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how can fellow christians be rude to each other
« on: February 09, 2012, 12:03:06 AM »
this is not so much a rant as it is a question.. i cant understand how fellow christians can  make rude remarks to someone just because they dont believe the exact same thing. i just joined this group and my first post was on when we thought the rapture would take place. it ask us to say what we believed. whether pre tibulaion, post , etc. i happen to believe in post. my first responce was very mean hearted and it hurt me deeply.why ask a question if you dont want to hear the answer.  ::shrug::i wouldnt make fun of someone else because they believe in pre tribulation , so i cant understand why someone would be mean to me because of what i believe.

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« Reply #1 on: February 09, 2012, 07:00:00 AM »
this is not so much a rant as it is a question.. i cant understand how fellow christians can  make rude remarks to someone just because they dont believe the exact same thing. i just joined this group and my first post was on when we thought the rapture would take place. it ask us to say what we believed. whether pre tibulaion, post , etc. i happen to believe in post. my first responce was very mean hearted and it hurt me deeply.why ask a question if you dont want to hear the answer.  ::shrug::i wouldnt make fun of someone else because they believe in pre tribulation , so i cant understand why someone would be mean to me because of what i believe.

Sorry for your experience, which was in the End-Times Forum?  As for Christians being rude to one another, yes, it happens, and when one enters into debates concerning theological ideology, it will pretty much happen all the time.  Unfortunant, but true.  Christians feel strongly about what they believe, and tend to discount what others believe, after all, being a Christian does not make them perfect, but, rather gives them the gift of Grace by which their transgressions can be forgiven.

I would suggest as you are new here that you begin on the "introducitons" forum, and then spend some time on General Discussion, Devotionals, or one of the other less agressive Forums.  Theology Forums are pretty much always agressive, and folks can get carried away and act rude from time to time. 

Eventually, you will learn those who tend to display rudeness, and those who don't, and you will be wiser for it, and know who to respond to, and who to ignore.  Much like life, these Forums are a learning process, but, if you really are sincere about sharing and fellowshiping with other Christians, you will find many that you can enjoy conversing with.

Again, sorry for someone's rude behavior, and God bless and keep you and yours.

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« Reply #2 on: February 09, 2012, 07:48:11 AM »
Hi grannietwoshoes and that is a great observation. Christians are Christian because of being in Christ, and our growth in the things of God come at different rates as we grow in grace and knowledge of our Lord. Hopefully those that react like that will allow the Lord to continue to work in their lives. It's good to have you with us in Jesus' name.

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« Reply #3 on: February 09, 2012, 08:02:23 AM »
There are many wolves among the sheep on this board. The shepherd of old would used the stick to drive off or, better, kill the predators. I suppose the modern day shepherd carries a gun for the same purpose.

I full agree that Christians should be able to discuss differences with mutual respect. But when the predators bare their fangs, trying to politely ask them to play nice does not work.

Jesus called the legalists of his day "snakes" and "whitewashed tombs full of rotting flesh." Paul told people to "beware of the dogs." I think I'll follow their example.


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« Reply #4 on: February 09, 2012, 08:03:36 AM »
There are many wolves among the sheep on this board. The shepherd of old would used the stick to drive off or, better, kill the predators. I suppose the modern day shepherd carries a gun for the same purpose.

I full agree that Christians should be able to discuss differences with mutual respect. But when the predators bare their fangs, trying to politely ask them to play nice does not work.

Jesus called the legalists of his day "snakes" and "whitewashed tombs full of rotting flesh." Paul told people to "beware of the dogs." I think I'll follow their example.

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« Reply #5 on: February 09, 2012, 08:29:51 AM »
Welcome to GCM, Grannie! I'm sorry your first experience here has been so upsetting. Let me assure you that not all here are like that. Some people lose all of their manners on message boards and will write things that they would never say in person. It's not right, but it happens.

I often find myself wondering how Christians can act as they do, seemingly without guilt or pricks to their conscience. I have to remind myself that each of us is still in the process of being remade into the likeness of our savior, and that I don't know where that person started out. Maybe he used to be a lot worse!

The Apostle John (in the book of 1 John) had to remind 1st century Christians that they couldn't hate each other and walk with God at the same time. Paul warned the Christians in Galatia not to "bite and devour" each other. So it is not a new problem. I know that doesn't stop the hurt, however.

As others have said, join in some of the less controversial areas of the site first. Hang around. You'll find your niche.

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« Reply #6 on: February 09, 2012, 08:48:31 AM »
Hope you still stick around Grannie!

I think being a Christian requires a lot of thick skin.

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« Reply #7 on: February 09, 2012, 08:52:16 AM »
It would be nice if some of these wolves were identified earlier and banned.

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« Reply #8 on: February 09, 2012, 08:53:05 AM »
Not gonna happen these days, unfortunately.

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« Reply #9 on: February 09, 2012, 09:00:46 AM »
Hope you still stick around Grannie!

I think being a Christian requires a lot of thick skin.

No...it requires a transparent heart full of Love (Jesus)...in which He gives us patience, kindness...without envy, without boasting...humility, not pride.  

As God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved...we are to clothe ourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience...bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances we may have against one another.  We should forgive as the Lord forgave us.

And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

We are to let the peace of Christ rule in our hearts...

Christians...if we call ourself such; should be a light in this world...carring others burdens, showing love...

If we are rude...let's look at ourself; and not at the one we are rude to.  

Bitter...I am sorry if I ever came accross rude to you ::smile::

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« Reply #10 on: February 09, 2012, 09:06:59 AM »
Not gonna happen these days, unfortunately.

And that is sad.

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« Reply #11 on: February 09, 2012, 09:47:13 AM »
Hope you still stick around Grannie!

I think being a Christian requires a lot of thick skin.

No...it requires a transparent heart full of Love (Jesus)...in which He gives us patience, kindness...without envy, without boasting...humility, not pride.  

As God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved...we are to clothe ourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience...bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances we may have against one another.  We should forgive as the Lord forgave us.

And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

We are to let the peace of Christ rule in our hearts...

Christians...if we call ourself such; should be a light in this world...carring others burdens, showing love...

If we are rude...let's look at ourself; and not at the one we are rude to.  

Bitter...I am sorry if I ever came accross rude to you ::smile::

Thank you, that's really thoughtful of you. I never take anything personally, it goes in one ear and out the other if someone say's something I consider less than considerate. I want to apologize to you too in case I've ever said anything hurtful, specifically the Viking comment yesterday, I am sorry for being a meaner. But I can't remember you ever saying anything mean to me, I don't keep records, and I have a really bad short term memory lol!

This is one trait I am proud to say my oldest daughter has picked up from me, she can call me every name in the book in a heated moment and I never take it to heart and she is now a very forgiving person because of that. I call it unconditional forgiveness. 

I think when I said thick skin, it can also be related to putting on the full armor of God, armor is as strong as it get's! But like you said, it also requires love because without that we can't be forgiving.

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« Reply #12 on: February 09, 2012, 10:08:28 AM »
I want to apologize to you too in case I've ever said anything hurtful, specifically the Viking comment yesterday, I am sorry for being a meaner.

Anyone that follows football; would know that comment had some truth... ::smile::

Thank you...

Also...what I try to remember is "Love does no harm to its neighbor"...how much more then should we love our fellow Christians?  Easier said then done; I will be the first to admit!  That is where putting ourself to the back corner of our hearts comes in; allowing Jesus (His disposition), to live through us (our personality)...do the heavy lifting up (encouraging), the deep work of our hearts (love)...as we carry each others burdens...  (the Law of Christ)...

God Bless you Bitter Sweet...

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« Reply #13 on: February 09, 2012, 10:29:59 AM »
God Bless you Bitter Sweet...

Thanks again.

And don't ever apologize to me again! It's never necessary because I really am that forgiving.  ::smile:: I have sent PM's to a few people to apologize, but you are the first to apologize to me. I've just never been one to hold grudges and I know it's hard for people to say sorry, I suppose that's why I forgive them instead of waiting for an apology I know I will never get.

God Bless you too!

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« Reply #14 on: February 09, 2012, 12:11:32 PM »

thanks to all of you who have encouraged me. its good to know that we can converse  here as christians. i will keep in mind all the things that you h ave all pointed out to me. this post has lifted me up and i do want to stay around. I hope to be here a long time and make many friends. thanks again to all of you.i hope each nd every one of you have a great day. be blessed in Jesus name.
grannie .  ::hug::