I want to marry a man for his money." And they claim that there are no available men in the church today. For years, I have pleaded with God for a good career opportunity so that I can be worth something to a woman. But I've realized that my worth is in Christ, not in a career. Christian women may shun me because I don't fit their idea of "God's best," but I know I am worth a lot to Jesus. And the way I see it, if a woman doesn't want to be there with me during my failures and struggles, then she doesn't deserve to be there with me during my success.

Praise GOD that more and more men are figuring out how to shut this door through which Satan tries to rob them of knowledge of their worth in Christ!!!! Wow!


 if anyone wants to marry someone with a strong career and high earnings(yes and some men want that in their partners as well), then they need to look for that sort of person.
 In my experience though not many godly people would let that put them off a potential partner. 

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Re: Will I be single forever?
« Reply #20 on: October 15, 2015, 09:30:04 AM »
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But then again which 26 year old lady is really interested in a 26 year old video game playing, cartoon watching, magic playing boyfriend?
Religion aside, if my daughter would come home with a grown up boyfriend who spends his time this way and on top of that keeps himself busy with sci-fi science, string theory and parallel universes...I think I will scratch my head a few times.

I know a man who works in the Salvation army who recently had a much younger woman take interest in him. He makes very little money, and she was trying to coax him into leaving that position and pursuing a high-paying career--earlier in his life, he had a very upper-middle-class income. He's a REALLY good, godly man who now believes in serving the Lord in what he does, but the woman would not settle for him doing what he does for a minimal income. He had an awesome response: that he would not allow his value to be held hostage by his bank account. So yeah, that woman will be single for good while longer, and she's almost 30!

Proverbs 6:26--For by way of the prostitute a man is brought to a loaf of bread.

I also recently saw this comment from a different single man that I thought was so amazing that I saved it:

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Thank you, thank you, thank you! So many Christian women have based my worth on what career I have and on how much money I have. I hear so many Christian women saying "I'm looking for my Boaz," which is really just a nice Christian way of saying "I want to marry a man for his money." And they claim that there are no available men in the church today. For years, I have pleaded with God for a good career opportunity so that I can be worth something to a woman. But I've realized that my worth is in Christ, not in a career. Christian women may shun me because I don't fit their idea of "God's best," but I know I am worth a lot to Jesus. And the way I see it, if a woman doesn't want to be there with me during my failures and struggles, then she doesn't deserve to be there with me during my success.

Praise GOD that more and more men are figuring out how to shut this door through which Satan tries to rob them of knowledge of their worth in Christ!!!! Wow!

Hey Cally, we are not talking about salary or career here.

If my daughter would come home with a young man who spends his time in service of the Lord and making little to no money with that, I likely would be pleased.
We are not talking about that in this scenario. The young man here fills his time with video games, cartoons and online magic gaming.

Both the men above may not look forward to shiny careers...but I know which of the two I would rather have pursuing my daughter. Guess which one.

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Re: Will I be single forever?
« Reply #21 on: October 15, 2015, 10:04:32 AM »
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But then again which 26 year old lady is really interested in a 26 year old video game playing, cartoon watching, magic playing boyfriend?
Religion aside, if my daughter would come home with a grown up boyfriend who spends his time this way and on top of that keeps himself busy with sci-fi science, string theory and parallel universes...I think I will scratch my head a few times.

I know a man who works in the Salvation army who recently had a much younger woman take interest in him. He makes very little money, and she was trying to coax him into leaving that position and pursuing a high-paying career--earlier in his life, he had a very upper-middle-class income. He's a REALLY good, godly man who now believes in serving the Lord in what he does, but the woman would not settle for him doing what he does for a minimal income. He had an awesome response: that he would not allow his value to be held hostage by his bank account. So yeah, that woman will be single for good while longer, and she's almost 30!

Proverbs 6:26--For by way of the prostitute a man is brought to a loaf of bread.

I also recently saw this comment from a different single man that I thought was so amazing that I saved it:

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Thank you, thank you, thank you! So many Christian women have based my worth on what career I have and on how much money I have. I hear so many Christian women saying "I'm looking for my Boaz," which is really just a nice Christian way of saying "I want to marry a man for his money." And they claim that there are no available men in the church today. For years, I have pleaded with God for a good career opportunity so that I can be worth something to a woman. But I've realized that my worth is in Christ, not in a career. Christian women may shun me because I don't fit their idea of "God's best," but I know I am worth a lot to Jesus. And the way I see it, if a woman doesn't want to be there with me during my failures and struggles, then she doesn't deserve to be there with me during my success.

Praise GOD that more and more men are figuring out how to shut this door through which Satan tries to rob them of knowledge of their worth in Christ!!!! Wow!

Hey Cally, we are not talking about salary or career here.

If my daughter would come home with a young man who spends his time in service of the Lord and making little to no money with that, I likely would be pleased.
We are not talking about that in this scenario. The young man here fills his time with video games, cartoons and online magic gaming.

Both the men above may not look forward to shiny careers...but I know which of the two I would rather have pursuing my daughter. Guess which one.
 

I agree, none of my three children are interested in riches, luxuries or worldy stuff, nor am I or my husband.
A person who is following God wherever that may be is far better.

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Re: Will I be single forever?
« Reply #22 on: October 15, 2015, 10:30:54 AM »
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Hey Cally, we are not talking about salary or career here.

If my daughter would come home with a young man who spends his time in service of the Lord and making little to no money with that, I likely would be pleased.
We are not talking about that in this scenario. The young man here fills his time with video games, cartoons and online magic gaming.

It sounds like he spends a LOT of time working and pursuing a career in programming to me, as well, in the case of dothackzero.

I am seeing many men finding out what I was demonstrating in the examples I gave, reinforcing the comment that you responded to (to some extent, at least).

PS, I appreciate your other comment, however.
« Last Edit: October 15, 2015, 10:47:17 AM by Cally »

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Re: Will I be single forever?
« Reply #23 on: October 15, 2015, 12:16:14 PM »
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Hey Cally, we are not talking about salary or career here.

If my daughter would come home with a young man who spends his time in service of the Lord and making little to no money with that, I likely would be pleased.
We are not talking about that in this scenario. The young man here fills his time with video games, cartoons and online magic gaming.

It sounds like he spends a LOT of time working and pursuing a career in programming to me, as well, in the case of dothackzero.

I am seeing many men finding out what I was demonstrating in the examples I gave, reinforcing the comment that you responded to (to some extent, at least).

PS, I appreciate your other comment, however.
 

So someone who spends a lot of time playing computer games, and on line magic gaming and watching cartoons on line is persuing a career in programming??? Thats one excuse for it I guess. ::shrug:: AS I see it they are simply playing games.
 
Men of that sort of age when I was a young adult were far too busy working full time, paying for a home and all the bills and supporting a wife and children. Now its seems that they stay at home and act like continual teenagers well into their late 20's and even 30's.Its a weird change in one generation that doesnt sit well with me. 

 Having said that, I know of 2 couples in Texas aged 16 who have recently married and moved out of their family home. One extreme to the other.   ::shrug::
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Re: Will I be single forever?
« Reply #24 on: October 15, 2015, 06:06:33 PM »
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So someone who spends a lot of time playing computer games, and on line magic gaming and watching cartoons on line is persuing a career in programming??? Thats one excuse for it I guess.

Excuse for what? Dothackzero has mentioned working full-time and going to school for programming--which, by the way, is one of the last decent career path opportunities available to younger people right now.

I see no reason or excuse for disrespecting the man other than your sin.

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Re: Will I be single forever?
« Reply #25 on: November 26, 2015, 09:24:06 AM »
If I was to give advice, with what I have learned over the years, is this: People should not date except for the reason of seeking marriage.

Are you ready to be married?  Are you prepared to support a family?  To manage the upkeep of a home and a yard?  Ready to get up at all hours for your children, to support your wife when she needs extra help, to lay down your life for your wife?

When you describe yourself to me, honestly it seems that you are not, that you have a lot of hobbies that you enjoy, but which are not going to be that attractive to women.  A man who plays a lot of video games and looks at anime and playing card games like "Magic" are not going to attract women. 

If you want to find a woman you should take my words seriously.  Stop making your life about entertainment and start living a manly life.  Work on saving up for a home.  Learn about and practice home maintenance.  Show that you are willing to sacrifice for others by doing things for others like volunteering to help your elderly neighbors, or the homeless, or the hungry at a food shelf.  These things will help you develop a mission in life and add purpose to your life and be good for your soul at the same time.  And they will make you VERY attractive to women AND VERY interesting to talk to.

The definition of insanity is keeping doing what you are doing and expecting a different result.  Give this a try and you will find someone, God willing.

This is excellent advice.  But you don't have to completely give up the hobbies you enjoy.  Just start doing more of this.

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Re: Will I be single forever?
« Reply #26 on: December 28, 2015, 09:50:35 PM »
dothackzero, Think of it as your being saved n protected for the right woman.
I'm pretty sure there are very few people who are really single forever!
You cant hurry love, u'll just have to wait, theres someone for everyone.
Love has a way of seeking up on you when u least expect it.
Work on yourself 1st, love and family will come in time. O! and pray about it!
Peace and Love bro!

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Re: Will I be single forever?
« Reply #27 on: December 29, 2015, 02:46:16 AM »
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So someone who spends a lot of time playing computer games, and on line magic gaming and watching cartoons on line is persuing a career in programming??? Thats one excuse for it I guess.

Excuse for what? Dothackzero has mentioned working full-time and going to school for programming--which, by the way, is one of the last decent career path opportunities available to younger people right now.

I see no reason or excuse for disrespecting the man other than your sin.

where did he says that he works? He merely said that he is 26 and still goes to school(college).


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Re: Will I be single forever?
« Reply #28 on: December 29, 2015, 03:20:45 AM »
dothackzero, Think of it as your being saved n protected for the right woman.
I'm pretty sure there are very few people who are really single forever!
You cant hurry love, u'll just have to wait, theres someone for everyone.
Love has a way of seeking up on you when u least expect it.
Work on yourself 1st, love and family will come in time. O! and pray about it!
Peace and Love bro!

There are far more women in the church who remain single because there are so few available men.

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Re: Will I be single forever?
« Reply #29 on: November 13, 2016, 09:25:08 AM »
There are just too many immature guys even Christians. Plus,  they are looking for a trophy not a wife. So go search in a haystack in the dark room forever. Lol ????