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Offline Lovepeace

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I am new here so not sure if I've come to the correct forum to ask a question or not.  It seems to be a good place for me to ask though since it's titled FT Ministers Forum. First I'd like to say I've read a lot of the threads when I've had time to sit and take it all in, and I've learned a lot simply by reading many of the post, so thank you for such a good site to learn.

My question is out of concern, and not really knowing what to do. My understanding when there is a situation within a Church that you are to go to the person to see if you can work it out, and if not then your to go to two members, elders, or leaders.  I've tried to speak to this lady and it has not helped, I've spoken to one of the leaders of the Church/Bible Study, and he sees the same. The other leader is the husband of the lady that is so guarded around me so I haven't gone to him but the other leader that I've spoken to has. 

There is a lady that host the Women's Bible Study, and attends Sunday service as well. Her husband is one of the leaders of the Church, I can't call him a Pastor or give a title because there are no titles within the Church leaders. Anyway a little over a year ago I started to attend the Sunday service, then started going to the woman's Bible Study as well. From the very beginning one of the leaders wife has been very distant to me, guarded is probably a better word.  I have stopped attending the Bible Study for woman because she has made me feel uncomfortable.  I decided to stop going when she pointed to each woman in the room and told them where they were in they're walk with Christ.  I was the last within the group of about 10 woman and when she got to me she got a strange look on her face and shook her head and said "the jury is still out" and that she wasn't sure. 

On Sundays I greet her with a sincere hug just like I do everyone else, and she will not look at me, she avoids talking to me, and I feel as I'm being judged by her.  I'm not sure what to do or what to even say at this point. I'm sincerely a kind person to all, I am not judging her, nor putting her down, I just don't know what to do or how to handle this situation anymore.  I'm a strong Spiritual woman, and have no problems with anyone, but this lady is not being kind by being so guarded, and I just don't know what to do or how to handle it anymore.  I've been praying on this, and feel that maybe some of you can shine some light on this situation. 

If any of you can suggest an approach that would be best to confront this situation it would be greatly appreciated.   

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Ignore her behavior and find some other folks to hang out with.

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Right on H, right on.

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she pointed to each woman in the room and told them where they were in they're walk with Christ.  I was the last within the group of about 10 woman and when she got to me she got a strange look on her face and shook her head and said "the jury is still out" and that she wasn't sure.

I'm surprised she didn't get thumbed in the eye.

 


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Right on H, right on.

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she pointed to each woman in the room and told them where they were in they're walk with Christ.  I was the last within the group of about 10 woman and when she got to me she got a strange look on her face and shook her head and said "the jury is still out" and that she wasn't sure.

I'm surprised she didn't get thumbed in the eye.

 



  Amen. Why does she think she has the right to tell anyone where they are with Christ. Keep away from her.