You did not understand what I was trying to say. Maybe I didn't explain my self well. I don't want to be with a man that doesn't love me. It will not be good for him or me. I can't and I don't want to force no one to love me. You can't force love.
If my husband is attracted to another women. There is nothing I can do to change that. No matter what I do he will still be attracted to her. I will tell you this. If he doesn't love me any more then I don't want him to be with me. I want a marriage not legal bondage. I am sure God will understand.
I don't even know how to respond to this...
You seem to think that we are to be lead about by our ever changing and often selfish feelings and that God cares not for where those lead us.
That is a mistake.
No, I understand what you are saying and I am saying it is a a wrong attitude to have towards marriage. Marriage is about more than the squishy butterflies and hearts of romantic feeling. It is about commitment, it is about loyalty, it is about hard work and perseverance.
It is taking sinful thoughts, wishes, fantasies, desires and feelings captive and fixing our eye on Christ so we can best keep to the promise we made to our spouse and to God who put us together.
Feelings come and then they go and if a person bails too early for no reason but the changing season of feelings, they will miss out when the feelings come back deeper, stronger, more mature and meaningful than when they first blossomed.
God hates divorce and so He limited what is just cause to *be* divorced. He doesn't wink and nod at divorcing over being unhappy or no longer lead by feelings of "in love".