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why are there many divorcee ministers?
« on: Wed Nov 25, 2015 - 16:09:21 »
A minister's marital life is meant to be role model for other familys and trouble stricken marriages both unbelievers and believers but unfortunately it is on the contrary

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Re: why are there many divorcee ministers?
« Reply #1 on: Wed Nov 25, 2015 - 16:51:22 »
probably because like us they are fallible people who make mistakes and fail sometimes. Maybe their wives cheated or left them, who knows. Having said that, in my 40 years as a Christian, I havent known a pastor who was divorced. 

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Re: why are there many divorcee ministers?
« Reply #2 on: Mon Feb 15, 2016 - 10:02:06 »
Then there are those whose divorce occurred prior to turning their lives over to the Lord and answering the call to preach but since then their lives and marriages have been exemplary.

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Re: why are there many divorcee ministers?
« Reply #3 on: Tue Aug 23, 2016 - 17:42:50 »
There is also the case where sometimes the wife, after entering into the ministry, for whatever reason fell back into the world and left her husband. Paul says that if the unbelieving spouse desires to remain married to the believer, that is a good thing. But if not, and they leave the believing spouse, the believer is not in bondage to anything, let the unbelieving spouse go.

That is not to say that the believer should initiate the papers, because that does not look very good. However, we are still in a fallen world, and a pastor is first of all responsible for himself, then his family, and then his congregation. He can't cause his wife to love him or to remain a Christian...God does not even do that.


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Re: why are there many divorcee ministers?
« Reply #4 on: Mon Oct 10, 2016 - 23:23:19 »
We do well to remember that Jesus made it clear: divorce is only a thing in existence due to the hardness of hearts and prevalence of sinful nature in the world. Simply put: sinful nature is going to do as sinful nature wishes to do, to an extent. Thus, it is prudent to have a ministerial focus specifically geared towards educating believers about divorce, helping them through the difficult season of divorce, and assisting them in "rebuilding," their lives afterward. True, this should not be so prevalent an issue,(especially among leadership,) but since it is; we must simply move forward and redirect what the enemy would use to destroy and deter into a light-shining, grace-giving, body-edifying ministry to combat this tactic of satan, eh? (Mind you this is not n endorsement of divorce, nor a casual disregard of its unbiblical nature, but rather a blunt redirection towards the solution as opposed to the problem.)

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Re: why are there many divorcee ministers?
« Reply #5 on: Wed Apr 18, 2018 - 17:35:33 »
I am a pastor that unfortunately is divorced, as a pastor we face a lot of spiritual warfare and my wife just couldn't handle the stress involved. I didn't want it but she did and divorced me.
All the late night runs to the hospital, Jails and counseling just adds up and is hard on marriages.  For the most part my church knows the whole situation and supports me fully as their pastor even though it has been a struggle and we did lose a few that feel a pastor should be married. I just know the Holy Spirit is alive and well in our small church and we do a lot of good in the community and lead many to the Lord through our outreaches.  I pray God doesn't want me to step away as this is my life. Do you have an opinion on this? 

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« Reply #6 on: Wed Apr 18, 2018 - 19:00:11 »
I am a pastor that unfortunately is divorced, as a pastor we face a lot of spiritual warfare and my wife just couldn't handle the stress involved. I didn't want it but she did and divorced me.
All the late night runs to the hospital, Jails and counseling just adds up and is hard on marriages.  For the most part my church knows the whole situation and supports me fully as their pastor even though it has been a struggle and we did lose a few that feel a pastor should be married. I just know the Holy Spirit is alive and well in our small church and we do a lot of good in the community and lead many to the Lord through our outreaches.  I pray God doesn't want me to step away as this is my life. Do you have an opinion on this?
 

If your wife left you, then its not your fault. Why would God want you to step away? God loves to use those who have faced hard things in life.
I would have no issues with a previously divorced pastor unless he left his wife for another woman say.

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I  agree  with   chosenone ............................................ .....!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Re: why are there many divorcee ministers?
« Reply #8 on: Sun May 27, 2018 - 16:06:36 »
I am a pastor that unfortunately is divorced, as a pastor we face a lot of spiritual warfare and my wife just couldn't handle the stress involved. I didn't want it but she did and divorced me.
All the late night runs to the hospital, Jails and counseling just adds up and is hard on marriages.  For the most part my church knows the whole situation and supports me fully as their pastor even though it has been a struggle and we did lose a few that feel a pastor should be married. I just know the Holy Spirit is alive and well in our small church and we do a lot of good in the community and lead many to the Lord through our outreaches.  I pray God doesn't want me to step away as this is my life. Do you have an opinion on this?


Hi Mountain Man,no doubt the Lord is your strenght and may God continue to use you.
Maybe you try and make few steps in bringing her back if she hasn't remarried though i don't the real position of that predicament.
If she hasn't remarried yet,there are still chances that God can still bring her back to you and on this note you would have to wait on the Lord on her behalf.
But if she has eventually remarried then you must move on with someone else because it's better to narry than to burn in lost.
Which ever way it's usually hard but our full dependence is on the Lord.
Although its scars are usaully and sometimes hard to get over but you will definitely get over and as well some people who know with time.
I sincerely share your predicamnet and my prayers continually

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Re: why are there many divorcee ministers?
« Reply #9 on: Tue May 29, 2018 - 07:49:56 »
One  of my sons  preaches.......... !   And he was married  2  times..

Both  wife's  left him.........

He  was not  ready for this  I am sure.......    We  think  he is still trying to find a lady that will
love him till the end.......  I am praying this will happen soon.     And no children from either !

I sure was  praying  he would have  at least  one  child !    He may be to old now ?????   

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Re: why are there many divorcee ministers?
« Reply #10 on: Fri Jun 01, 2018 - 12:06:15 »
One of my sons preaches.......... ! And he was married 2 times..
Both wife's left him.........
He was not ready for this I am sure....... We think he is still trying to find a lady that will
love him till the end....... I am praying this will happen soon. And no children from either !
I sure was praying he would have at least one child ! He may be to old now ??



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