attractive ladies

[okekeogo]

HOW YOU PRESENT YOURSELF DETERMINE HOW  PEOPLE  WILL TREAT YOU.
  Men and women see who you are before they hear what you have to say. Your personal power begins with a powerful image.
Your personal image goes long way to determines how you are perceived. How you are perceived determines how you are received.  Naturally Opportunities comes towards you because of your appearance.
You are going to receive better and well treatment from every person if you are well dressed
Learn to be yourself, accept and work with your body type.  diet or surgery cannot change the length of your legs, the placement of your waist, the size of your head etc. Real beauty begins in your mind.
Well dress and looking cute goes a long way to tell about  your personality. Purpose and direction in life.
A wonderful image is a product of posture, carriage, body language and classy dressing. When colleagues, friends and family say you look good, learn to accept their compliments graciously.
do you want to be a woman of influence, learn to dress like your heroines in politics, business, religion and arts etc frankly whom you admire.
The clothes you wear advertise your character. The bible in proverbs 31 talks about the attire of a virtuous woman. In proverb 6, it talks about the attire of a prostitute. You cannot be mistaken for a prostitute if you dress like a princess.
Make it a habit , you have only one opportunity to make a good first impression.

[Joker2]

I hope you men take that post to heart and realize you need to "look cute"!

Don't dress so that we mistake you for a pimp rather than a king.


ROFL

[Corbley]

HOW YOU PRESENT YOURSELF DETERMINE HOW  PEOPLE  WILL TREAT YOU.
  Men and women see who you are before they hear what you have to say. Your personal power begins with a powerful image.
Your personal image goes long way to determines how you are perceived. How you are perceived determines how you are received.  Naturally Opportunities comes towards you because of your appearance.
You are going to receive better and well treatment from every person if you are well dressed
Learn to be yourself, accept and work with your body type.  diet or surgery cannot change the length of your legs, the placement of your waist, the size of your head etc. Real beauty begins in your mind.
Well dress and looking cute goes a long way to tell about  your personality. Purpose and direction in life.
A wonderful image is a product of posture, carriage, body language and classy dressing. When colleagues, friends and family say you look good, learn to accept their compliments graciously.
do you want to be a woman of influence, learn to dress like your heroines in politics, business, religion and arts etc frankly whom you admire.
The clothes you wear advertise your character. The bible in proverbs 31 talks about the attire of a virtuous woman. In proverb 6, it talks about the attire of a prostitute. You cannot be mistaken for a prostitute if you dress like a princess.
Make it a habit , you have only one opportunity to make a good first impression.

While I do not disagree, that you get more respect in a business suit, than you do in ragged jeans.

The problem here is not, the person in ragged jeans...It is the person in the suit..who looks down on the man in ragged jeans.

[Joker2]

Depends upon how "cute" one looks in those jeans.

[janine]

I like the idea of using what you have to best advantage.

Like, if you are a slave to whatever the current style of this year is -- but really, with your body type, the waistline or hemline of two years previous looks fantastic on you -- then for goodness' sake, wear the two-year-old fashion!  You can always update it by buying it or making it yourself in a color that is "in" this year, or using a this-year accessory.

Also, I am a people-watcher.  I love to look at people and enjoy their distinctiveness.  So, it really pleases me and makes me smile when a woman (or man) has figured out what makes him/her look their best.  And, trust me, this is almost never too revealing or identical to the next 20 people walking by.  It's always individual, and always weather-  and activity-appropriate.

[Bon Voyage]

All women should wear burqas.  Then we wouldn't worry about who is wearing what.

[Corbley]

I like the idea of using what you have to best advantage.

Like, if you are a slave to whatever the current style of this year is -- but really, with your body type, the waistline or hemline of two years previous looks fantastic on you -- then for goodness' sake, wear the two-year-old fashion!  You can always update it by buying it or making it yourself in a color that is "in" this year, or using a this-year accessory.

Also, I am a people-watcher.  I love to look at people and enjoy their distinctiveness.  So, it really pleases me and makes me smile when a woman (or man) has figured out what makes him/her look their best.  And, trust me, this is almost never too revealing or identical to the next 20 people walking by.  It's always individual, and always weather-  and activity-appropriate.

I do not disagree .....Clothing tells alot about the "social status" of a person......
Really it is more about the time in which we live.
(Most) women and men, dress to "impress"...Thinking that a nice outfit will impact how they are precieved.....And they would be correct
So,what does that say about our society?

[larry2]

You must be talking to not dress as a publican where you can be noticed.

Luke 18:11 "The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, God, I thank thee, that I am not as other men are, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this publican."
 
Luke 18:13  And the publican, standing afar off, would not lift up so much as his eyes unto heaven, but smote upon his breast, saying, God be merciful to me a sinner.

           Wait, Jesus also noticed; It must not be what we wear.

Luke 18:14  I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other: for every one that exalteth himself shall be abased; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted.

                        Are we attempting to please man or God?

In Jesus' name - larry2 

[janine]

I notice details like clean clothing and the fact that the wearer had at least a little grasp on the appropriate wear for the occasion... The clothing doesn't have to be "power" stuff for me to pay attention to the person.  What they say coupled with how they relate to me will get my attention every time.

[son of God]

Do we know the Word where it states "God looks on the inward, but man looks on the outward?"

And who are we trying to impress?  Does the Word state that we are to impress, or does it state otherwise, such as humility, meekness, etc.?

And why do we try to impress?  The only things that impress the Godly are the inside, not the outside.  Even Peter (or James) states that the wicked look at the clothing, but the righteous do not!

Also, as a woman or man, why do we try to look attractive?  We are thereby focusing on our physical in order to attract the mind and emotions of another.  Do we know the scriptures that tell us to do that for His kingdom?

Or once they are attracted, do we satisfy that attraction?  If not, we have stirred up things then left them hanging -- even prostitutes are better than that!

So many women in church come all painted and gussied up, looking attractive, knowing full well that men are visually stimulated, and they cause many a weak man to sin and commit adultery in church while "worshipping' the most Holy God!  O, I forgot: they were just trying to look descent for that most Holy God.  

feedback, anyone?

[janine]

Well, cover your women up in a Muslim burqa.  That'll fix it.

[son of God]

Well, cover your women up in a Muslim burqa.  That'll fix it.

I love it!   

I spend time on facebook for the express purpose of witnessing to Muslims.  I have friends in closed Muslim countries that have spent years their under professional visas so that they can get in and share the gospel.  I have hard core Muslims that are friends, who try to get my Christian friends kicked out of their country!  What a crazy circle!  Anyhow, the men still lust just as much after their muslim women in burqas.  Why?  It is the heart that is the problem.  The clothes merely exacerbate it!  Thus the command of God in "not with fancy clothing, braided (permd?) hair, jewelry" are the women of God to clothe themselves.  That, though, goes against our "Christian" culture, so that means that we are true but God is a liar.  NOT.

It is a fact that many men are weak.  It is equal fact that many women are just as weak, or they wouldn't dress with eyecathing clothes, trussed up hair, and jewelry (and this type of stuff does in now way exclude make-up, does it?!!!) and stumble men who they always say are visually oriented and hungry for women!  People just can't hide their hearts from God and those who have His mind, can they?

Any feed back?

[Hot Ice]

The way we dress simply DOES have a lot to do with how we are treated.  I don't know why so many posts have to so desperately pretend that the OP somehow said that the manner of dress unilaterally determines how others treat us.

Proverbs 6 DID say that the loose woman met him, dressed in the attire of a harlot.  Nobody (in their native culture) is unaware of the dress that is considered loose for a woman to wear.

[janine]

I seriously doubt Judah's daughter-in-law was wearing a mini-skirt and a push-up bra.

For the man to not know who she was, she'd have to have been as covered up as any burqa-wearing Middle Eastern woman of today.  Veiling was probably common dress for an unattended woman out on a public road in that time and place back then.

... So she took off her widow's garments, covered herself with a veil and wrapped herself, and sat in an open place which was on the way to Timnah; for she saw that Shelah was grown, and she was not given to him as a wife.  When Judah saw her, he thought she was a harlot, because she had covered her face.  Then he turned to her by the way, and said, "Please let me come in to you"; for he did not know that she was his daughter-in-law.

I suspect it was her location and her communication that identified her, to him, as a prostitute, not her 10-inch stiletto heels.  She was not provocatively dressed at all, so far as I can tell.  What identified her as a harlot, to Judah, was the fact that he was a randy widower, in my opinion -- and the fact that she had no man nearby obviously marking her as his.  And also the conversation, after he approached her.  Any woman outside of a context the man was accustomed to would have seemed "fair game" to him.

We do owe due consideration to our fellow human beings, to not set out to give them a trap into which they can fall, into sin.

But you must admit there's only so much one can do to stop someone else from sinning.

As for the OP... well, yeah, common sense.  If you want to set out, on purpose,  to cultivate a certain type of reaction among the people passing by,  then you dress and act to try to elicit that response.

Just as Tamar did.

[son of God]

The sinful heart will sin, and even looks for cause to do so.  It is therefore judged, being wicked and evidencing itself to the Great Judge, God.  Hearts are judged not for the sinful state of others, but for giving cause for them to feed their sin and wicked state within them.  This Christ addressed so well in the lusting passages.

One cannot hide their endowments, male or female, but one can definitely be modest, as the Word tells us to be, for the heart that wants to be pure in all things will indeed search out ways to keep from providing opportunity to stumble the weak who is tender in the Lord and not able to stand well yet.  For the hard and callous, being modest has no affect whatsoever, for they will lust and sin about what they see no matter what.  It isn't for them that we dress and carry ourselves modestly and with meek decorum, but for those who are yet the spiritual little children in Him that are weak and not yet strong in Him, for he that "stumbles the least of these WHO BELIEVE IN ME, it would be better that he had been drowned in the sea." 

So the question remains: do we "improve" ourselves with "fancy clothing, done up hair, and jewelry", thereby being vain and stumbling the weak who are new in Christ?  "Do you not know, that he who defiles the temple of God, God will destroy?"  and "I will require their souls of your hand."  When we stand before Him, how can we do that?  We can't.  This is not legalism, just as the decalogue is not legalism for those born of God, for it is written on their hearts: it is part of their new nature in Christ.  The decalogue is for the wicked, as expressly stated in timothy.  One dresses and acts according to their heart state -- it cannot be hidden.  Legalism dresses in black pants and white shirts with suspenders.  Worldliness dresses in fancy hair, catchy clothes, and jewelry -- anything to enhance the physical appearance.

And no, this has nothing to do with slovenliness, either, as I'm sure some will go to that opposite extreme as a means to justify the culture that they have accepted.
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Grow in Grace!  and "let your light so shine before men."

[JohnDB]

I seriously doubt Judah's daughter-in-law was wearing a mini-skirt and a push-up bra.

For the man to not know who she was, she'd have to have been as covered up as any burqa-wearing Middle Eastern woman of today.  Veiling was probably common dress for an unattended woman out on a public road in that time and place back then.

... So she took off her widow's garments, covered herself with a veil and wrapped herself, and sat in an open place which was on the way to Timnah; for she saw that Shelah was grown, and she was not given to him as a wife.  When Judah saw her, he thought she was a harlot, because she had covered her face.  Then he turned to her by the way, and said, "Please let me come in to you"; for he did not know that she was his daughter-in-law.

I suspect it was her location and her communication that identified her, to him, as a prostitute, not her 10-inch stiletto heels.  She was not provocatively dressed at all, so far as I can tell.  What identified her as a harlot, to Judah, was the fact that he was a randy widower, in my opinion -- and the fact that she had no man nearby obviously marking her as his.  And also the conversation, after he approached her.  Any woman outside of a context the man was accustomed to would have seemed "fair game" to him.

We do owe due consideration to our fellow human beings, to not set out to give them a trap into which they can fall, into sin.

But you must admit there's only so much one can do to stop someone else from sinning.

As for the OP... well, yeah, common sense.  If you want to set out, on purpose,  to cultivate a certain type of reaction among the people passing by,  then you dress and act to try to elicit that response.

Just as Tamar did.

Most likely by the manner of her dress as you would suppose.

Families wore clothing all made on a loom or similar loom as the other's clothes were made on. (ya didn't have more than one of these things...difficult to build and or haul around)

So...when she put on clothing of someone else's family/tribe of the region...it likely was one known for casual sex...with a price. Possibly even with a charity angle thown in for good measure. (give the woman a son so she doesn't have to face old age alone) LOL

Whatever it was...you are correct...it was suggestive but not revealing.

[chosenone]

So why do we have to dress to be 'cute' or 'classy?' Why do we need to dress like the women of the world?' I cant agree with the original poster in this. The only people who I want to please and dress for are God and my husband.
I am not interested in getting attention or looking  like the women of the world with clothes that arent appropriate or immodest, loads of make up etc. Arent Christian women supposed to concentrate on their inside? Arent we supposed to be different from those in the world?

I dress casually, and always wear clean and presentable clothes.I try to look nice, but that is as far as it goes. I dont dress to impress other men or women. if I did that would be wrong. Why do I need their attention? Why am I trying to impress them? What will this achieve?

[son of God]

So why do we have to dress to be 'cute' or 'classy?' Why do we need to dress like the women of the world?' I cant agree with the original poster in this. The only people who I want to please and dress for are God and my husband.
I am not interesetd in getting attention or looking  like the women of the world with clothes that arent appropriate, loads of make up etc. Arent Christian women supposed to concentrate on their inside? Arenht we supposed to be different from those in the world?

I dress casually, and always wear clean and presentable clothes. I dont dress to impress other men or women. if I did that would be wrong. Why do I need their attention? Why am I trying to impress them? What will this achieve?

Truly, chosenone, you are a most beautiful women.  The scriptures say so "For os such the women of old adorned themslevs..."

Preach it, girl!!!   

[chosenone]

So why do we have to dress to be 'cute' or 'classy?' Why do we need to dress like the women of the world?' I cant agree with the original poster in this. The only people who I want to please and dress for are God and my husband.
I am not interesetd in getting attention or looking  like the women of the world with clothes that arent appropriate, loads of make up etc. Arent Christian women supposed to concentrate on their inside? Arenht we supposed to be different from those in the world?

I dress casually, and always wear clean and presentable clothes. I dont dress to impress other men or women. if I did that would be wrong. Why do I need their attention? Why am I trying to impress them? What will this achieve?

Truly, chosenone, you are a most beautiful women.  The scriptures say so "For os such the women of old adorned themslevs..."

Preach it, girl!!!   

Thanks son of God (but I'm still not going to wear a hat to church)

[JohnDB]

So why do we have to dress to be 'cute' or 'classy?' Why do we need to dress like the women of the world?' I cant agree with the original poster in this. The only people who I want to please and dress for are God and my husband.
I am not interesetd in getting attention or looking  like the women of the world with clothes that arent appropriate, loads of make up etc. Arent Christian women supposed to concentrate on their inside? Arenht we supposed to be different from those in the world?

I dress casually, and always wear clean and presentable clothes. I dont dress to impress other men or women. if I did that would be wrong. Why do I need their attention? Why am I trying to impress them? What will this achieve?

Truly, chosenone, you are a most beautiful women.  The scriptures say so "For os such the women of old adorned themslevs..."

Preach it, girl!!!   

Thanks son of God (but I'm still not going to wear a hat to church)

Not even to a Red Hat society meeting?
Or Purple hat society meeting?

Or even on Easter Sunday?

thats a shame...

[Corbley]

So why do we have to dress to be 'cute' or 'classy?' Why do we need to dress like the women of the world?' I cant agree with the original poster in this. The only people who I want to please and dress for are God and my husband.
I am not interesetd in getting attention or looking  like the women of the world with clothes that arent appropriate, loads of make up etc. Arent Christian women supposed to concentrate on their inside? Arenht we supposed to be different from those in the world?

I dress casually, and always wear clean and presentable clothes. I dont dress to impress other men or women. if I did that would be wrong. Why do I need their attention? Why am I trying to impress them? What will this achieve?

Truly, chosenone, you are a most beautiful women.  The scriptures say so "For os such the women of old adorned themslevs..."

Preach it, girl!!!   

Thanks son of God (but I'm still not going to wear a hat to church)

Not even to a Red Hat society meeting?
Or Purple hat society meeting?

Or even on Easter Sunday?

thats a shame...

Why is it a shame?

[chosenone]

So why do we have to dress to be 'cute' or 'classy?' Why do we need to dress like the women of the world?' I cant agree with the original poster in this. The only people who I want to please and dress for are God and my husband.
I am not interesetd in getting attention or looking  like the women of the world with clothes that arent appropriate, loads of make up etc. Arent Christian women supposed to concentrate on their inside? Arenht we supposed to be different from those in the world?

I dress casually, and always wear clean and presentable clothes. I dont dress to impress other men or women. if I did that would be wrong. Why do I need their attention? Why am I trying to impress them? What will this achieve?

Truly, chosenone, you are a most beautiful women.  The scriptures say so "For os such the women of old adorned themslevs..."

Preach it, girl!!!  

Thanks son of God (but I'm still not going to wear a hat to church)

Not even to a Red Hat society meeting?
Or Purple hat society meeting?

Or even on Easter Sunday?

thats a shame...

JB
so what is a red hat or purple hat society meeting? Sorry I am from the UK and dont understand such things.

I have even told my children that I will NOT be wearing a hat to their weddings, contrary to tradition. THATS how much I hate hats. My son is getting engaged soon and he has said that I can wear what I like to his wedding. He isnt bothered either way (bless him).
(Besides that hats squash your hair). Most people look silly in hats and I am not going to join them.

[chosenone]

So why do we have to dress to be 'cute' or 'classy?' Why do we need to dress like the women of the world?' I cant agree with the original poster in this. The only people who I want to please and dress for are God and my husband.
I am not interesetd in getting attention or looking  like the women of the world with clothes that arent appropriate, loads of make up etc. Arent Christian women supposed to concentrate on their inside? Arenht we supposed to be different from those in the world?

I dress casually, and always wear clean and presentable clothes. I dont dress to impress other men or women. if I did that would be wrong. Why do I need their attention? Why am I trying to impress them? What will this achieve?

Truly, chosenone, you are a most beautiful women.  The scriptures say so "For os such the women of old adorned themslevs..."

Preach it, girl!!!   

Thanks son of God (but I'm still not going to wear a hat to church)

Not even to a Red Hat society meeting?
Or Purple hat society meeting?

Or even on Easter Sunday?

thats a shame...

Why is it a shame?

I think he is joking...

[lightshineon]

 Well since we live in the nasty, now and now, I think I will dress nicely. I actually have excellent taste ( and humility LOL). My husband likes it when I look nice, and that is OK. I do not care if one is a janitor or attorney, dress neat, clean, smell good. I have had people ( seriously) who have chased me down in the cracker barrel, walmart, church and ask why I smelled so good, many times. SS school kids have said, Mrs Rhonda, what do you take a bath in you smell good. Have good breath, clean teeth, and brushed hair. I like makeup, and so does my husband. He does not want me in my pajama pants all day ( he hates it), I kind of like it, but how tacky, but comfy. It helps ones self worth to be neat, clean, and look nice. Like God hates that?

[chosenone]

Well since we live in the nasty, now and now, I think I will dress nicely. I actually have excellent taste ( and humility LOL). My husband likes it when I look nice, and that is OK. I do not care if one is a janitor or attorney, dress neat, clean, smell good. I have had people ( seriously) who have chased me down in the cracker barrel, walmart, church and ask why I smelled so good, many times. SS school kids have said, Mrs Rhonda, what do you take a bath in you smell good. Have good breath, clean teeth, and brushed hair. I like makeup, and so does my husband. He does not want me in my pajama pants all day ( he hates it), I kind of like it, but how tacky, but comfy. It helps ones self worth to be neat, clean, and look nice. Like God hates that?

yes neat clean and look nice is good. That is what I follow, but that doesnt mean that I want to dress like women in the world, or that I have to look cute or classy. The main thing for me is to dress modestly. I hate it when I see Christian women with low cut tops very short skirts etc.
I dont wear make up but that is just me, I dont see the point when God has made me like this why do I need to change things? I think that Christian women in the USA wear far more make up than we do here, so maybe it is a cultural thing. None of my friends wear it.

[kensington]

All women should wear burqas.  Then we wouldn't worry about who is wearing what.

No.. then you get into the colored burkas.. the fancy ones with jewels and what not...  jealousy abounds and it's a mess. 

[kensington]

The Red Hat Society (RHS) is a social organization founded in 1998 for women approaching the age of 50 and beyond. As of July 2009, there are nearly 40,000 registered members and almost 24,000 chapters in the United States and 25 other countries. The Red Hat Society is the largest women's social group in the world. (wiki)

When I am an old woman I shall wear purple
With a red hat which doesn't go, and doesn't suit me.
And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
And satin sandals, and say we've no money
for butter.
I shall sit down on the pavement when I'm tired
And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells
And run my stick along the public railings
And make up for the sobriety of my youth.
I shall go out in my slippers in the rain
And pick flowers in other people's gardens
And learn to spit.

You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat
And eat three pounds of sausages at a go
Or only bread and pickle for a week
And hoard pens and pencils and beermats and things in boxes.

But now we must have clothes that keep us dry
And pay our rent and not swear in the street
And set a good example for the children.
We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.

But maybe I ought to practice a little now?
So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised
When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple.

Jenny Joseph

[JohnDB]

Thank you Kensington!

Red hats and Purple hats are just fun for ladies...fun organizations and groups that usually start in Churchs.

Easter hats are from an old tradition where people used to get new outfits on easter to go to church in. This was the one sunday of the year when the ladies would all dress up really nice in a new outfit, guys in a new tie, new shoes, shirt, and pants. The ladies would also adorn new fancy hats.

More lately most of the elderly ladies have gone to just new fancy hats for easter services...it is a tradition that is mostly lost these days as the culture of church being the cultural center in this country has been pretty much lost. I don't believe it was ever a Canadian tradition.

[lightshineon]

 Hi, chosen one, I am sure you look great with or with out make up. I do not paint up like a clown, but wear it discreetly, with lipstick (LOL). My husband actually likes me to wear classy clothes. he likes it when I wear in the winter, a brown skirt, sweater, light brown boots ( stuff like that).  I like jewelry, I never buy expensive, my aunties, have went to be with Jesus, and left me a small fortune in it. I like my costume jewels just as much. I myself would love to hang around in PJ's, my husband hates that. (LOL)

[kensington]

Thank you Kensington!

Red hats and Purple hats are just fun for ladies...fun organizations and groups that usually start in Churchs.

Easter hats are from an old tradition where people used to get new outfits on easter to go to church in. This was the one sunday of the year when the ladies would all dress up really nice in a new outfit, guys in a new tie, new shoes, shirt, and pants. The ladies would also adorn new fancy hats.

More lately most of the elderly ladies have gone to just new fancy hats for easter services...it is a tradition that is mostly lost these days as the culture of church being the cultural center in this country has been pretty much lost. I don't believe it was ever a Canadian tradition.

There are places that still actually have the "Easter Parade"... where everyone comes out in their Easter finery and walk up the boardwalk on Easter morning. 

[chosenone]

Thanks for that kensington. Even if I lived there, and remembering that I am 53 now, I WOULDNT be joining cos there is no way I am going to wear a red or purple hat. What do they do then at these groups?

[JohnDB]

Thanks for that kensington. Even if I lived there, and remembering that I am 53 now, I WOULDNT be joining cos there is no way I am going to wear a red or purple hat. What do they do then at these groups?

My mother is in one of these groups. They do different charity work such as planting flowers in various planters (with permission of course) for public enjoyment and they have social meetings...sometimes providing lunches for various group meetings. All of it is lighthearted and fun stuff...

[BAH-BLAH]

Thanks for that kensington. Even if I lived there, and remembering that I am 53 now, I WOULDNT be joining cos there is no way I am going to wear a red or purple hat. What do they do then at these groups?

My mother is in one of these groups. They do different charity work such as planting flowers in various planters (with permission of course) for public enjoyment and they have social meetings...sometimes providing lunches for various group meetings. All of it is lighthearted and fun stuff...

WITH PERMISSION!

What fun is that.

I want rogue strage hat ladies planting things unauthorized....in the dark of night, lit by flip phones.

[farouk]

Ms janine:

I'm not sure they had stiletto heels in those days, in any case...

Anyway, the Lord looks on the heart.

Take care.

... not her 10-inch stiletto heels. ...

[Hot Ice]

I take GREAT pleasure in praising the women of the church who do a great job in cultivating the beauty that Proverbs, Esther, and the gospels talk about, while presenting their physical beauty in a way that doesn't hypocritically send just the opposite message.