Ma'am I understand where you are at quite well. While I don't personally deal with Asperger's Syndrome (IE a form of developmental autism for those unaware,) I am quite familiar with it; due to proximity with several who were born with the genetic "situation." I would refer you to Paul's exhortation in Romans 7:1-22 where he recounts his personal struggle with specific sin(s). The things he didn't want to do, he kept repeating; those things he did want to do he could not manage. It was a thorn in his side even in the peak of his spiritual maturity, and existed until his last days on earth. We do well to note that while we live on this rock, we are going to have two natures to deal with: the nature of the flesh,(IE, tendency towards temptation, sin, indulgence, etc.) and the nature of the Spirit,(IE, tendency towards sanctification, holiness, obedience, etc.)
What is critical is not necessarily perfect adherence, as we are no longer under the "letter of the law," but under the "law of grace by faith in Jesus." If in your heart you recognize these things as sin, and in your heart truly wish to be rid of them,(like Paul,) then it is not unrepentant or conscious sin; but simply the nature of the flesh doing as it was bound to do given it's very nature. (THIS IS NOT AN ENDORSEMENT OF SIN, OR LICENSE TO SIN MIND YOU!) This is merely a redirection of perspective that sin falls under the blood once it is an unwilling sin done in human weakness and not an intentional sin done purposely with knowledge of what it is.
I would advise a few things: 1) Don't condemn yourself or feel too guilty for things outside your control. It is the intention of the heart that is critical in this matter; not perfect obedience
2) Don't allow the enemy to dictate your self-value or reaction; while you may not be able to dictate certain details, you do have a measure of control as to how you respond and perceive such things.
3) I am including a link to a video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YN9fcRrgHTk
, "In Spite of Sin...Let Him in!" I think it may give you a deeper perspective on these matters and i pray God will grant some peace in your life through it.
If you need any further counsel, feel free to post reply, use a PM or even my personal email in order to 'not air," what may be a delicate and personal matter in a public arena. Thanks n God Bless!