Let me preface by saying that I truly love God and so does my fiance. Our relationship was founded on our common faith and has been what has sustained us til now. We got engaged a couple of months agoand i can honestly say that I know that God brought us together and that he is the guy God handpicked for me. I prayed for years (as did he) and I've finally found him.
I know that sex before marriage is wrong. I truly believed in waiting til marriage....my fiance and I were both virgins, until we had sex the other day. It wasn't planned or premeditated and up until then we had specific boundaries that we didnt want to cross and we followed them. THe thing is, we are currently long distance due to some cirumstances outside of our control and idk what, but apparently the not seeing eachother for a long time really ignited something in both of us. And the night we finally saw eachother, it just happened and neither of us did anything to stop it.
I am a very sexual person. I've known that since I was probably 11 or so, and actually struggled with pornography through middle shcool, but thankfully have not dealt with that issue in over 10 years thank God, but its still a struggle sometimes to keep my mind pure.
But now I'm just not sure how to keep ourselves from letting it happen again. I've heard that once you do it once, it's very difficult to not do it again, and our wedding isn't until next May, unfortunately. We both regret what happened, but honestly, my mind keeps going back to it, and I am just trying to find ways to get back to another state of mind.
I know that God forgives, but it still hurts so much that I broke a promise to myself and God, something that I really wanted to keep until marriage.