I think Ron Carlson meant well when he wrote this” Want to improve your odds of experiencing marriages at its best? Read the Bible with an open mind and tender heart everyday, without fail! But I question in light of the statistic of divorce that Bible reading improves you marriage.  At best it is an idealist approach for modern marriage but as a way to improve there is just simply to many variables in a relation to guarantee anything.

Yes there couples that looked liked they came out of the Brady bunch mentality. But they are far from the norm. Good thinking in my case meant more than Bible reading it meant to go beyond the rational and fight for what is right. I was once in a Christian marital counseling session alone with the counselor. He bend over the desk and leaned in to whisper the most powerful words in my life. He said “I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO”. That small confession empowered me more than anything the Bible ever had to say. I don’t discount Gods word I just find strength in the humanity of personal relation.  Its at that point we find the truth in all of us. A long and good marriage is about the fortitude to carry on in the most trying of times. That may explain why some non Christian marriage hold just as well as Christian.

Dang right.  The sargeant major and I have been married for 25 1/2 years.  During the first year it was an open question if one us was going to be killed, but divorce was out of the question.