(BY THE WAY : IF YOUR HERE TO HAVE A DIFFERENCE OF OPINION ABOUT SPANKING, GO AWAY. I parent my kids the way that I see fit based on what the bible says. You raise your kids your way, I will raise them my way. Now If your a christian parent who wants to help me then thank you :) )
I'm sorry, I don't mean to be rude or harsh, but this makes no sense whatsoever. You come here with this post asking about the appropriate way of spanking, claiming the Biblical mandate to spank, but not wanting to be abusive only disciplinary, then asking others what is the appropriate way of spanking??
Well, if you tell people to "go away" who don't believe in spanking because of the Bible, why bother asking people here about what is appopriate spanking? Just go to your same Bible and find out the answer. Here, I'll help you. You can thank me later:Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him (Proverbs 22:15
Oh, I know what some of you are going to say. In fact, what some of you have already said by way of contortion and manipulation. That the "rod" is not an implement to beat children with, but rather the interpretation of general discipline and correction. Well, what a load of crap. Is the "rod" a beating instrument? You be the judge on this next proverb:Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell (Proverbs 23:13-14).
"Thou shalt beat him with the rod" doesn't sound like mere general correction and guidance to me.
Now that we've established that, how much is appropriate spanking? Considering you believe in it as it's in the Bible and wish for non spanking believers to go away? Well, go back to your Bible then:The blueness of a wound cleanseth away evil: so do stripes the inward parts of the belly (Proverbs 20:30).
Is that clear enough for you? "Wounds" and "stripes" and "blueness". In other words, the Bible says to beat children with a literal implement until welts are formed.
Like I said, no need to thank me.