Brother, I am going to ramble here a bit, and I do not wish to put words in your mouth, but, rather try and convey what I am understanding from your words.
When you say: "Nowhere am I advocating keeping the Law for salvation or for righteousness. I am saying that is what is required by their walking out their own salvation in obedience"
To me this means that after one receives salvation through faith, and that by the Grace of God, that they are to be obedient to His commandments. Now, you (and I) have used the word "Law," but to me this is what is often referred to as "works." Some believe that "works" are required to achieve salvation, but I disagree with them. I believe our "works," keeping His commandments are a "witness" of our salvation. A "testimony" of our salvation, and those "works" are not how we achieve salvation, but rather how we walk as Christ after having received salvation.
When I hear someone say "we must keep the Law" to be saved, I cannot agree with them. As well, I wonder exactly which "Laws" they are referring to? To me, the Jews of today, those who still practice the Jewish faith/religion, and do not accept Jesus as Lord and Saviour, are keeping to the Laws of Moses, the Laws of the First Covenant. However, if one is saved, born anew unto Christ, the Laws of the Jews are no longer a requirement for them, for they are saved by Grace. Now a born again Christian must certainly keep the commandments of Jesus, but the ritualistic Laws of Moses are no longer needed, for they have achieved salvation through Christ. (Does this make sense? Hope so....)
You also said: "Getting back to my thing with the men and women. I am a man. The scripture tells me to love my wife. Is that salvic? No. It is part of how I walk AFTER I am saved. It is the same with a saved Jew keeping the Law. Part of how a Jew walks AFTER he is saved."
This is pretty much the same as your prior statement in my understanding, for it is saying again that our "works," "walks" follow our salvation. Turning away from the old man, and putting on the new man so to speak.
Ok, maybe I understood you correctly, and, if so, I agree with you............