Generally on this topic...
Two days ago, a lady-friend and I visited two area churches. One is her "regular" church -- a Christian Assembly
-- but she's not entirely satisfied. The other is a campus of this local church
. These visits prompted me to post the following on Facebook:
I am happy to "visit" various churches. As far as "belonging" to a church, I'm pretty hard to satisfy.
-- I want a generous helping of the generally Psa. 149-150 style of music that characterized the churches and fellowships I attended in my "formative" years ('80s to early '90s).
-- I'm Pentecostal/Charismatic, so I want 1 Cor. 12-14; Rom. 12:6-8; Eph. 4:11-12; Eph. 5:18-19 to be at least recognizable in most services.
I just can't feel "at home" in the absence of those above elements.
-- I'm long past being willing to tolerate "Name it and Claim it" or "Prosperity Gospel" foolishness.
-- I'm only slightly more willing to tolerate hard-core "holy roller" stuff, especially getting "drunk in the Spirit."
-- I won't tolerate a church that has a list (official or otherwise) of "holiness" standards that effectively becomes a modern version of a Torah.
Related to that, I won't tolerate a church that de facto teaches, "Saved by grace, kept (or perfected) by works."
Those are perilously close to the false gospel that Paul anathematized and described as being "severed from Christ" in Galatians.
-- I won't be part of a church that discourages women from leadership positions, including head pastoral ministries.
Needless to say, it's difficult to find a church that meets my stringent standards. And the process of looking for one is complicated by my... metabolism, or whatever. It typically takes anywhere from 2 to 6 hours, sometimes more, from the start of my day for me to feel alert and coordinated enough to drive. Anyway, that's a peripheral issue.
I'm not sure how well that went over on Facebook. Most of my family belongs to a little local Lutheran church of the largest and most liberal branch. This is a very "Catholic" area, so a chunk of my Friends list is in that camp. Many of my closest friends are Pentecostals, but of the sort that are much more open to the "Name it and Claim it" and "drunk in the Spirit" stuff.
I do know that I was not flooded with "Hey, you should try THIS church" replies.
At those two churches we visited, I found the music notably disappointing. It seemed bland and rather shallow. At both churches, the lyrics seemed to focus on God's goodness and love toward "us," almost to the exclusion of His inherent greatness. Both are good ("Amazing Grace" is, after all, pretty "us-focused"), but my preference is for more balance.