sounds like you have run into a leadership or and older widowed woman that likes to criticize. (at least those two groups are the ones I have had struggles with.) Please remember that the problems that occur in churches are people problem and you even have people problems shaking french fries at Burger King. I pray that God will show you how effective that you can be in His Kingdom and that you will be able to worship with a family that loves God and His truth the way that you do.
I agree God’s way is best, But did you think that your response was too simple for the problem at hand? Sometimes we come across more terse than we intended.