I am currently a Youth Leader at my church. I have such a strong passion for Teen Ministry, and there's one teen, in particular, that I want to discuss today.
His name is Jay and his whole family attends our church. Wilma, Jay's mom, is a part of our worship team. Vinnie, his dad, is one of our ushers. His aunts serve in the church, and his cousins are apart of our Children's Church Ministry. When I say his whole family attends our church: I am not exaggerating
! His entire family goes to our church!
Jay is a troublemaker. He's never been a troublemaker at church, but his parents and family tell me stories about what he does at school, and how he's been suspended and received detention more than any one kid should. They cut him down to me and tell me how he's such a bad kid and how terrible his attitude is.
They bring this up to me when I approach the parents about a Youth Convention that we're going to in April. I gave Jay's mom a permission slip & medical release to fill out and sign and she says to me "We'll see if he can go to this. He's got to learn to behave."
me seeing as how the church paid for his way to go - because they didn't have the money.... which also ticks me off because his dad doesn't have a job (the kind of guy who can work, but won't work) and they spend Lord knows how much money on buying cigarettes.
They didn't let him come to our Lock-In - which, yes it wouldn't been fun for him, but we do a devotional before bedtime. How can he learn to behave when they don't bring him to Youth on Wednesday nights, they don't bring him to church on Sundays... they absolutely put in ZERO
effort into helping this kid.
I see so much potential in him. I see good in him, but I don't know how he can ever become a servant of Christ when he has parents who just don't get it.
If you have any advice or encouragement for me, I'd love to hear it!