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« Reply #1 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 02:18:37 »
We're all sinners.  We just have different sins.   ::idea::  I say get over it, and make him your friend.

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« Reply #2 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 04:20:05 »
There is nothing you can do to change this situation.  People who openly sin and even celebrate it are uncomfortable to be around, but in a work environment, you can' just avoid the person.  You can, however, love the person while you hate the sin.

You are correct to play no part in his antics.  When he is into demonstrating them, find other things in other places to do.

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« Reply #3 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 06:30:30 »
We're all sinners.  We just have different sins.   ::idea::  I say get over it, and make him your friend.


Amen stevehut!!   We are all sinners...and as it says in Rom. 3 "No one is good, no not one. No one has real understanding; no one is seeking after God. We have all turned away from God, all have done wrong"

The way to be an example is to show humility....to show this person that in God's eyes you are not better then they are. Paul in 1 Cor. 9+10 speaks much about finding common ground with everyone so as to bring them to Christ...if someone is oppressed then share their oppression...try and please everyone and not just yourself in everything you do so they may be saved.

There is no buts about it....this is the love of Christ at work. This is the love everyone needs. Please also educate yourself....as many people who are dealing with identity issues have very real physical anomalies and feel almost an insanity inside not knowing who they truly are, because there are such strong pulls this way and that. The fall affected every human, every animal, everything...

PLEASE see this very informative article >>>>

                                                               
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« Reply #4 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 09:11:33 »

                  ::smile::

   Amen Stevehut and Ela.  To Hehealedme I would ask has he "come on to you'/
   You have nothing to fear from him.  There is about as caring and compassionate
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   hope for someone like that.  He will give as good a care as most women.
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« Reply #5 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 09:13:24 »
Yes I was uncomfortable around him yesterday...I am more than willing to show humility and be a friend to the guy as I already told him that but I will not encourage his homosexuality as being considered 'normal behavior' because it sure isn't. He has deliberately made that choice and showing it off the way he does around everyone is quite disturbing.

The residence where I work is a rather small place. Elderly people living there do talk and do widely and openly judge others. I have seen it before...give it a few days and the gossiping will start and it won't be pretty I'm afraid...

I am well aware that we are all sinners and do completely agree as I am one. But since I have been a Christian, I am determined not to deliberately sin anymore the way I used to and hope that this makes a difference.

I have read and have watched tv shows about indeterminate gender before so I am already educated about the subject but thank you for the link. I surely can understand and do sympathize with people having these kinds of anomalies but this is far from beeing the case here, ela.


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« Reply #6 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 09:50:09 »
For this to be the truth it has to come from your heart and not my (or anyone elses) words, so it may be pointless, but tell the young man you love him. Don't preach, don't throw scripture at him, don't stick a Bible under his nose, don't try to drag him to church; just tell him you love him and you want him to live forever because you- and all of us- need him. Then tell him you are very worried he won't live forever, and leave it at that. Then...................................

If he responds in any fashion, move forward from there. You should know what to do. After all, you and I, and all of us, are sinners just as this young man is a sinner. But you have something he doesn't have; you have the Truth, the Way, and the Life.

Right now, this young man has only death. Once you did, too, so you should know what to do.

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« Reply #7 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 10:13:39 »
I have tears running down my face...you are absolutely right, thank you  crowcamp...It would be a very bad idea in deed to preach to him or throw Scripture or put a Bible under his nose...my boss wouldn't allow that anyways because she is a non-believer...I guess what I really need at this point is simply encouragement from other Christians... ::cryingtears::


I have to go for now. My boss asked me to go shopping with her today for some furniture for a new resident arriving this week...


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« Reply #8 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 10:47:00 »
I have tears running down my face...you are absolutely right, thank you  crowcamp...It would be a very bad idea in deed to preach to him or throw Scripture or put a Bible under his nose...my boss wouldn't allow that anyways because she is a non-believer...I guess what I really need at this point is simply encouragement from other Christians... ::cryingtears::


I have to go for now. My boss asked me to go shopping with her today for some furniture for a new resident arriving this week...



If he has an interest in living, there will be plenty of time and opportunity to show him the Way of our Lord. If he does not, we all have to accept the loss. And it will be our loss.

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« Reply #9 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 10:49:09 »
Hehealedme....you may have heard from another source and gotten some info, yet I would still encourage you to read this article...as it is about 50 yrs of experience in this area....and I would not jump to conclusions that this is not one of those cases...as many (1 in 2000 births a yr) start out with anomalies that cause much confusion. I have known a number of people struggling with homosexuality...and it is not something that anyone would choose...none that I knew would have ever chosen to live with this struggle...which is why there is such a high suicide rate among people who are dealing with their identity.

Any that truly do not have an inborn reason for their identity issue are usually using homosexuality to deal or mask past pain....just like alcoholism, drug addiction, and so forth. NO one wakes up and says, geee I think I'll be a drug addict or homosexual today! We do not search out these things...they find us out of some sin that was done to us and damaged us. NOTHING just comes out of the blue...there are reasons....that is why they need healing. One gal I was helping once in a group I was leading had been violated repeatedly by her father and brother when growing up.....she subsequently grew up detesting men.

Remember, gossip, deceit, rage, coveting, selfish-ambition, lust, impure thoughts, pride, hostility, idolatry are just as bad, maybe worse, yet we don't talk about these nearly as much. (Gal. 5:19-21)


When you think that people deliberately choose to be a homosexual.....ask yourself IF YOU could ever choose it for yourself?? Well, could you?? I would never consciously, with my heart, choose it....no way! God never originally planned for this (or other things) to happen, so therefore SOMETHING had to have happened for a person to find themselves in that position.

We see and accept that what Adam and Eve did caused us to be born quilty...and we know that this IS FAIR because if we were in their place in the garden, we would have done the very same thing as they did!  We are just as susceptable as anyone to anything....which is why we need to be careful when judging.

Bless you...   
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« Reply #10 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 11:33:08 »
While we know that the gay lifestyle is wrong, we can still love those caught in this trap. I suppose the balance is loving him while not wanting to listen to him go on and one about the details of what he does. I suppose the dificulty for you hehealedme is being able to say that you dont want to hear certain things but in a sort of friendly way. Its no different from a man who is a hetrosexual going on about his sexual exploits, neither are things that should be shared with others that you work with and hardly know.

I have some good news though. A close friend of ours who was gay and attracted to other men (due to sexual abuse in his childhood) has recently got engaged to a lovely lady. He is over the moon and it shows that God does work miracles and that he can heal and change those caught up in it.

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« Reply #11 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 16:09:08 »
What we are seeing more and more is that homosexuals are not seeking "equal rights" in society and the work place, they are seeking "special rights" in society and the work place.

Consider for a brief moment what would be the plight of a Christian who acts in the manner this homosexual is acting.  How long would would a Christian be allowed to keep his/her job if they openly witnessed their Christian faith to everyone in the workplace?




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« Reply #12 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 16:22:13 »
You know, homoexual individuals are people just like you and me.  They are sinners, just like you and me.  They are out in the world, just like you and me.

If you are working, you are going to have to work with people who are different from you.  That is part of life.

That being said, if his behavior towards you is inappropriate, then you should approach him first and ask him to stop.  If that does not work, approach your supervisor/manager.  If that does not work, find out how to file an official complaint.

Most all employers have an EEO office...harassment cuts both ways.

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What we are seeing more and more is that homosexuals are not seeking "equal rights" in society and the work place, they are seeking "special rights" in society and the work place.

Consider for a brief moment what would be the plight of a Christian who acts in the manner this homosexual is acting.  How long would would a Christian be allowed to keep his/her job if they openly witnessed their Christian faith to everyone in the workplace?




Yes, all Christians and homosexuals should stay in the closets where they belong!!!  rofl

I wouldn't pretend to know much about the human condition, but experience shows that when people "act out" they are desperately needing confirmation. Now, when it comes to homosexuality, we often see the most outlandish acting out. So what does that tell you? Perhaps that they know how wrong and sinful it all is? Maybe, just maybe, they truly need help. A cry for "special rights" seems more a plea for special help- at least to me.

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« Reply #14 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 16:49:29 »

Just as an "FYI"- not all followers of Christ believe that committed,loving homosexual relationships are sinful. I don't.

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« Reply #15 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 17:06:36 »

                          ::smile::

   Right on hnim.  I agree with you and possibly more here
   agree with you than will admit it publicly.
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« Reply #16 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 17:20:14 »

Just as an "FYI"- not all followers of Christ believe that committed,loving homosexual relationships are sinful. I don't.

Another "FYI."  It isn't important what you believe about this kind of relationship.  It is important what God's Word says about it.

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« Reply #17 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 17:39:51 »

Just as an "FYI"- not all followers of Christ believe that committed,loving homosexual relationships are sinful. I don't.

Sorry, but you can't have it both ways. Always your choice, but saying "followers of Christ" and then "believing" something clearly stated as sin to not be sinful does not work. You are either not a follower of His teaching, or you don't believe what you state to believe.

But.......................... why should that be a bother? We are all sinners. The bother comes about by accepting sin as not being so.

I would ask you to reconsider.

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« Reply #18 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 18:42:44 »
You know, homoexual individuals are people just like you and me.  They are sinners, just like you and me.  They are out in the world, just like you and me.

If you are working, you are going to have to work with people who are different from you.  That is part of life.

That being said, if his behavior towards you is inappropriate, then you should approach him first and ask him to stop.  If that does not work, approach your supervisor/manager.  If that does not work, find out how to file an official complaint.

Most all employers have an EEO office...harassment cuts both ways.

Bond

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« Reply #20 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 18:55:51 »

I don't believe the Bible addresses life long committed homosexual relationships. Maybe I missed it somewhere? And please don't bring up the marriage thing,which is impossible for most gays in this country.

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« Reply #21 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 19:54:37 »
The Bible definitely addresses homosexual acts.  Are you suggesting that there are no homosexual acts in "life long committed homosexual relationships?"


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« Reply #22 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 20:00:34 »

I don't believe the Bible addresses life long committed homosexual relationships. Maybe I missed it somewhere? And please don't bring up the marriage thing,which is impossible for most gays in this country.

I Cor 6:9&10: Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.

And you are correct. The Bible does not "address life long committed homosexual relationships" separately. It simply and very directly addresses homosexuals in the same list as many other sinners.

But as I've already said, there's nothing unusual about being a sinner. We all are. To try to accept homosexuality as not being a sin would be the unusual. And to willfully continue in sin once we know our act is a sin would be beyond unusual.

 


 



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« Reply #23 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 20:41:31 »
The Bible also addresses certain heterosexual acts as being sinful. Does that mean all of it is? I hope not!

Again, I believe the homosexuals that are referred to in the Bible are those that ingaged in lustfull, selfish,promiscuous sex.Which is also sinful for heteros! Remember the Bible was written for us,not to us. The homosexuality referred to in scripture(as described above), is not the same as a life long, monogamous relationship.

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The Bible also addresses certain heterosexual acts as being sinful. Does that mean all of it is? I hope not!

Again, I believe the homosexuals that are referred to in the Bible are those that ingaged in lustfull, selfish,promiscuous sex.Which is also sinful for heteros! Remember the Bible was written for us,not to us. The homosexuality referred to in scripture(as described above), is not the same as a life long, monogamous relationship.
Wow! Have to say you've got a strange way of bending the Word of God to fit your particular take on things! Good luck with that. You have my prayers.

BTW- In the passage I provided, it does not say "nor heterosexuals". The reference to homosexuals is very, very clear, and not subject to a particular take that fits what you want. Homosexual acts- all homosexual acts- fit in with the rest of the list; and some of the rest of the list are heterosexual acts done in sin, but being heterosexual by itself is not in the way it clearly defines homosexual is.   Like it or not.

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« Reply #25 on: Sat Jul 24, 2010 - 22:14:37 »

Just as an "FYI"- not all followers of Christ believe that committed,loving homosexual relationships are sinful. I don't.
 

 God does however.The Bible seems to make no distinction between a so called 'committed' gay relationship than it does to any sex between 2 men or 2 women does it? If sex between 2 men is wrong then it is wrong no matter how many times it happens.Why does the fact that it is a long relationship make sex between 2 men right? Its the act of sex between 2 people of the same sex that is wrong, no matter what relationship it is in.
I guess we can all think what we like but in the end, its Gods word that counts surely.

 However that doesn't detract form the need to love and be friendly to all people that we meet and work with,and the fact that God has and does change and heal people, as in my friends case. Men like this guy desperately need Gods power to work in their lives.God is perfectly capable of changing him but only if he recognises that he needs God.

  Hehealed me, pray for him and treat him courteously but I think you should be allowed to ask him to stop if he gets too graphic, just as if a heterosexual man should be asked to stop if he gets too graphic about his exploits.
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« Reply #26 on: Sun Jul 25, 2010 - 06:43:30 »
Well, I've heard certain versions of this statement before, but never this version "The Bible was written for us, not to us."  I have heard that the Old Testament was written for us, but not to us.

Is this a belief of the New Christianity?




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The Bible also addresses certain heterosexual acts as being sinful. Does that mean all of it is? I hope not!

Again, I believe the homosexuals that are referred to in the Bible are those that ingaged in lustfull, selfish,promiscuous sex.Which is also sinful for heteros! Remember the Bible was written for us,not to us. The homosexuality referred to in scripture(as described above), is not the same as a life long, monogamous relationship.
Wow! Have to say you've got a strange way of bending the Word of God to fit your particular take on things! Good luck with that. You have my prayers.

BTW- In the passage I provided, it does not say "nor heterosexuals". The reference to homosexuals is very, very clear, and not subject to a particular take that fits what you want. Homosexual acts- all homosexual acts- fit in with the rest of the list; and some of the rest of the list are heterosexual acts done in sin, but being heterosexual by itself is not in the way it clearly defines homosexual is.   Like it or not.

It has nothing to do with what we like and everything to do with what the Bible says.  The Bible says a lot about both heterosexual immorality and homosexual immorality.  ANY homosexual acts are sin.  Period.  Not "being" homosexual, not "leaning" homosexual, but committing a homosexual act.  If some are in a "loving and committed" homosexual relationship and not committing any homosexual acts, there is nothing to worry about.  But if they commit homosexual acts, they are sinning.  It does not matter how much they love each other.

A man could be married and sleeping with another woman.  He may truly love her and be committed to her, but he is still sinning every time he sleeps with her.  The same is true of any homosexual relationship.  They may truly love each other and be committed to each other, but they are still sinning every time they commit sexual acts on one another.

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« Reply #28 on: Sun Jul 25, 2010 - 08:21:30 »
Again, I believe the homosexuals that are referred to in the Bible are those that ingaged in lustfull, selfish,promiscuous sex.Which is also sinful for heteros! Remember the Bible was written for us,not to us. The homosexuality referred to in scripture(as described above), is not the same as a life long, monogamous relationship.

Total conjecture that is not based on any knowledge of the text or it's meaning.

And this statement:

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the Bible was written for us,not to us.

is just plain wrong.  The Bible was written for and to Christians, believers, followers of Christ.

But thanks for tipping your hand - your lack of knowledge of the Bible and the principles of biblical interpretation will help us not be surprised when you make other statements like that.

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« Reply #29 on: Sun Jul 25, 2010 - 09:39:13 »
I have been working in a home for elderly people for close to four years. My boss hired a new employee two days ago. The young 23 year old guy seems to be qualified for the job but I am struggling with the fact that he is openly gay and brags about it all the time.

This afternoon, the guy was showing some pictures and videos from his cellphone to my boss of himself dressed as a drag queen and wanted me to look at them too. I told him that I will respect him as a person but I am in no way interested in his life style. Later he told me that he had a girlfriend for three years while in highschool but then broke it off with her because he had fallen in love with her brother...He also told me that he is now engaged with his boyfriend (not sure if this is the same person he mentionned earlier though, I didn't ask him) . I am not interested in listening to these kinds of stories and certainly not what happens in his bedroom, they simply disgust me... ::sick::

Today, instead of wearing a uniform like he should as the rest of us employees, he had a t-shirt on with the words ''Sin Francisco'' printed on it...I asked him if he knew what the word ''sin'' meant and he said he didn't because it is written in English. The guy is French just as myself so I told him the definition of the word. As a result, he started making these goofy faces, laughing and obviously showed how proud he is of his homosexuality...he knows it is wrong but is the kind of person that believes he was born this way...

I am praying God to help me deal with this new situation without compromising my job... ::prayinghard::

The guy talks a lot so I am sure we will hear many stories of this nature for now on. It doesn't seem to bother the other employees like it does me, they just think it's funny!... It scares me...How would you handle the situation ? ??

Not to be trite, but what would Jesus do?

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« Reply #30 on: Sun Jul 25, 2010 - 10:31:06 »
I have been working in a home for elderly people for close to four years. My boss hired a new employee two days ago. The young 23 year old guy seems to be qualified for the job but I am struggling with the fact that he is openly gay and brags about it all the time.

This afternoon, the guy was showing some pictures and videos from his cellphone to my boss of himself dressed as a drag queen and wanted me to look at them too. I told him that I will respect him as a person but I am in no way interested in his life style. Later he told me that he had a girlfriend for three years while in highschool but then broke it off with her because he had fallen in love with her brother...He also told me that he is now engaged with his boyfriend (not sure if this is the same person he mentionned earlier though, I didn't ask him) . I am not interested in listening to these kinds of stories and certainly not what happens in his bedroom, they simply disgust me... ::sick::

Today, instead of wearing a uniform like he should as the rest of us employees, he had a t-shirt on with the words ''Sin Francisco'' printed on it...I asked him if he knew what the word ''sin'' meant and he said he didn't because it is written in English. The guy is French just as myself so I told him the definition of the word. As a result, he started making these goofy faces, laughing and obviously showed how proud he is of his homosexuality...he knows it is wrong but is the kind of person that believes he was born this way...

I am praying God to help me deal with this new situation without compromising my job... ::prayinghard::

The guy talks a lot so I am sure we will hear many stories of this nature for now on. It doesn't seem to bother the other employees like it does me, they just think it's funny!... It scares me...How would you handle the situation ? ??

Not to be trite, but what would Jesus do?
   

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« Reply #31 on: Sun Jul 25, 2010 - 10:33:10 »
The more you talk against his sinful lifestyle, the more he will taunt you with it. It's like the smokers who delight in blowing smoke in the faces of non-smokers, or someone increasing his use of profanity when told "I don't like that kind of language." It's best to ignore him as much as possible and don't speak to him any more than is necessary. You're not going to change him; only God can do that. Just pray that God will speak to him and make him miserable until he turns to Christ and forsakes that wicked lifestyle.

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Re: Having to accept a new employee's homosexuality?...
« Reply #32 on: Sun Jul 25, 2010 - 10:59:54 »
I have been working in a home for elderly people for close to four years. My boss hired a new employee two days ago. The young 23 year old guy seems to be qualified for the job but I am struggling with the fact that he is openly gay and brags about it all the time.

This afternoon, the guy was showing some pictures and videos from his cellphone to my boss of himself dressed as a drag queen and wanted me to look at them too. I told him that I will respect him as a person but I am in no way interested in his life style. Later he told me that he had a girlfriend for three years while in highschool but then broke it off with her because he had fallen in love with her brother...He also told me that he is now engaged with his boyfriend (not sure if this is the same person he mentionned earlier though, I didn't ask him) . I am not interested in listening to these kinds of stories and certainly not what happens in his bedroom, they simply disgust me... ::sick::

Today, instead of wearing a uniform like he should as the rest of us employees, he had a t-shirt on with the words ''Sin Francisco'' printed on it...I asked him if he knew what the word ''sin'' meant and he said he didn't because it is written in English. The guy is French just as myself so I told him the definition of the word. As a result, he started making these goofy faces, laughing and obviously showed how proud he is of his homosexuality...he knows it is wrong but is the kind of person that believes he was born this way...

I am praying God to help me deal with this new situation without compromising my job... ::prayinghard::

The guy talks a lot so I am sure we will hear many stories of this nature for now on. It doesn't seem to bother the other employees like it does me, they just think it's funny!... It scares me...How would you handle the situation ? ??

Not to be trite, but what would Jesus do?

Well, lets see, we have an example, not of a homosexual caught but a heterosexual woman caught in adultery  and to US, he says, he who is without sin let him cast the first stone so for me, that's my example of what I'm to do were I working with this individual.  Make sure I'm examining my own self and being sure I'm not casting stones at others.

Now, I really like what bond said earlier as far as if any employees behavior becomes inappropriate at work  regardless of their sexuality, it needs to be confronted and dealt with but lets make sure it really is against work policies and not just annoying to me.  

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Re: Having to accept a new employee's homosexuality?...
« Reply #33 on: Sun Jul 25, 2010 - 11:19:05 »
I have been working in a home for elderly people for close to four years. My boss hired a new employee two days ago. The young 23 year old guy seems to be qualified for the job but I am struggling with the fact that he is openly gay and brags about it all the time.

This afternoon, the guy was showing some pictures and videos from his cellphone to my boss of himself dressed as a drag queen and wanted me to look at them too. I told him that I will respect him as a person but I am in no way interested in his life style. Later he told me that he had a girlfriend for three years while in highschool but then broke it off with her because he had fallen in love with her brother...He also told me that he is now engaged with his boyfriend (not sure if this is the same person he mentionned earlier though, I didn't ask him) . I am not interested in listening to these kinds of stories and certainly not what happens in his bedroom, they simply disgust me... ::sick::

Today, instead of wearing a uniform like he should as the rest of us employees, he had a t-shirt on with the words ''Sin Francisco'' printed on it...I asked him if he knew what the word ''sin'' meant and he said he didn't because it is written in English. The guy is French just as myself so I told him the definition of the word. As a result, he started making these goofy faces, laughing and obviously showed how proud he is of his homosexuality...he knows it is wrong but is the kind of person that believes he was born this way...

I am praying God to help me deal with this new situation without compromising my job... ::prayinghard::

The guy talks a lot so I am sure we will hear many stories of this nature for now on. It doesn't seem to bother the other employees like it does me, they just think it's funny!... It scares me...How would you handle the situation ? ??

Not to be trite, but what would Jesus do?

Well, lets see, we have an example, not of a homosexual caught but a heterosexual woman caught in adultery  and to US, he says, he who is without sin let him cast the first stone so for me, that's my example of what I'm to do were I working with this individual.  Make sure I'm examining my own self and being sure I'm not casting stones at others.

Now, I really like what bond said earlier as far as if any employees behavior becomes inappropriate at work  regardless of their sexuality, it needs to be confronted and dealt with but lets make sure it really is against work policies and not just annoying to me. 
 

yes Jesus had compassion on her and didnt condemn her, but did tell her not to sin again. Compassion and truth. Forgiving yet challenging.

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Re: Having to accept a new employee's homosexuality?...
« Reply #34 on: Sun Jul 25, 2010 - 12:42:37 »
I have been working in a home for elderly people for close to four years. My boss hired a new employee two days ago. The young 23 year old guy seems to be qualified for the job but I am struggling with the fact that he is openly gay and brags about it all the time.

This afternoon, the guy was showing some pictures and videos from his cellphone to my boss of himself dressed as a drag queen and wanted me to look at them too. I told him that I will respect him as a person but I am in no way interested in his life style. Later he told me that he had a girlfriend for three years while in highschool but then broke it off with her because he had fallen in love with her brother...He also told me that he is now engaged with his boyfriend (not sure if this is the same person he mentionned earlier though, I didn't ask him) . I am not interested in listening to these kinds of stories and certainly not what happens in his bedroom, they simply disgust me... ::sick::

Today, instead of wearing a uniform like he should as the rest of us employees, he had a t-shirt on with the words ''Sin Francisco'' printed on it...I asked him if he knew what the word ''sin'' meant and he said he didn't because it is written in English. The guy is French just as myself so I told him the definition of the word. As a result, he started making these goofy faces, laughing and obviously showed how proud he is of his homosexuality...he knows it is wrong but is the kind of person that believes he was born this way...

I am praying God to help me deal with this new situation without compromising my job... ::prayinghard::

The guy talks a lot so I am sure we will hear many stories of this nature for now on. It doesn't seem to bother the other employees like it does me, they just think it's funny!... It scares me...How would you handle the situation ? ??

Not to be trite, but what would Jesus do?

Well, lets see, we have an example, not of a homosexual caught but a heterosexual woman caught in adultery  and to US, he says, he who is without sin let him cast the first stone so for me, that's my example of what I'm to do were I working with this individual.  Make sure I'm examining my own self and being sure I'm not casting stones at others.

Now, I really like what bond said earlier as far as if any employees behavior becomes inappropriate at work  regardless of their sexuality, it needs to be confronted and dealt with but lets make sure it really is against work policies and not just annoying to me. 
 

yes Jesus had compassion on her and didnt condemn her, but did tell her not to sin again. Compassion and truth. Forgiving yet challenging.

Yes, but please keep in mind that He is the one who told Her to go and sin no more, he told us to quit throwing rocks!

 

     
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