The son of a friend of mine, age 27, complains about not having a girlfriend, and he has never had a serious girlfriend. He has a degree in Computing and Maths, and his full time job is in computers, and so he doesnt mix with many women in his work. He rarely socialises apart from occasionally with people from work, he wont to go to church even though he made a commitment to God some years back and was baptised. He could easily afford to move away from home but doesnt, and his mum does all his cooking, washing and ironing. He refuses to go onto any on line dating sites, and apart from work mostly sits at home on his computer. His dad says to him, 'you arent going to met a girl sitting up in your room on the computer', and he is so right.
If I were a young available lady in her mid to late 20's today, I personally wouldnt be too interested in a guy in his late 20's who spent nearly all his time on computer games or similar. I would like to see a man who was working, who was completely independent from his parents, paying his bills, looking after himself, involved in things outside the home, going to church and being involved there, and mixing with people in real life to build up his confidence and people skills.
Trouble is, I have noticed that people today who are more introvert and/or lacking in social skills, tend to hide away and sit behind their computers, and this is the worst thing they can do, because they never learn to interact or build those relationships with men and women to enable themselves to be emotionally ready to have any sort of healthy equal relationship, let alone marriage, with the opposite sex. I think this is an enormous problem today with this generation. I see many young adults in this cycle. It takes their own efforts to overcome it, forcing themselves to get out there, off their games, leave home, go out more, get involved with things, meet people etc. I have seen young people do that and its amazing how they have changed and matured after just 2 or 3 years of being independent and living in the real world. The more they mix and interact, the more they learn to relate and grow in confidence with other people in society. Sorry but there is just no way round this, its a decision to do it, and its not always easy, but its vital.
In Japan this is an enormous problem, with a whole generation of young men obsessed to a greater or lesser extent with their computers and gaming and similar, still acting like teenagers/students well into their late 20's and even beyond, and not relating to women. Apparently the number of marriages there has fallen dramatically because of this and because of that the birthrate as well. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-24614830