Before I met my wife I didn't go to church, but after meeting her I started going. I gave her church a try for several months, but I felt uncomfortable there. The things that were happening, such as talking in tongue, people hitting there knees crying for no apparent reason and the pastor saying that's them taking people's pain away, and people after being prayed over, passing out, were just too much for me.
The stuff that happens there makes me feel like I should be running away.
So I thought maybe we should find our own church, one that we are both able to attend. We're both non-denominational.
We started going to a church and she did like it, but lately we have been arguing because I feel that her coming to church with me and then going to her own church is wrong. We can't call the church we both go to our own church if she continues to go to her own. she says the reason why she still goes to her own is because she doesn't feel in her heart like she's hearing god speak to her at the new church. So she goes to hers for that reason.
To me I feel as though she just doesn't want to ever leave her church. She says she wants to find a church that we can call home, but goes and does something different.
Our arguments have become pretty heated over this. So much so that she stated she was done with our marriage last night because of some of the things that I said that hurt her. I just feel so strongly that we should be going to the same church, that my anger starts to take over.
To me if we don't call a church our own, then our marriage isn't whole, as when you become married you're supposed to be one flesh. I don't see that going to two separate churches.